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I copied this from a post on another forum and agree totally with what the poster says. Every one is entitled to have opinions, and I am not trying to sway anyone one way or another. This is just how I feel.
It is a pretty long post.
Some other options to flashing a card:
1) Order just Protein A La carte (a half rack of ribs, just a chicken breast)
2) Order a Soup or appetizer
3) Ask for a to-go box when you meal is dropped off, scoop off what you know you won't eat, and make 3 more meals out of that entree with sides
4) Buffets, Pay by the pound, you get a little to go box, get what you want, pay for it, and enjoy your food with your family without paying full price

I bookmarked this from a previous topic on this subject because it sums up why I wouldn't ever use a card to let strangers know that I had my guts altered so I wouldn't be a fatty anymore.

[Latest Posts]Post Date: 10/13/09 1:03 pm

A “Restaurant Card” is a business cards sized card, often laminated, usually given by surgeons reading something to the effect of: The holder of this card has had a surgical procedure which has permanently reduced their stomach capacity. Therefore… It is greatly appreciated if you would allow them to order from the children’s menu or to purchase half-sized adult Entrees. Thank you for your consideration.

1. WLS Restaurant Cards differ from REAL Discount Cards such as AAA, Entertainment Book, etc. in one very important aspect: The REAL discounts are negotiated and agreed to by all parties in advance. The restaurant staff is briefed on how to handle the card. It is PRESUMPTUOUS to create and distribute a card asking/demanding a discount.

2. Restaurants are put into a losing position to start. If they say “no” to the card, which they had no part in creating or marketting, they are already making the customer unhappy. How is this fair even putting them in that position? Were I a restaurant owner, I would resent this card about as much as someone demanding a discount because they are a VIP (Very Important Person).

3. I had surgery. It was my choice to have my stomach modified so that I could only eat 3-5 ounces of food at a sitting. There are many people that have not had surgery that CHOOSE to eat 3-5 ounces of food at a sitting (imagine that!). I do not deserve a discount, or a special menu, any more than they do.

4. “I eat less than most children; I should pay what they pay”. Children’s prices are a marketing tactic to get parents to bring their kids (and themselves) to a restaurant. Children’s menu’s are not because children eat so little. Children’s menus are designed for children’s tastes. Bland and greasy.

5. Seniors Menus are also a marketing tactic to get seniors to come to the restaurant. If you’re not a senior, you don’t DESERVE a discount because you eat less than a senior. Many restaurants offer a ‘For Smaller Appetites’ Menu, this you may qualify for.

6. I don’t want the hostess, waitress, people behind me or near by, the busboy, or anyone else to know my medical history. It is none of their business, and I should not be making it their business simply to get a discount.

7. Buffets are “All you can eat for…” If all you can eat is 3-5 ounces, the price is the same as when you ate 30-50 ounces or 300-500 ounces. When you could eat 2, 3, or 4 times what the average person could eat, did you ask to pay more? Of course not. To remain morally consistent, you cannot ask to pay less now.

8. “I didn’t choose the buffet, my family did… Why should I pay when I only eat 3-5 ounces.” See #7. Further, you are there to be with your family or friends. Eating out now is even more about the company you keep rather that getting the most food for the least price. Actually, it should always have been about the company.

9. “I didn’t choose the buffet, my family did…” So, before WLS, did you pay less when you wanted Mexican food, but your family outvoted you and you ended up with Chinese? No, you went along to keep peace, to enjoy the company. Whatever your reasons were then, they’re the same now.

10. “I can’t eat all that, I can’t take leftovers home, I don’t want to waste it.” Waste it. Leaving leftovers is not the end of the world. In spite of what your mama said, leaving food on your plate is not a sin, and it will not help starving children in China for you to clean your plate now. You are not obliged to clean your plate. IN FACT, restaurants try to serve enough to satisfy large appetites and they expect people NOT to eat it all. They have trash cans out back for all the left over food.

11. Do you demand a discount at convenience store on a bag of potato chips because you can’t eat the whole bag, and a lot will go to waste? Why not, it’s the SAME THING.

12. dinner at Chili’s cost $15 before WLS, and you left satisfied. Post-op, the same dinner costs $15 and you leave satisfied. The only difference is you leave food on the plate rather than nose marks. Often, rather than ordering a $15 dinner, you can order $10 appetizer, and you are ahead of the game.

