Hey everyone going through Kaiser Richmond!!

Where are you in the process?

I think trying to compare RNY and lap band is what makes me discouraged...........long term I don't want to deal with RNY...........but short term they are losing so much faster................

Anyone heard about the RNY smell? Someone was telling me it gives you a body oder very unique to RNY..............trying to figure out what that means?

I can't remember the last time I wanted to cry this much! but I won't - I absolutely will not give this man the satisfaction!! As my husband and I were walking tonight he let me know that he feels WLS is for the weak! Here I thougt he was being so supportive - in all actuality he's supporting my decision to lose weight because he's tired of having a fat wife but thinks I should just keep doing what I'm doing and not get banded - I can't tell you how many times I've lost weight just to gain it all back - he's always been in great shape and can maintain, therefore we all should be like him.

I'm discouraged now! and my feelings are hurt!!

I hear ya Candra. My family didn't really want me to do this either. I just told them it was not open for debate I was gonna do it. After hearing over and over how I should be tough and just exercise and stop eating. My family thinks fat is the same as lazy................I only told a few people.........I do have my sister and my aunt who are totally behind me....my mom and uncle who are in the medical field told me straight out it won't work......my mom is always wanting to know if it is "working" or not...........arrghh.........I have to prove her wrong which makes my bandster hell more frustrating!!

My family is all skinny it is only me ........... except for one grandmother that had huge weight issues all her life and died of heart failure young....I look like her and have the same weight struggles........and my family is on my back like they were on hers all the time......

But even driving over for surgery my family was still giving a hard time about having surgery.

My mom thought you got surgery lost the weight and had it taken out. I was sorta disappontted in her that she had not even researched it and I am her daughter.......I did bring my lap band companion book and I think she read it while I was in surgery........she thought they inserted the band through the mouth......OMG.......I was telling her I am having major surgery here I thought you knew that.........

Well I know it is hard when it is someone so close to you. I am so not talking about this at work for this very reason. I did tell one of my good friends and she was really negetive about me doing it. Again why can't you lose on your own......

BUT there is a difference. I am not gaining it back and I do have some restrition obvious since I can't eat bread or broccoli and I can't eat as much...........so something is different even if I don't have good restriction yet.

Candra don't give up!!

I told Dr. Baggs about my mom thinking the band was inserted throught he mouth.........I told him I think ya better educate her when you go out after surgery!! He was laughing.........he told me when I left he explained to her and that he thought she got it!! LOL.

Hey all! My internet has been acting up, I'm partying again (only a little over 2 weeks post op). I feel great!

The scale will not budge! Ugh... I'm on softs now, Robin said the scale should move quicker. It now fluctuates between 218 and 222 omg! How in the world.. and that's only weighing once.

BUT I fit in an XL juniors dress at Pennys and a Large shirt at pennys. I have pictures on my facebook. You can find me as sheena reis Baby is the pic that is up now.

Anyways, it's late. Finally got my internet back up. Glad to see a lot of you are doing well!

You're right, Tina - I just have to do what's best for me! I was just so shocked - I honestly had no idea he felt that way - he has been so so so supportive. I guess he figured that I would change my mind once I saw that i could do it on my own. Jokes on him LOL!

my parents, if they were still alive, would have been againt it to - my dad's favorite thing to say to me was "just put the fork down & shut your F'in mouth" My brother won't approve at all - he lives with us right now so I don't know how I'm going to sneek the operation & recovery past him but I'm determined to do so.

SHEENA REIS :tongue_smilie: BABY - YOU LOOK HOT! congratulations on your success! Keep up the great work

Well I did find out once I refused to discuss backing out of surgery that people just started to avoid the issue and it got easier.

Yea I think my family thought that once I stared to lose I would back out of surgery. But that just made me more determined to get it done!!

I am glad I did it...........just wish there was a quick fix still. This is a tool like they say not a solution I think in the long run I will be a healthier person in alot of way for going through the process.

Oh I ended up with 4000 steps yesterday. I walked some more at the mall last night. I am so sore from that bike ride yesterday but I need to do it again today!! Getting myself ready to go............I wish I had a treadmill or stationary bike I could hook up to my TV!!

Riley I don't like exercise..............I just don't!!

I hope it kicks in soon!!

