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Depressed and Sad ..8 months post op stalled and not moving ahead.



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Hi Friends,

I'm 8 months post RNY. SW 308 lbs, CW 213 lbs. Height 159 cm.

I was on a steady losing path until Jan this year due to my walking (10k) daily.
However, we had a bad family fight in Jan which has led to me being depressed and lethargic. I've kinda stalled since then and there has been zero progress.

I'm scared I'm throwing all this away and fearful since I'm overeating and not losing.

Any advice on how to kickstart my weight loss again please. My goal weight is 150 lbs and I really want to do this for my kids.

Please help me :(

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Hi,

I won't be the best one to help you with a "kickstart", so I will leave that to the ones who have way more knowledge and experience than I do. However, I want to let you know that your weight loss, in 8 months, has inspired me. You have lost a tremendous amount, and I'm confident that your children are proud of you. I'm sorry to hear about the family fight. Hopefully, things are on the mend and you can put it behind you.

Follow your plan, and re-incorporate your daily walks. You don't have to start at 10K a day. Just make yourself go out there, even if it's just for a few minutes.

You have accomplished so much in the past months. Be kind to yourself.

We only have one shot at this life. Focus on you. I'm sending you many blessings your way.

Tight virtual hug. ♥

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Hi,
I won't be the best one to help you with a "kickstart", so I will leave that to the ones who have way more knowledge and experience than I do. However, I want to let you that your weight loss, in 8 months, has inspired me. You have lost a tremendous amount, and I'm confident that your children are proud of you. I'm sorry to hear about the family fight. Hopefully, things are on the mend and you can put it behind you.
Follow your plan, and re-incorporate your daily walks. You don't have to start at 10K a day. Just make yourself go out there, even if it's just for a few minutes.
You have accomplished so much in the past months. Be kind to yourself.
We only have one shot at this life. Focus on you. I'm sending you many blessings your way.
Tight virtual hug. [emoji813]

Very well said and I love your screen name. [emoji3590]

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Don't be too sad. Sort out your personal life so you can be happy again. And when you've done that, you know how to lose weight again, no problem.

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First focus on the great success that you've had. You've done well. Next, think about how this is going to be for YOU (while I realize it effects your kids too and you said you want to do this for your kids, do it for YOU!). Now, get back to the basics like right when you had the surgery, counting calories, Protein, and macros, drinking your Water, not drinking while eating, etc. It'll jump-start you back to losing again.

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First of all, don't lose sight of the fact that you have done great so far. You lost 95 pounds! That's fantastic.

Since you said that you've stalled and are not losing, I'm assuming that means you haven't started regaining any of the weight, right? If that's the case, then you're in maintenance, so if you want to start losing again, you just have to lower your food intake and/or increase your exercise. Diet has a much bigger effect on weight loss than exercise, but exercise has a lot of other benefits, so it's a good idea to get back into exercise as well, even if it's just a little. Leslie Sansone's Walk at Home videos on YouTube are great, and you can start with short ones (there are several that are 15 minutes or less) if you don't want to or don't have time to do a longer walk or workout.

Are you tracking everything you eat? If not, I think that's a great first step to kick-starting a change. Apps like MyFitnessPal or Baritastic make it easy, and tracking can help you identify the easiest changes to make. What are the healthiest foods that you already like to eat? Start eating those things more often, and cut out (or reduce) the stuff that's not worth the calories. If you like to cook, go on Pinterest to find some new recipes that are both tasty and healthy.

Finally, I recommend not fixating on a specific number on the scale. Everyone is different, and you may not be able to get to 150, but that doesn't mean you failed. I bet you have already had some great non-scale victories with a 95-pound weight loss. Has your health improved? Are you more able to keep up with your kids? Can you wear clothes from non-plus size stores? Are you less self-conscious in social/professional situations? These things are all more meaningful than a number on the scale.

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Listen to @BigSue

If someone told you before surgery they could take 95lb off you and then you'd maintain your weight I bet you'd have given them anything. You're in a good place with your weight - now look after yourself.

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You are reaching out for help after identifying a possible problem. Your current success has been fantastic. It might take some sleuthing on your part to identify your needs and get help.

I went to psychology today . com . (I’m afraid to mislead you with a bad link.). My family was not acknowledging grandfather’s memory loss and it devastated my son. The whole situation snowballed out of control and now we’re all in therapy to learn how to talk. Does this affect personal weight loss? Yes, but also taking care of myself mentally allows me to nurture myself and my kid!

I’m sorry this has happened to you. You have the knowledge to persist in finding help for yourself. I believe weight loss is a mental game to switch from old ways of doing things. When we make the decision to get WLS it’s also a decision to try a new way of handling problems because life is often challenging. I know you can do it!

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