13. "Restaurants should be considerate of WLS Patients." Restaurants should be considerate of EVERYONE. There are many groups of adults that eat less than 'normal', yet they do not expect discounts. Obviously, or perhaps not so obviously, these arguments presume that people have integrity and that they desire their actions and opinions to be rational, supportable, and consistent. There are those that will do whatever is necessary to get a discount, which these arguments will not dissuade from this course.

My surgeon gave me one of these; it looks a little different, but it's essentially the same thing. I thought it would be great to have one, but now that I have one, I don't use it. For one, I prefer to keep it on the down low. The waitress doesn't need to know the details of my life. Second, I feel a little guilty asking for a discount. Yeah, I can't eat much now, but there's leftovers, and it wasn't like I offered to pay the restaurant more when I could eat three times what the other customers could. Just my opinion.

I just have to say something I made this post 6 days out and three days home from surgery I was cranky and just moody I ended up breaking down later that night in the shower and things have been fine since. This is a women's room I figured most women would understand the need to vent emotionally only driven thoughts and frustrations my guy is wonderfully carrying and a great friend and parent to my son. He looks after us and has been cooking what ever I want and helping me a lot but in his own time with the dishes still.... Can't win them all lol

Vance this is women's section so I felt free to voice my frustration with other women all who understand it is about my so and need to let out stream when I am upset no one would think it fits all men. I put this in the women's area and not public or a reason women need to talk. I am seven days out and was breaking down last night they understand that don't take it personal.

Im a stomach sleeper- It took me 5 days to sleep in a bed on my back and 10 before I could "gingerly" sleep on my stomach.
I will be honest- the huge issue was not the pressure on my tummy- but the belly would hang and swing while I was getting in the laying down position and would pull the muscle incisions (under the skin) and the dermis incisions (visible ones). I even tried using a Flexees waist cincher so I wouldn't have the pulling- but it didn't help- gravity had other plans
I was freaked out that I would never be able to stomach sleep again- but I'm more comfortable now than ever.

I don't think it's so much the act of frying as the high calorie oils that normally accompany it. Scrambled with some Pam I would think would be fine!

Thanks for all the advice.. i ended up taking them off.. because i had the glue on the stitches too.. it had leaked out some pus but it wasn't green.. i had my husband clean out my wound and put some neosporin on it.. then we put band-aids.. guess what this morning it's not so red and that pain has diminished like 90% it feels soooooooo much better.. i think my skin didn't like having that steristrip tape on it... thanks for your advice ... love feeling better!!
Holly

I think frozen yogurt is ok as long as you are on full liquids, as it melts down to liquid as soon as you consume it. Get a non fat version if possible and pass on the toppings.

I'm 5 weeks out and living on seafood. Shrimp every single day. I also eat crab legs, imitation crab meat, all kinds of fish, and today I had a crab cake. It all goes down and stays down super easy.
All I like now is seafood and super spicy foods. Weird taste changes.

O my gosh girl I hear u I'm 6 days post op and I'd kill for a tuna sald sand which or a chicken taco with gaucamole lol I've never had cravings like this and after I'm done with this liquid diet I will never agian want to eat yogurt or shakes ever agian lol

Vance this is women's section so I felt free to voice my frustration with other women all who understand it is about my so and need to let out stream when I am upset no one would think it fits all men. I put this in the women's area and not public or a reason women need to talk. I am seven days out and was breaking down last night they understand that don't take it personal.

My best guy friend/housemate of four years and I love food and cooking the goal is always try something new and find what we can get at out taste better and is more fun and saves money o cook at home. Best part is our new challenge is to make all that stuff but in a new way so I can enjoy it as well and what I don't eat he will finish if we do go out, we love sharing off each others plates in my family which is what ill do from now on with him my kid and family.

I can't sleep it is three am April 23 is my date but every minute between now and then is booked. I am nervous about stupid stuff like pain and squishy body after I wish I could sleep but all i can do is lay here listening to him snore and wonder if the last year of work I was crazy and now I am sane this is stupid I told my self last month if I made it this far I wouldn't let nervous get the best of me I have spent a year jumping for my insurance company I know it's last minute jitters but if I can't sleep Thursday what will I do on Sunday night