We are embarking on something that will forever change our lives, and there are many health issues WLS will resolve and that's a good thing … But can we just be for real and say We want to look good and sexy and more attractive in our and other's eyes... true or not ?

Let's hear it …….

thank you!!!

3 hours ago, november11 said:

But can we just be for real and say We want to look good and sexy and more attractive in our and other's eyes... true or not ?

Unfortunately we aren't really allowed to voice that we want to look good as well in addition to being healthy. That how we look really bothers us just as our health issues bother us. Same with plastics.

Why?

Insurance issues.

Edited November 6, 20196 yr by summerset

Raises hand and says Yes.... One of my main motivations was to look better. I was in a very long marriage and we would go a year with having sex 1-2x's. I thought, if only i could lose the weight he would find me more attractive and life would be great. So in 2009 I got banded, lost 89lbs (100 but to hard to maintain). Went from 232 to 143. But instead of getting better my marriage fell even more apart. He couldn't handle the attention i was getting. And to be honest, it was intoxicating.... i loved it. We divorced in 2017 after 26 years. Fast forward.... 2017, flu/stomach bug = slipped band. Fast forward Aug. 2019 173.5lbs..... Sleeve. Todays weight 144.4

Starting to feel sexy again. Sept. 2019 remarried and feeling great..... bring on 52 years old... i'm ready

niceeeeee!!

5 hours ago, GreenTealael said:

Following ? Cant wait to see responses

But sadly for me it's false. I promise it was not my purpose. So much so that I am still physically disgusted by positive change in attention pre vs. post from others. I on the other hand thought myself to look fine either way ?

This! Most of the positive comments from people in my life are well-intentioned, but I still don't want the extra attention... And also, oddly enough, I wasn't mentally ready to have the surgery until I was comfortable with the way I looked before I started losing weight! I worry I won't like my post-op body as much as my pre-op body...

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My health was my #1 concern, but of course looking good is a great reward

While yes I want to look better, I have enough health issues that I need to have this surgery. My primary doctor asked me to take a leap of faith. He has been recommending this surgery for a couple years. It took me this long to realize I need to do it.

at 60 years old, nope. As someone else said, that ship sailed awhile ago. But I was tired of people looking at me like I was a freak, so I guess in that respect it's true. But I mostly did it for health reasons.

7 hours ago, JRT Mom said:

But can we just be for real and say We want to look good and sexy and more attractive in our and other's eyes...

Absolutely part of the whole fantastic list of positives in my mind! While the movement, comfort, confidence, "fitting" in places, and health benefits top my list, looking nice in clothes (especially 2nd hand clothes!) is going to be wonderful, if I'm so blessed to get to a healthy weight.

One of my reasons, but my health was the biggest reason.

november11 I am totally not gonna lie, I want to have my old pre weight body back! I want to look sexy for my husband and I want to look good just for me. The health is a big issue for me, but I cant wait to get into some really great clothes that I have. If I am going to go through all of this work and diet, Id like as many positives reasons as possible and if looking good is on the list, I am good with it!

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It’s too late and I’m too tired so I’m posting to bookmark this thread

Raises hand!

A year ago, I finally hit bottom and was tired of always feeling crappy, not liking how I looked, having no self confidence, etc. and made the decision to have surgery.

Fast forward...I am 8 months out and am starting to love what I see in the mirror. I’m starting to take more risks, finding my voice and coming into my own.

The photo on the left was me five years ago, the one on the right was 3 weeks ago. I still have a ways to go to hit my goal but I’m pretty freakin proud of how far I’ve come and can’t wait to see what’s ahead.