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Chap, I agree, maybe this coworker is just trying to keep up the relationship that you once had. Relating to you the only way he knows how, with food. If you enjoy his company could could go out and have soup or something like that. Good luck to you!

I was feeling the same. I'm a little over a month out. I read a book about gastric sleeve and adjusted my meals. I agree with determined. When I was feeling sick after eating it generally was because I ate too much. Plus, I let some carbs creep in. The book said to concentrate on protein and produce so that is what I do (of course I know about protein but I was still trying to have a meal and I just don't have room so now I limit it to my protein and if there is room, produce). My meals are not exciting but I haven't felts sick lately. I might have a hard boiled egg for lunch and that feels good in my sleeve. Now I try to keep my meals about that size and I've had not more trouble. I think we just need time to feel things out. Try to keep your meals smaller and you might feel better too. Good luck! I know it is horrible to feel that way! One other trick, My nut said that it helps to have pineapple tidbits with protein. The acid helps break it down. It does seem to work!

Moregan, Isn't it telling that we cannot take a complement at any weight! It's as though we cannot be comfortable in our skin period. I think that your fiance was very sweet last night. Take him at his word and trust that he is being honest with you. And, for all of us dealing with weight issues, please don't hate that girl that was once you. That person was just as worthy of his love as you are at your new weight. She is, and was, you! I am preop and it hurts me to see so many people talk badly about "that person" they were before weight loss. I hope that I can still embrace that women because she was brave. She was willing to sign up for this surgery even though it was scary. When she leaves the house she does so with her head high, even if there is pointing or snickers. When you feel unsure of yourself get in touch with that women because she has learned to look for other ways of coping. Some of them were not good (food) but she didn't quit! Good luck to you!

Hi Nancers I am starting too. I passed my Psych Eval and go to my seminar tomorrow morning. I am so excited! I can't wait to get a move on already. Like Tracy I am hoping to be sleeved in December. Dee

Juny, I'm preop too. I feel so out of control right now as I wait, and wait, and wait.... I could have totally eaten that batch of brownies! I think it is stress and worry that makes me do this. I'm sure it is very normal. I have not started my preop diet yet. Have you? Dee:)

Great topic! I do worry more about the skin at this point. I don't like the thought of deflated breasts either. I was always rather happy with the girls! I've seen some videos on You Tube and the skin is most bothersome. If it was just me and I could wear some spanks and not care about sex all of that it might not be so bad. But I like sex and I don't want to trade in one body I'm not happy with for another I'm only happy with in clothes. Oh well. I would still rather live a productive and happy long life! I can have more surgery if it really bothers me. My hubby is awesome. He has NEVER ever pressured me or made me feel bad about my weight. He is very easy for me to be with that way. Part of me very much looks forward to rocking the sleeve with him (wink wink). But I admit another part of me is scared of his reaction to me. I imagine he will be accepting of my new body but he, too, mentioned that he was not excited about extra skin. This journey is not only life changing for us but for our loved ones. Luckily it seems like we have some pretty good husbands!

Vanessa, You are not a failure! This is real life and it does not always go as planned. I'm sure that everyone will fall off the wagon at some time. You have done the best thing possible and that is realize the problem and take steps to correct it. I would just go back to the basics. Take time for you and get back to the gym if possible. Best of luck! I'm sure you will be back in the saddle soon!

Well I did pass my eval! Yay me. On the 23 of October I will go to my group consult and I hope that I learn a lot more about my path toward VSG. I wish I didn't have to go to Detroit but at least the hospital was easy to get to and seemed nice once I did get there. Should be fine. Today I talked a lot to my social worker about the surgery. She seems excited for me. We talked about how I was a bit worried about how this huge change will affect my relationships. I worry about my relationship with my husband. He and I worked well for so long because he made no demands of me. He didn't seem to care if I was heavy. He didn't judge or try to police my food. I appreciate all of that. Unfortunately I will not always be able to accept this kind of relationship. I want some depth. I want to be able to talk about things and have real interactions. I just don't see it happening. We are roomies that happen to have fair sex now and then. And, we have two wonderful kids. But, that worry is for another day. Now I work on me. Getting surgery is first on the list and I hope that everything else will fall into place. I can't wait to go dancing! Win some more karaoke contests! And, most of all get my ass on a horse!

