Feeling Alone

Tuff Enuff · May 6, 2005

Would anyone give me advice on being alone after surgery. What creative things did you come up with? I'm having some issues tonight since I found out the friend I was counting on to come stay with me for a couple of days after surgery won't be able to make it due to things going on in her life that can't be avoided. The person who is going with me the day of surgery is wrapped in legal battles with her business partner (they are my bosses) and I'm a little up in the air as to whether or not she is going to get miffed and decide to not help me as well. I'm really feeling like a lot of people are expecting me to solve their problems and when I need help I'm left with me, myself and I. (Don't get me started on my condo assoc. Augh!) Suggestions on how to take good care of myself after surgery without help of any sort?

princess_n_thep · May 6, 2005

Where do you live? Where are you going for surgery (mexico or states)?

La_madam · May 6, 2005

Hey Tuff

With a name like that , it doesnt seem like you will have any problems taking care of yourself after surgery.

Honestly you will be amazed at how little pain you will have and how you will be able to get around fairly easy. I know everyone is different but I was out shopping around town the very next day after surgery. You will be fine, just make sure you have enough liquids , Gas X and maybe some liquid tylenol on hand and you should do OK. Good luck

vinesqueen · May 6, 2005

I would say you will be just fine. Make sure you go grocery shopping before your surgery so you have things like popscicles and juice and gas-x and Protein drinks on hand. You may not feel like driving anywhere for a few days.

Get your prescriptions filled before your surgery too, that will save some bother.

We'll be here for you!

angiebell · May 6, 2005

I think you will be fine as long as you have the things on hand that have been recommended so far. I hope you have someone to drive you to and from surgery though. I don't think you will want to drive yourself home!

Iluvharleys · May 6, 2005

I didn't need any help when I came home, in fact it felt good to move and get things for myself. Like Crystal said, make sure to have all your stuff bought so you don't need to go get things. You will be fine!

Tuff Enuff · May 7, 2005

Thanks for the tips everyone! I'm getting banded here in Washington State and it was looking like I was going to have to go to my preop and surgery by myself. Having a "support" person at the preop is mandentory at the Wish center. I think it's a little silly to make it mandentory. I get my best support right here. Today someone else has offered to go to the preop and drive me home so won't have to drive myself. Whew! Was doing my best to figure out how I was going to manage that one!

alatina · May 7, 2005

good luck and its great you got a new friend to offer you a ride-very nice of them.

leatha_g · May 7, 2005

One tip.. you may not want to lie flat on a bed for the first few days. Without help, it's extremely hard to pull yourself to an upright position. A recliner may be suitable, especially alone. I know I thought I was going to rip all my stitches the first few times I tried raising myself from lying flat. Scary..