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Tomorrow (aug 12, 09) I'm being banded. I know I will be starting a new life. I am so scared that I feel like I will just to run. I keep asking myself if this is the right thing to do. I am so terrified of the unknown. I have read so many stories here, some with happy endings and others that terrify me. I am stuck second guessing myself. Please help, tell me has anyone else felt this way?:(

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Tomorrow (aug 12, 09) I'm being banded. I know I will be starting a new life. I am so scared that I feel like I will just to run. I keep asking myself if this is the right thing to do. I am so terrified of the unknown. I have read so many stories here, some with happy endings and others that terrify me. I am stuck second guessing myself. Please help, tell me has anyone else felt this way?:(

Oh bless your heart. I think everybody goes through what you are feeling. Everything will go just fine. Before you know it you will be living a healthy lifestyle. Do you know that only about 5% of the things we worry about ever even become a reality? Try and focus only on the positive aspect of changing your life for the better. Think how good it will feel to fit into a size you haven't been able to wear for years. Think about all the energy you will have once you lose all that cumbersome weight. Tomorrow is the first day of the rest of your life. How can improving ones health be anything but good!

Donna:thumbup:

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Congrats on your surgery tomorrow! I felt nervous at many points before my surgery. Its because its the 'unknown'. Everyone is nervous about something they've never experienced. Now, almost 2 months out of surgery, I feel that this is the best choice I have ever made!! Good luck with your surgery, and please give us an update when you get home!

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Thanks for the encouraging words. I will try to keep all of that in mind.

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Are you scared of anything in particular, or just generalized anxiety? Have you had surgery before? Are you afraid you won't be able to follow the "band rules"?

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RestlessMonkey, I think it's just having sugery in general that I'm worried about. As with everything in life "you always want a successful outcome." Yes, I have had surgery before and it was still the same. I think I always have generalized anxiety.:blink:

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Then the only thing that will help is just getting through it! :)

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i felt the same exact way. like I wanted to take it all back! But you have to think to yourself.. I am risking more if I dont get this surgery. I hope things went wellfor you today. I was banded yesterday and so far.. it SUCKS but Im sure it gets better. LOL

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Ingra - Hopefully as you read this you have successfully gone through the surgery. I am scared as well (banding on 8/25) but I keep thinking of the positives. We are going to be thinner and healthier soon! Stay strong :)

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Good luck on your surgery tomorrow.

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Hello, everyone, I have made it thru surgery and everything went well. I spent one night in the hospital and came home today. I 'm feeling very good. I not nasueated and I'm just a little sore. It was smooth sailing and I hope the rest of my journey is the same. God bless and thank you all for your encouraging words and prayers.:)

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Tomorrow (aug 12, 09) I'm being banded. I know I will be starting a new life. I am so scared that I feel like I will just to run. I keep asking myself if this is the right thing to do. I am so terrified of the unknown. I have read so many stories here, some with happy endings and others that terrify me. I am stuck second guessing myself. Please help, tell me has anyone else felt this way?:)

I think we all went through those feelings. But to run away; well, that will only get yourself further away from being healthy. I started my weight loss journey 2 1/2 years ago. I was afraid, too. I live in Wisconsin and went to Texas to have my surgery. I was lucky enough to find a FANTASTIC surgeon and I to this day, still fly down there for all my fills. You need to remember, the band is just a tool; it is up to you to use it correctly. But I think you're ready. Bless your little heart; I've been there and now how scarey it is. I started at 305# and now I'm at 127#. I will keep you in my prayers and hope all went well for you!!

Michele

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