Tina, I'm with you on the disliking exercise. I wish I knew how to change my mindset on that - hypnotherapy perhaps :tongue_smilie:

I can't think of anything fun to do for exercise either - I like the dancing idea but you need a partner and my husband is not into that at all. Anyone know how to play tennis? Is it hard?? might be a moot point anyway, not many tennis courts in Vallejo hahahaha

I used to do this hip hop dance class that was so, so fun!! Not even like exercise just 45 minutes of great music and fun...........but they don't have that anymore. Go figure the guy who taught it was a big guy but had great moves...............if I could find something like that again!!

So right now I have bikes, walking around the neighborhood and treadmill..............I also have the WII active but to easy to stop with that................I do better walking up to the gym and making myself state on the bike until I hit my goal...........gotta try for 4 miles today.

Happy weekend all.

Good morning ladies!

I do love my morning walk/jogs . . but not when my alarm goes off at 5 AM! I HATE them, then . . but I have done it long enough to know how much better I will feel once I get out there!

I actively look for outdoor things to do on weekends, hiking -10Ks - charity walks - the beach (sand it GREAT!) - and just booked a January Mexico trip (no I can't afford it AND my kids' insurance, but it's all about me - LOL) that includes biking, sea kayaking, jungle hikes, snorkeling and so on. Tennis is free there and I don't know how to poay, so I guess I'd better learn!

Tina I am a single parent too, 3 kids and it's been just over 10 years. Never have had a single dime of support the entire time (he was in an industrial accident, has had 11 brain surgeries and won't ever work again - but his "new" family takes his entire SSI payment, figures) and have been proud to be able to support my kids ALMOST to adulthood - and now I can't. My oldest is getting married on Sunday, the middle one (who is Type I diabetic) finishes college this year, and my youngest is going to turn 18 and get his ^&* kicked out onto the street in November this year! OMG I am SO SICK of that kid and his crap (!). So I only have a year or so that I have to keep paying the $800 a month for their insurance, or for ANYthing for them, for that matter! I just don't know how I can possibly do it until them. Zero savings of course - esp. since I just paid for the Mexico trip! It is for my mental health :-)

Candra, I am so sorry your butthead husband just doesn't get it! I hope you les him know how crushed you were. You WILL educate him, because he will see how hard you have to work to lose the weight, just as hard as before the lap-band, and the more you lose the harder it gets and the harder you have to work! So you will prove to him that it's not for the "weak." What an ass! Sorry but this just agravates me to no end. I know that we all have to deal with stupid people making comments like that, but your own husband?!? And what exactly did he gain by telling you that?!?! What was his motive!! You are right to not let him get to you!

I did not tell ANYone in my family, which when you consider I told EVERYONE at work, may not make sense. Uness you know my family! I did not telol till recently, now they are fine!!

Oh, Riley, I sure wish I knew what he was thinking by telling me that - the only thing I can think of is that he feels that he can change my mind since I'm losing it on my own right now. Have have yo-yo dieted my whole life and it has been real hard on my body - I'm not talking 10 or 15 pounds - I'm talking about fluctuating as much as 50 pounds! I literally have to eat absolutely NOTHING but protein to lose and only 1000 cals a day - i've been eating 1/2 cup of protein 4 times per day. That's it! How long does he think I can keep this up? We went to Target the other day and the first thing he does is get popcorn - "want some?" he asks. All I could say was "no thanks" and I was starving! Before he called me weak that wouldn't have bothered me - we go to the movies and he gets popcorn, candy & a soda and I get water. No big deal - until now! Now i know what he thinks of me! No, I didn't tell him how crushed I was - He already thinks I'm weak - couldn't prove that by telling him he hurt my weak little feelings - LOL - I told him how pissed i am that he could judge me on something he's never had to deal with and knows absolutely nothing about!

Sorry to vent

Keep on him girl! I tell people that I have lost 500 lbs over my lifetime, but I found 600. And it's almost true!! - I have lost 80 lbs at a time before, and more than once! The ONLY thing different about this time - cause it's NOT "easy" - is that I WON'T GAIN IT BACK!!!!! If I start too, I can just get a fill. Grrr, he still makes me mad - my best friend was going therough the process with me, she stopped because her husband didn't want her to, now I have lost 86 lbs. and she cries whenever she sees me - she has lost and regained 20 lbs, same old thing. Makes me so MAD . . .

Riley-Jane - you are amazing - 86lbs in so little time! Hope you're enjoying One-Derland, girlfriend, you deserve it. Tell youR friend friend, I feel her pain! But I'm going to follow your lead - "ITS ALL ABOUT ME"