There is so much back and forth about this sleeve stretching thing. I hope I can just stick to my docs orders and not take the risk.

Hi Tink, You are singing my song! I have been overweight as long as I can remember. In grades school I was teased for being heaver than the other kids. I was chunky but looking back I was not really fat then. I took a beating verbally from the other kids and my self esteem plummeted. To compensate for my feelings of loneliness and inadequacy I turned to food. It has been there ever since! I have tried to do wls about 3 years ago I guess. I failed the Psych eval and was diagnosed with depression. If you think you are untreated and seriously depressed you do need to deal with this now. I thought that the doctor evaluating me was nuts! no one that ever met me would EVER know I had depression. I am the first to smile at you. I generally appear happy and seem to enjoy socializing and talking with people. But, that is the surface. In reality I did not get to know anyone very deeply. I just let people talk and I listened. Generally I didn't have to say a thing! It worked well for me at work but outside of work I was existing with ice cream, cookies and fast food as friends. I let my friends lose contact with me. I didn't go out. I stopped caring about my house and could not seem to get the energy to do anything I needed to do. I was in trouble. Because of my failed Psych eval I went to see a social worker thinking I could get this dx reversed. Nope, she agreed and over time I see that this failed eval was a blessing. In the perfect world I would have been under tx for depression and lost the weight myself. I wish! I have a long way to go. Your post was timely, Tink. I have my Psych eval tomorrow for the sleeve. I am scared out of my mind I will not pass again. I cannot take yo yoing. It does not help my depression to NEVER succeed at long term weight loss! I need this tool to help me manage both my health and my depression. I know it is not a magic bullet. I think of it as tool that will help me stay on course. I have been under treatment for my depression about three years now I guess. I have learned a lot about myself during this time and I am trying to be positive and I am very excited about the possibility of having this surgery. I really hope my insurance will approve me this time but if it does not I will do it myself. Best of luck to you, Tink. Please let me know how things go for you. Dee

Hope things are going better for you Elle. I know what you mean about working in an environment of landmines. Do keep taking care of yourself by taking time for yourself! We ladies are really good at taking care of everyone else.

Hi All. I'm in the same situation. I have my Psych eval this Friday and God knows what next. They said that it may take up to two weeks to get the results. Once the results are in the nurse managing my case will call with further instructions. CBD I too have time off of work around the holidays and I hope I can get surgery during that time. It does see that for most people this is a 3-4 month process. Best of luck to you all! Dee

Me too! My eval is this Friday. I'm nervous about it. I tried this all before years ago and I was actually diagnosed with depression. I failed the eval and was not approved for wls. I have been treated since then. I think it really was a blessing as I feel so much better emotionally. Plus, the sleeve really was not popular then and it seems the best choice for me. I really need this surgery in order to get on with my life. It is so difficult to manage the depression when I cannot get this weight off. All the yo yo dieting. Working, fighting and trying again and again with no long term success. I know it is not a fix all but I do need this tool in order to manage my weight. Very excited! Good luck to you! Dee

Hello TMorgan. I agree, time to see your doc. I have depression and have experienced exactly what you are speaking of. I also have times before my period when I am not myself. Perhaps you should talk to your doctor about this? Good luck to you! I know that some docs prescribe antidepressants for just that time of the month. Maybe that would help you. Check this out. http://women.webmd.c.../depression-pms

You do look wonderful! You go girl! What about "You have SUCH a pretty face!" Well thank you very much. I hate that too. You bring up an important fact that this life change not only changes our lives but our friends and family too. Not sure how my hubby will react to it. I hope that he pokes me in the ribs (gently) too!