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First of all let me tell you that I am the youngest in my family. I have 2 older brothers and an older sister..all who are all thin, never been overweight a day in their lives. Anyways, so I with my sister yesterday and she got a call from my brother. Well, with my sisters cell phone you can somewhat hear what the person on the other side is saying. So my sister made a comment to him "my kids are eating me out of house and home" (typical for growing kids..) and my brother says to her "just dont let them end up like Chelsea!'' (...I am Chelsea..). I'm so sick of how overweight people are treated! And its so pathetic how my OWN family talks crap about me to eachother because of my weight! I havent told any of my siblings about me getting surgery (which will be on Sept 10th) because they consider weight loss surgery as a cop-out. It makes me so sad that I cant tell my own family about this exciting change thats going to happen in my life, well..I could, but then I would have to deal with all the crap they will give me about it..and I dont need that in my life right now. *sigh*...I wish my siblings could spend just ONE day having to deal with the physical and mental things that come with being overweight, then maybe they wouldnt be so cruel. Anyways...thats my rant....:rolleyes:

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I'm sorry that your family isn't supportive. That's too bad. But all of us here are behind you 100%. Don't let them get to you. I know it must hurt, try not to let it. It is also unfortunate that their so closed minded not to understand that we are all different and have different problems. Yours just happens to be your weight. It isn't that easy to just go to the gym, stop eating and viola your skinny and healthy and happy. Don't let their inability to understand get in the way of your journey. Let go of other peoples opinions and focus on the prize. Good luck with all hang in there.

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I'm so sorry that you had to hear that and from your own brother. I'm also sorry that you have that knowledge now. It's not an easy thing to deal with. It's also not something you'll forget anytime soon, if ever! :smile:

I chose to only tell a few people that I was pretty sure would be only supportive. Whether they agree or not, they would still support me. That does not mean that I told my whole family. I may chose to tell my sister at some point but only my mom knows as well as my mil and fil. Other than that, I've only told some close friends.

It may be that you need to only chose some close friends to tell and leave your family out of it. I'm sorry that it has to be that way for you.

Take care and keep coming back here for support.

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Thank you to both of you! I've been thinking about it and I decided that I'm not going to tell them. And now whenever I start to get depressed about my family situation, I just think of all the cute clothes and how healthy I will be and that helps! I am so excited for my life to change on Sept 10th and I'm not going to let anyone, even if it is my own family, bring me down anymore! Thanks again for your kind words! I'm so glad I found people who can relate to me with my weight issues and who are so supportive!

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