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My sister considers lap-band surgery "cheating", and I am TICKED!

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By shellyphaunts, in LAP-BAND Surgery Forums

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realtruelady    0

realtruelady
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Like everyone has said, the band is a tool. Just like the equipment in a gym are tools. If having the band is cheating then everyone that goes to the gym and use the equipment are cheating. Instead of using the machines, they should go outside and walk or run and use their body weight for weight training. The band was created to help lose weight just as the equipment was intended to do. However, when you tell a trainer or a gym freak this they say NO THAT IS DIFFERENT. How it is different, they can't tell me. The most important thing is you are not living for you sister so don't let your stand in the way of your success. Keep up the good work girl!!!:thumbup:

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cent    0

cent
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I think my sister will too. But you have to have a ride.So i am not telling her till the week of! I still might have to use my back up.

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aubrie    6

aubrie
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When someone I loved told me LAP-BAND® was cheating I told them yup its cheating death do you have a problem with that, now they dont make anymore negative comments.

I have to say.... That is THE BEST damned come back I have EVER heard!! :biggrin: Touche!! I like your style!!! :biggrin:

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mi_illusion_st    27

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I have to say.... That is THE BEST damned come back I have EVER heard!! :( Touche!! I like your style!!! :thumbup:

thanks! I figured I had to stick up for myself on this one.

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jfc193    719

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Whatever it takes to make it work. I know that I needed the band to assisting in keeping me straight. It certainly has not been easy but well worth it.

So if it is cheating so be it. I have not been at this weight for 27 years. I no longer have diabetes or sleep apnea. No back pain or knee pain.

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carebear12187    0

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Whatever it takes to make it work. I know that I needed the band to assisting in keeping me straight. It certainly has not been easy but well worth it.

So if it is cheating so be it. I have not been at this weight for 27 years. I no longer have diabetes or sleep apnea. No back pain or knee pain.

I have had some of the same feedback about getting lapband being cheating. if you show people that you don't care what they think is what I have found to be the most successful. I just say " lapband is cheating but I don't care look at me now. There is no way I could have done it without lapband.". I love who I am and that is the best thing about it. Just have a positive outlook about it and that will help keep you on track!

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minimeme    1

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You cannot control what other people are gonna think or say. This is gonna be one of those things where you will get nothing out of holding on to. In fact, it will do you harm to continue holding on to the ill feelings.

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MichB1    0

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Sadly, sometimes your family, or members of your family just aren't good for you. You can keep loving them and wishing them well, but for your own mental and physical health, it's just not good for you to be around them or deal with them.

Too bad Mom seems to want in on the drama, too. Sounds like they want you the way you were, to me. They probably got something out of you being unsuccessful. Sometimes, people (wrongly) think that they can't win unless someone else loses.

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texasnewf    104

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Well, first off, congrats on your success thus far. I'm having the surgery next Friday 12/11. It sounds like to me that your sister is jealous and is dealing with a lot of issues of her own. I would attempt to approach her in a kind way and have a heart to heart talk about it and tell her that you love her and support her and hope for her support as well. If she does not feel like being on your side in this, then move on, love her but agree to disagree. Bottom line is, you are not doing this for HER.. you are doing it for yourself.. and you can't be worrying about what other people think anymore.. :sad: You go girl !

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Jeni 85    0

Jeni 85
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i have heard his term and others like the easy way .... but people are jealous or they just dont understand..

i have lost some of my friends after being banded.. but thats because they werent true friends to begin with..

dont let it bug you..

you did this for yourself and nobody else..

Take her to an educational meeting so she can learn and be more knowledgable.. it might benefit her as well..

you say she is overweight as well... encourage her to come excercise with you or try some new healthy recipes with her... if she sees you want to help her maybe that can help as well

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