Help! I don't want my new lifestyle to come between me and my spouse!

trapped inside · April 6, 2008

My husband says he wants to lose weight but all he wants to do is eat, drink, and be merry. He'll go on a diet and lose 8-10 lbs, stop dieting and then a couple weeks later he's gained it all back. I can't get him off the couch and if I say something he gets mad or sulks. I married him knowing he was heavy. I'm not trying to insist that he loses weight, I'm just worried about him being so young and so inactive. I want to change my lifestyle to be more active because I know its good for my weight, my health, and my mood. I don't want us to grow apart. Any advice...?

Jachut · April 6, 2008

Give him time.

My DH has always been interested, he needs to lose weight himself. I wouldnt say my weight loss has caused trouble between us but occasionally he gets stroppy at my commitment to running. He's a good dieter but basically, he doesnt like exercise, and he struggles to commit to it, which translates into some petty jelousy at my success. Only every now and then, its not too much of a problem.

Anyway, I think he must occasionally feel left behind to a degree, he wants what I'm having! He's getting banded in 2 months. His journey will be different to mine, no doubt but I knew sooner or later he'd decide to take his health into his own hands just like I did. But its taken him this long to be ready. You cant push, they have to get there themselves.