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Monique Salmond changed their profile photo
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Pain, Hurts So Much So Deep
I am a little conflicted right now. Lets start with stats. Started out at 252 lbs on January 18 2012. And as of June 9 2012 I am 194. went from a womens 20/22 to a 12/13, 3XL to a L. I kick a$$ in the gym and own it EVERY time. I am doing great as far as restriction. MY PROBLEM? My marriage. At first sex was great I was feeling sexy I was a lioness and happy and feeling so close to my husband. NOW, I am so sad. sad it hurts. I cry. I feel alone. I AM ALONE! Im never happy and nothing is EVER good enough. I clean with no direction or accomplishment. I am always cleaning and moving and organizing but my house is a dump. I get over whelmed and end up barking at every one. I feel I have no support. I usually am ok when I focus on other things like the kids and the gym. But the moment I start cleaning, I get a lil OCD. Things that didnt bother me or matter before I am now ripping apart and rebuilding. I feel everyone else is excited and proud of me except my husband. I dont even feel like calling him my husband. I want to call him what he is, a room mate. I feel so empty and lonely and its making me out to be a very angry and miserable person.
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Sex Is Great
Heck yeah! You go girl! WORK IT! Lol. I find I'm able to do better positions and I last a lot longer as far as liking the burn I get from... working it! Sneak in a mini workout
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Hmmm Friends Or Not?
I say drop her if she doesnt want to support you thru your harder times then she can sit on the sidelines. If and when you see her dont inform her of things. Just hi, Im well. How are you and let it be. Iknow I had A LOT of family and friends tell me I was going to die having the surgery. Im down 55 lbs and feel amazing. Still not goal weight (about 30 more to go) but I am happy I weeded out a lot of the negative people in my life. The WLS is very hard to deal with emotionally and mentally and then the food and to add negative people is just not something you should put yourself thru. good luck and hope to hear something on a more positive note in a few months... Maybe some wedding photos! Enjoy YOUR life and dont worry about hers!
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ONDERLAND <3
Finally UNDER 200!!! But I find my face is still pudgy!
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Sex Is Great
Well since I posted this topic sex has become less frequent cause I give my all at the gym. I usually dont leave until I am crawling out to my car, I go all out! Well, now when we do umm do it it should prob be broadcast!!! XD Seriously, more positions, longer lastin (i uped it and hes trying to keep up), working up a dripping sweat... I loved sex before (SA) but now its just deeper and meaningful rather than fulfilling a sexual need. Its more connected, more intense and SO much better than before... Keep it yummy in the bed room bandsters!
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Sex Is Great
I was in the ARMY TOO!!! 31B, MP's Lead the Way! Im so excited I tried on my post Army"fat pants" and they fit...Im working on push up and sits ups again but Im still afraid of failing. IKNOWImnot physically where i Need to be so I havent got down on all fours yet just walls or crunches. But at my 6 month mark I want to see how I "pass" the APFT. Which is only merely weeks away! HOOAH!
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Dr Lee Au #1 In California
MY DOCTOR!!! AMAZING LOVING AND COMPASSIONATE <3
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6 Month Bandiversary!
That is GREAT!!! Congrats! I just past my 4 months, down 55 lbs. From a size 20/22 to a 12!! The BEST feeling EVER! I feel bad for those who it doesnt work for. I thank God I got lucky and have had such sucess! Life has been so different since I "got my life back" XD To many more pounds down the drain!
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Great Free Workout App
Today my "Fill Dr" said to stop crunches and sit ups cause it can tear the port and cause it to be superficial. What kind of midsection workouts couldI do to trim this muffin top. Losing weight fast, not really the tummy. I workout daily if not at LEAST 3 times a week most times twice a day walking and running weight training swimming.. Any pointers would be welcomed. Thanks!
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March/April
I will actually take pics of myself again and ACTUALLY SMILE cause I feel better about myself daily!
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Too Soon For P90X Or Insanity?
Im a month out (Jan 18) and feel great Im back to actually running! Feels great! Just when I do things like a hanging pull up (not really a pull up, just hanging and shruggin my shoulders trying to build the strength again.) But it hurts my stomach like Im pulling something and it hurts. So Im wondering if exercise like that would be good and challenging or damaging. Guess its a Dr kinda question. Was just wondering if any banders have done it.
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Too Soon For P90X Or Insanity?
So i have these 2 workout videos and was wondering if I could possibly hurt myself or appliances if I did workouts like this. I was in the service so I know I am capable of doing it but afraid of making something break or burst. Has anyone attempted these workout videos? Anyone in the 90602 in California who would be willing to join me for some kick ass workouts in home or at 24 hour fitness?!
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Right before the surgery 2011
how fat I have gotten before surgery.
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BEFORE THE WEIGHT GAIN
ME BEFORE IT ALL PACKED ON, MY ULTIMATE GOAL <3
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Sex Is Great
Sad thing is I didnt know I was addicted to food OR an emotional eater till post op when feeling down and in a tough spot found myself in the kitchen and wondering how I got there... Having to deal with issues without drowning them in food has been great for not only me but my husband and my kids cause there is a lot more talking and less angst. And I think I am dangerously addicted to sex! I seriously cant get enough. I think this is how men feel everything in everyday life IS sex! Lol Poor guy, needs a tap out!