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Betty1971    386

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I am from North Dakota and its winter time, and we are obviously in a pandemic but holy cow, this has really changed my social life. I have really realized how much my life revolved around going out to eat, having people over to eat, going out for appetizers and having drinks and so forth. I am excited for spring so we can start with some outside activities but in the mean time I am starting to get cabin fever

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yea - same over here in Wisconsin. I feel like I'm trapped in my house again. Really looking forward to spring...

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Betty1971    386

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40 minutes ago, catwoman7 said:

yea - same over here in Wisconsin. I feel like I'm trapped in my house again. Really looking forward to spring...

I am even looking forward to mowing my lawn! I feel all caged its supposed to get above zero this weekend so thats a plus. We live quite a ways out in the country and bought home gym equipment so I cannot even use "going to the gym" as an excuse to get out and socialize.

When the neighbors call and want to get tougher and have drinks or supper I am super stand offish? I guess eventually I will have to get used to socializing and drinking ice Water and watching people eat?? It just seams so odd?

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kellym1220    474

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I think after three months, I was (with careful planning) able to go out and have drinks and appetizers with friends. I would order a shrimp cocktail or seared ahi or even chicken wings (naked) and a martini, or a glass of wine which I sipped very slowly. I even went out for mexican food and ordered shrimp fajitas and ate just the shrimp and refried Beans. Okay, it took three meals to eat all of the shrimp and beans...I took home the leftovers! Now, I bring a carb smart tortilla in my purse, so I can make a little shrimp taco...YUM!!

If you host the event, no one would notice if you were drinking flavored water or something other than alcohol and you could make sure there was something you could eat, if not freely, at least without fear! So host a game night with your neighbors!

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I think after three months, I was (with careful planning) able to go out and have drinks and appetizers with friends. I would order a shrimp cocktail or seared ahi or even chicken wings (naked) and a martini, or a glass of wine which I sipped very slowly. I even went out for mexican food and ordered shrimp fajitas and ate just the shrimp and refried Beans. Okay, it took three meals to eat all of the shrimp and beans...I took home the leftovers! Now, I bring a carb smart tortilla in my purse, so I can make a little shrimp taco...YUM!!
If you host the event, no one would notice if you were drinking flavored water or something other than alcohol and you could make sure there was something you could eat, if not freely, at least without fear! So host a game night with your neighbors!

Just curious what surgery did you have?

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        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

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