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Not sure how the surgery is the easy way out. Does he understand how much work we will have to do the rest of our lives? Watching what we eat and how much of it as well. Taking our Vitamins routinely so we don't get sick. We still have to get our exercise. It is just a tool to help us get to where we want to be. We have to work at it to stay that way. Hope your hubby comes around. We need all the support we can get.

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Hello. I am new here. I have my first initial consult with the bariatric surgeon next week. I know I have to tell my wife and frankly I do not know how she will react. Knowing her she will say I don't need surgery, I just need to stop snacking particularly at night. I really want her support if I decide to have WLS, probably the original gastric bypass. I have struggled with my weight since I was a teenager. I am now 67. I was on the original Atkins in 1971. I have yo-yo dieted many times. I don't think I am morbidly obese and I hide my weight well but my BMI is 37%. I have enjoyed bicycling and at one point about 20 years ago I was riding a lot 2-3 hour 4-5 times a week. Even then I was not able to lose much and always struggled up every hill.

I take medication for high blood pressure, cholesterol, GERD and type II diabetes. My other main motivation is to get off my medications. I understand this will be a transformative procedure if I choose to have it and will radically need to alter the way I eat. I think I am prepared for that.

Any suggestions on "selling" the idea to my wife would be appreciated. I know I would enjoy bicycling much more and probably ride more. I do still work some, about 20 hours a week. I work at home. Thank you.

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Keep at it. People will never truly understand what goes into this until they see all of your hard work first hand. He will come around!

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