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I had the same thing happen where I was "outed" to a stranger (waitress) by a friend. I just gently remind them that it's my story to tell and I get to choose where and when. She probably is proud, and/or not really thinking. I think jealousy can be an issue, too. I've been really lucky with my friends...they all seem genuinely happy for me, but I also rarely even talk about my weight loss or other issues...good or bad. I'm just trying to be as "normal" as possible out in the world. I can still remember, though, going out dancing with a friend (back in the olden days) and there was a hot guy who would not leave me alone. She seemed pretty pissy about it, and on the way home said, "I guess he just likes BIGGER girls." That was definitely not something a friend would say. I could have gone on and on that maybe he liked girls who were pretty, nice, had a great personality...etc., but the truth is, heavy or skinny, we all have our insecurity demons...and I'd much rather have mine than somebody else's!

I am so happy you're here and your date is coming up so quickly! I was sleeved 9/14 and already feel like it's the best decision I could have made for me (down 30 lbs.). I feel like I can look forward to being an active grandma now (in 10-20 years lol, my oldest is only 15) instead of watching from the sidelines like my mom with her bad knees, ruined feet, and terrible arthritis.

That is really cute!! Love the cut and the smile.

My pre-op diet is to eat healthy, three meals a day, cut down sugar and caffeine. Liquids only 3 days prior to surgery.

Good luck, can't wait to hear how it goes!

You look so cool...I love the shirt. I can't wait to be able to wear stuff like that without feeling like a sausage. Don't think of it as bragging, think of it as inspiration to those of us who are waiting. I LOVE to see pictures!

Amazing...you look super happy, too!

So glad your husband is supportive of you in this endeavor. My husband and I had a very similar talk. He felt bad because I have helped him in so many ways and he feels helpless to help me with my issues. Having that support behind you...it's priceless. You tell who you want to tell and in your own time. The great thing about this board is that you get to read a lot of different experiences. My surgery date is 9/15, so we'll be pretty close together!

I am really sorry about your experience. Will you update us if there is any response? I'm due to be sleeved by Dr. Kelly in September, but this is not very encouraging. When you get a chance, could you PM me with the details. I hope that you are doing well with your sleeve.

So cool...love seeing the ribs, too. I wonder what mine look like. How exciting! It's like unwrapping a gift. Many congrats on the weight loss and getting fit and healthy with your family!

Great idea...I can't wait to get to that point.

That is an awesome story. I am the same way with my hubby...we have been married almost 17 years.

I have only told my husband and one friend. I went through the process before (and was very open about it), got denied, and really had a tough time after that. This time I'd like to keep it to myself until I'm through with the process and on my way. Another reason I'm not telling anyone is because I'm going to Mexico to have it done, so I don't want to deal with all of the feedback and opinions regarding that. I agree with the other posters that you have to decide who you feel comfortable telling. I'm sure when I get back, I'll want to talk to people about it because they'll obviously notice.

You are lucky with no gas! I'm still pre-op, so I have no idea about getting up and down, but when I had abdominal surgery before I just had to sort of "roll" myself off the bed to the standing position. Good luck, maybe it will get easier soon!

Wow, you look awesome...and sassy!! I feel that miserable, too. Really looking forward to my 9/15 surgery date. Thanks for the inspiration to keep going.

Amazing transformation!

I was recently at an amusement park where they have a seat outside each ride so larger riders can make sure they fit without wasting time in line. My son wanted me to go on a roller-coaster with him, so I thought I had better check before we wasted our time in line. As I was walking up to a seat, a couple pushed in front of me with what appeared to be 8 children and they all proceeded to get into and play on the seat (as if it was the ride...lol) while we waited...and waited. I was a little miffed to say the least, but I didn't say anything (well, a little under my breath to my son...and some angry glares). But then I realized that I wasn't really angry with them. I was grateful that the park had that opportunity to check it out beforehand, and I also told myself...this is potentially the last time you're ever going to have to do this...and that made me feel so much better. I can't wait to not worry about these little things anymore.

Yes, it is easier for me, although I do appreciate the advice and I know all about the MTF route as opposed to Tricare. I live in Illinois and there are no MTF's that I know of within driving distance that either do VSG or would allow me to drive for treatment. I was treated very rudely when I did call one MTF that was within 4 hours because I heard they were doing VSG. I was told they wouldn't treat me because I was too far away and that they had stopped doing VSG anyway. I am to the point where I know I qualify (39 BMI and hypertension), I've been through all of the testing (spent $800 of my own money because Tricare wouldn't pay), and then my surgeon's office submitted my weight AFTER I lost the weight they wanted when I told them that I wouldn't qualify with that weight (for a lap-band I didn't want anyway). I can fly to San Diego, get picked up and driven to Tijuana, get the surgery and be home in 5 days...no appointments, no support groups, no calling rude people at MTFs. Don't get me wrong, I am thrilled to know that some MTFs are doing the VSG, but it doesn't help people who don't live close enough and it kind of sucks that it's not an across-the-board decision. I'm pretty excited about my decision because I know this is going to happen. I have my date, I have cash in hand, and I'm ready to go!

I am the 15th in TJ with Dr. Kelly...getting so excited.

So cool that you were able to just go home and that you are close by for follow-ups. I am not looking forward to the plane trip home after surgery. Please keep us updated!

So great to hear it all went well. I'm scheduled with Kelly for 9/15. Can hardly wait!! Best wishes to you.

I have my passport but my husband does not. He's military...so I'm pretty sure they'll let him back in the country with his military ID, birth certificate, and driver's license. Too late to worry about it now!

I cut and pasted what they sent me into a PM for you. I hope it helps. It's not a very specific list, which I would have liked.

I told a lot of people the first time I went and did not end up getting the surgery (insurance denied), so I felt like a fool. My husband told the people at work (two skinny b*****s included) stating, "I had to, because I had to get the time off." Ummm...no, you did not have to tell them, thanks for invading my privacy. Anyway, that really ticked me off, so I swore him to secrecy on this one. I will have no problem telling anyone after it's done, but I want the actual event to be private and I don't want anyone telling me horror stories about a friend of a friend or surgery in Mexico, etc. I'm not telling my mom and dad. She's a nurse, and I think she'd worry too much. I just don't want to deal with everyone else's opinions or ideas. This one's for me! I totally support your decision!