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Please don't pay attention to my stats, because I have been in bandster hell ever since I got fill removed about 3 months ago and have gained 15 lbs.

I went to my OBGYN today and she is urging me to drop the weight before pregancy (wasn't specific on exactly how much)

I am really depressed about this because I really don't want to wait, I want to try to see if I have any issues gettin pregnant and don't want to delay the process.

I am supposed to go in for a fill next week- do you think I should give it all I got for a month and try to drop 10 lbs- like low carb and excercise? I am not quite sure how much weight is considered "unsafe" - my BMI is probably 30 for my height. Or if I'm ok...and she just wants to be safe than sorry. I read somewhere on the internet about hypertension and preclamsia and how the ultrasounds can't see through all the layers of fat...but what weight were they refering too? I really think I have a lot of muscle...because the number on the scale doesn't look like it's me...I always look 10 lbs less.

Or can I go ahead and start trying and cancel my fill and start trying?

I hope someone out there can help

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question do you weigh 155 now. ok if that is what she said i would give it month and loose the 10lbs and go ahead. do you have any other health issues that would need to be addressed before pregnancy.

Please don't pay attention to my stats, because I have been in bandster hell ever since I got fill removed about 3 months ago and have gained 15 lbs.

I went to my OBGYN today and she is urging me to drop the weight before pregancy (wasn't specific on exactly how much)

I am really depressed about this because I really don't want to wait, I want to try to see if I have any issues gettin pregnant and don't want to delay the process.

I am supposed to go in for a fill next week- do you think I should give it all I got for a month and try to drop 10 lbs- like low carb and excercise? I am not quite sure how much weight is considered "unsafe" - my BMI is probably 30 for my height. Or if I'm ok...and she just wants to be safe than sorry. I read somewhere on the internet about hypertension and preclamsia and how the ultrasounds can't see through all the layers of fat...but what weight were they refering too? I really think I have a lot of muscle...because the number on the scale doesn't look like it's me...I always look 10 lbs less.

Or can I go ahead and start trying and cancel my fill and start trying?

I hope someone out there can help

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this really makes me upset to it here and admit that I have gone from 155 to 172. I didn't even realize it got this bad. Most of the weight came on in the last 4 weeks. It is shocking how fast the weight came on. When I got the fill removed and went from 155-160 I thought that was bad and now i'd do anything to be back there. I have struggled with weight my entire life... I didn't have anything like diabetes or hypertension- just knew I had to have this lap band to get some control in my life, as we see not having it work full force has been bad for me. Of course gaining weight with pregnancy is allowed... but now it's like I have to take 2 steps back before I can take 1 forward...

the only other issue is my thyroid in which I have been having bloodwork done every month. it was off kilter in june and I got put on the right dosage first week in july.

how bad is my weight situation and how much should I be losing... do I have to lose at all? is losing 10 better?

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i would try and lose maybe 15lbs as you will be gaining it right back once pregnant. the best thing is to be as healthy as possible before pregnancy. now if you can get back to 155 that would be great. i think you should talk with your dr about it and see what she/he says.

this really makes me upset to it here and admit that I have gone from 155 to 172. I didn't even realize it got this bad. Most of the weight came on in the last 4 weeks. It is shocking how fast the weight came on. When I got the fill removed and went from 155-160 I thought that was bad and now i'd do anything to be back there. I have struggled with weight my entire life... I didn't have anything like diabetes or hypertension- just knew I had to have this lap band to get some control in my life, as we see not having it work full force has been bad for me. Of course gaining weight with pregnancy is allowed... but now it's like I have to take 2 steps back before I can take 1 forward...

the only other issue is my thyroid in which I have been having bloodwork done every month. it was off kilter in june and I got put on the right dosage first week in july.

how bad is my weight situation and how much should I be losing... do I have to lose at all? is losing 10 better?

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In my opinion, I would get the fill and try to lose the weight while trying to get pregnant. You are at a pretty healthy weight and you never know how many months it will take for you to become pregnant. This way you can continue to lose and if you get pregnant and are too tight you can have some fill removed. This is my plan by the way but do whatever works best for you.

Good luck.

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If you have serious concerns about whether you can get pregnant or not (regardless of what you weigh), you should consult with a reproductive endocrinologist (RE). He can do a series of tests to determine if you and/or your DH have any issues that would cause you problems in becoming and staying pregnant.

Yes, ideally, losing 10 pounds would be nice, but I don't think it is absolutely necessary in order to become pregnant. Some OBs are clueless when it comes to fertility issues. They just really know how to treat you once you are pregnant, but don't know how to help you get pregnant. That's what a RE is for.

Good luck!

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