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Hello!

I am a 51 year old female living in Brooklyn, NY. I was banded on 6/18/07 by Dr. Christine Ren at NYU. At the beginning of the journey, I weighed in at 335.4. During my first year, I lost down to 229.8. It was such a good feeling, and I felt that nothing would stop me; however, I seemed to have stopped after that.

The second year began with mostly staying at the same weight until about March of 2009. It has been gaining ever since, and I am not up to 265 pounds. I don't want to keep going up. I want to go back down.

A lot has happened to me emotionally and financially over the last year, and I have been doing a lot of emotional eating. This is not good, and I need to learn to use different outlets. I am now on leave from my job and will not return (if at all) until the first of the year. Since, I am feeling a little bit more like following the rules, I would like to reach out and ask for some help.

Thank you to anyone who is willing to be my buddy.

Susan

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Hi!! I was also banded at NYU--but by Dr. Fielding. Just wondering how much of a fill you have? Because that could def. get you back on track. What kinds of foods are eating when you talk about your emotional eating?

Good luck to you...and you CAN get back on track!!

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don't give up! Send me a PM and I'll give you details of my story- I was 55 when I was banded and managed to take off over 200 lbs..I'm originally from Brookly (Sheepshead Bay) now living in Ventura CA.

sandi2004

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Hi ladies,

I was also banded at NYU (Dr Fielding). I am fairly new on the journey but I would love to share. There's a "Banded at NYU" Social Group that has very little traffic. Perhaps we could meet up there and help each other on the journey.

Joan

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I can round out this group (no pun intended) by being a pre-band person! I am having surgery in January 2010 and am in a holding pattern in the meantime.

I am definitely interested in learning the skills that will not only make for successful weight LOSS but for permanent lifestyle change so as to keep the weight off. That is always the bugger for everyone.

For the OP: I totally understand, and fear, the idea of doing great with the band with all of the initial energy and then having life get in the way. I do not mean to criticize, I want to learn from your experience and would love to help support your getting back on track.

I will look for the 'banded at NYU" group so we can all continue to talk.

Best regards,

Vanessa

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I've had a lousy week - weight wise. I gained 3.5 lbs!

I used to log my food in a notebook, along with the calorie, Protein & fat count. Over a month ago I started listing the food only. Today I'm checking out some of the online calorie counting sites. Hopefully that will help me stay on track better.

If anyone is interested in going to the Banded at NYU Sovial Group, here is the link:LAP-BAND Then just scroll down and create a new post.

One you join, you just need to click on "user Cp" on the toolbar under the photos, then click on Social groups in the left column.

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