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Hi, I writing on behalf of my 19 year old daughter. She is too embarrassed to get on these forums.:thumbup: She was banded in April 2008 and has only lost like 19 pounds. She is struggling all the way around. After all this time we are wondering again if she could need a fill. She said she feels like she has no restriction. I think she's at 8.5 cc now. She dropped the 19 within the first couple months but then its been up and down, fills and unfills. She's started on this crazy stuff again like she did before surgery of buying diet pills and even started ordering Nutrisystem. I told her to stop. Are there any girls around that age of here that would be interested in chatting with her etc via email?:laugh:

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I'm sorry, as a mom I can hear your concern and frustration in your post. She has an amazing tool to change her life, but if she does not use the band like it is meant to be, little good it does.

Maybe you can go with her to the support group meetings at her doctors office. Or look into professional support, councling. If she could get on her and read the messages, that would help.

I wish you the best of luck.

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It does sound like she's not really learned to use her band effectively.

These forums are INVALUABLE for learning about banded life and all the stuff that doctors dont tell their patients.

Even if she doesnt want to post, she could read read read and nobody would ever know she was lurking in the background.

Is she exercising? its really SO important.

I feel your concern. I have a 13 year old son who is getting alarmingly fat now. He's gone from normal chldhood skinniness to suddenly being very chunky and he's got NO interest in any exercise. He just wants to lie around playing PS3 all day. And you cant talk to him about it or he'll go nuts at you.

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Hiya, I'm 18 and was banded in April 2008 also- I was stuck at a 15lb loss until about december however my weightloss has been kick started again since then.I have since worked out why, and it's a variety of reasons. I'd love to talk to your daughter if she wants to e-mail or something?

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I am 18 now, and was banded at 16- Aug 2007. Ive now lost about 112ish pounds. I have to agree with some of the other people who have posted, and I understand your concern. I'm not sure if she has the right tools other than the band to lose the weight. But there is a chance that she is using the right tools and eating correctly, and that is even more frustrating. Id be more than willing to chat with her- the program I was banded through made me learn all of the different 'tools' to lose the weight for 6 months before my surgery.

Best of luck!

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Hi,

I'm 18years old and I had the band in November 08'. I've lost 10kgs so far but that was in the 2 weeks before the surgery and the few weeks after, since then i've hardly lost any and am starting to feel quite disheartened and have wondered whether i should also go back to dieting (shakes, pills etc.)

I'd loveeee to talk to you daughter, I have no one my age that has the band and am not really into going to group meetings. (I know I'm big but I don't really like admitting it to a group of people).

Let me know if she'd be interested, we could motivate each other :):)

<3 Danieka x

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