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Hi.

I'm 19 days post WLS today and on my pureed diet period.

I feel hungry and eat 3 meals and 2-3 Snacks a day, in small portions of course.

Count the calories of every meal and snack.< /p>

Between 700-900 kcal a day.

I feel guilty after eating. Think I must starve to loose more weight. Have constant feeling that I'm not going to loose anymore weight. Putting on instead.

I'm 176cm tall and current weight is 280lbs.

Anyone else going through same situation and how do you deal with it?

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as long as you follow your clinics program, you'll lose weight.

starving yourself is a terrible idea - your body needs the nutrition and you'll destroy your health if you starve yourself. Plus kill your metabolism. Just follow your clinic's food plan.

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You probably should cut out the Snacks. Most WLS programs call for 3 meals a day and no snacks or at most 1 snack. We have to get used to eating correctly and not grazing.

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700-900 kcal a day does not seem excessive given your current weight. You're only 19 days post-op. Focus on sticking with the eating plan you were given and hitting both Protein and Water goals. Give your new tummy and your prescribed eating plan a chance to work. I was also fearful that surgery would not yield successful results for me but it turned out that what has worked for so many others, worked for me too! Give it a chance. 😊

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I'd respectfully disagree with Grady here. Advice varies in the medical world & each body/stomach is unique. You may require the odd nutritious snack, especially if its high Protein. I'm exercising at a level that requires more protein than many at my stage (I'm pretty new to this too!) My nutritionist wants me to have protein yogurts or bars post work out to prevent muscle loss.

I know someone who has a long thin stomach & can't fit enough in at normal meal times so must supplement by snacking.

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3 minutes ago, Kam-R said:

I know someone who has a long thin stomach & can't fit enough in at normal meal times so much supplement by snacking.

I think this may be my situation as well. Instead of 3 main meals, I've settled into a routine of 5-6 mini-meals. But I weigh and measure everything and overall, my daily caloric intake averages 800-900. I've been able to reach my weight goal and a normal BMI. We're all different.

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56 minutes ago, Kam-R said:

Advice varies in the medical world & each body/stomach is unique.

+1

We are not one size fits all and everyone will respond differently to the seemingly endless amounts of programs out there.

To the OP: Find what works and try not to beat yourself up if you aren’t fitting squarely into a program or whatever. So long as there is a downward trend over time (and your labs come back fine), then its all good.

Edited to add: of course what works today may not work as effectively a couple months from now. The challenge is to recognize when to maintain the status quo and when its time to re-evaluate and make adjustments.

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24 minutes ago, ms.sss said:

Edited to add: of course what works today may not work as effectively a couple months from now. The challenge is to recognize when to maintain the status quo and when its time to re-evaluate and make adjustments.

Very true. As my weight came down I eventually had to add exercise in order to keep losing. Over time, it may become necessary to change things up.

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1 hour ago, GradyCat said:

You probably should cut out the Snacks. Most WLS programs call for 3 meals a day and no Snacks or at most 1 snack. We have to get used to eating correctly and not grazing.

My plan calls for 4-6 meals per day.

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You probably should cut out the Snacks. Most WLS programs call for 3 meals a day and no snacks or at most 1 snack. We have to get used to eating correctly and not grazing.
Thank you.
But as the other mentioned my program suggested that. And I take lactosefree fat free milk or Protein yoghurt as snack.


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700-900 kcal a day does not seem excessive given your current weight. You're only 19 days post-op. Focus on sticking with the eating plan you were given and hitting both Protein and Water goals. Give your new tummy and your prescribed eating plan a chance to work. I was also fearful that surgery would not yield successful results for me but it turned out that what has worked for so many others, worked for me too! Give it a chance. [emoji4]
Thank you.
You are right. I need to give it more time.
But as I said Its my fear and I feel guilty after eating.
Will definitely observe and adapt changes if needed, like exercise and more water.
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I'd respectfully disagree with Grady here. Advice varies in the medical world & each body/stomach is unique. You may require the odd nutritious snack, especially if its high Protein. I'm exercising at a level that requires more protein than many at my stage (I'm pretty new to this too!) My nutritionist wants me to have protein yogurts or bars post work out to prevent muscle loss.
I know someone who has a long thin stomach & can't fit enough in at normal meal times so must supplement by snacking.
Thank you.
I agree. Maybe I just need to give it more time.
What type of exercises can I don at this stage?
I'm almost 3 weeks now.
Incisions have almost healed but was reading that the staple line needs 6-8 weeks to complete healing.
I'm scared to do something wrong in order to overdo something.
I feel stretching feeling of the pouch and pain whenever I stretch my arms or stay in a position for long time. Like sleeping on one side with arms .


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33 minutes ago, sach1 said:

Thank you.
I agree. Maybe I just need to give it more time.
What type of exercises can I don at this stage?
I'm almost 3 weeks now.
Incisions have almost healed but was reading that the staple line needs 6-8 weeks to complete healing.
I'm scared to do something wrong in order to overdo something.
I feel stretching feeling of the pouch and pain whenever I stretch my arms or stay in a position for long time. Like sleeping on one side with arms .


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Your surgeon should be able to tell you how aggressive your exercises can be. I just had my two week post op and during my lap Sleeve surgery he fixed a hernia and removed a few polyps I had but he still gave me the go ahead to get on the treadmill as much as I want as long as its just a brisk walk. No weight lifting or actual running yet but walking a couple times a day for a couple miles really feels good. Your surgeon should tell you exactly how much for your specific situation you can handle.

I am an old nurse and can tell you that our bodies are much tougher than we give them credit for. When we feel things tug and pull when we stretch our arms and such it isn't necessarily a bad thing. Those muscles we are guarding need to be used or else we can actually do more harm than good. I nice steady stretch that is slow with deep breathing is a super good way to get blood flow to entire body.

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Your surgeon should be able to tell you how aggressive your exercises can be. I just had my two week post op and during my lap Sleeve surgery he fixed a hernia and removed a few polyps I had but he still gave me the go ahead to get on the treadmill as much as I want as long as its just a brisk walk. No weight lifting or actual running yet but walking a couple times a day for a couple miles really feels good. Your surgeon should tell you exactly how much for your specific situation you can handle.
I am an old nurse and can tell you that our bodies are much tougher than we give them credit for. When we feel things tug and pull when we stretch our arms and such it isn't necessarily a bad thing. Those muscles we are guarding need to be used or else we can actually do more harm than good. I nice steady stretch that is slow with deep breathing is a super good way to get blood flow to entire body.

He recommended 30 mins walk 3x a week maximum.
With kids at home and this weather its difficult for me to go out for a walk.
I will ask him again what type of exercises I can do at home.
I agree we are much tougher than we think.
I will start with stretching and maybe walk on the spit for few minutes.
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6 hours ago, sach1 said:

Between 700-900 kcal a day.

I feel guilty after eating. Think I must starve to loose more weight. Have constant feeling that I'm not going to loose anymore weight. Putting on instead.

You are already starving your body.

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