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Well I finally have my surgery date set for Sept 9. Been a tough 6 months (had to wait for insurance approval), but I made it.,

I am on vacation this week and I find myself taking that one last "fling" as far as eating and drinking goes. I'm back to all of my old ways and feeling very guilty about it but I just cant seem to stop. All my old BAD eating habits are back and it happened just like that.

Is this normal? I feel that what the heck. Im having the surgery and if anything will get me back on track, that will.,

Anyone else had similar experience???

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Lots of us had "food funerals" right before we started the pre-op diet. It's a type of mourning, I think. Even though people have told you that you'll eventually be eating normal foods again, it will be a while. I don't think people who had these funerals did any worse long-term than anyone else.

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On 08/19/2019 at 07:26, Orchids&Dragons said:



Lots of us had "food funerals" right before we started the pre-op diet. It's a type of mourning, I think. Even though people have told you that you'll eventually be eating normal foods again, it will be a while. I don't think people who had these funerals did any worse long-term than anyone else.


Agree with this!

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I've seen several here who have had "food funerals" so I think it's normal. I was too scared and wanted to start changes in advance, so I was already following the post-op program even before surgery.

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Well I finally have my surgery date set for Sept 9. Been a tough 6 months (had to wait for insurance approval), but I made it.,
I am on vacation this week and I find myself taking that one last "fling" as far as eating and drinking goes. I'm back to all of my old ways and feeling very guilty about it but I just cant seem to stop. All my old BAD eating habits are back and it happened just like that.
Is this normal? I feel that what the heck. Im having the surgery and if anything will get me back on track, that will.,
Anyone else had similar experience???

I had multiple food funerals before my surgery 3 days ago. I was on 2 7 days vacations right before my surgery. 1 was a cruise and you can imagine how that went. The other was in an all inclusive resort. Needless to say, I was in food heaven. I should regret it (and maybe I felt guilty sometimes) but it has not affected me as bad as I thought it would!

Good luck, relax and as long as you listen to successful people and your program, you should be fine.[emoji169][emoji169][emoji169][emoji106]

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So my docter said he didnt think the 6month diet was helpful with getting the surgery done. So the 2 weeks before surgery i ate what ever fat, fried, sugar, carbs you name it id go to cheese cake factory for cheeese cake then go get a California roll and carls junior onion rings with ranch and a chipotle burrito it all sounds so amazing.i was telling so many foods bye i wont see u in a very long time maybe never. Morning my precious life going down the drain for a healthier lifestyle. Then followed the 2days before surgery liquid diet . After surgery in my first 7 days i lost 16 pounds it was crazy so i was very happy i enjoyed myself before hand i believe it helped me lose alittle more in the beginning of my journey!!

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So my docter said he didnt think the 6month diet was helpful with getting the surgery done. So the 2 weeks before surgery i ate what ever fat, fried, sugar, carbs you name it id go to cheese cake factory for cheeese cake then go get a California roll and carls junior onion rings with ranch and a chipotle burrito it all sounds so amazing.i was telling so many foods bye i wont see u in a very long time maybe never. Morning my precious life going down the drain for a healthier lifestyle. Then followed the 2days before surgery liquid diet . After surgery in my first 7 days i lost 16 pounds it was crazy so i was very happy i enjoyed myself before hand i believe it helped me lose alittle more in the beginning of my journey!!

I actually agree with your logic though as it's been emphasized by everyone that every body is different. My fear was that I would do preop diet and go straight into a stall post op![emoji53]

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And my pre- surgery unfounded worry? The anesthesiologist would put me to sleep, my surgeon would change His Mind and I would wake up unoperated upon and crying my eyes💦out! Did Not happen that way- as I reflect at nearly a Year Out, why was I THAT distrustful? Why did I have such a Poor Opinion of myself that I thought I wouldn't deserve Something So Wonderful to happen? Perhaps we all have Emotional Baggage and that was the last piece on the airport Carousel. Glad I didn't reclaim IT, may it ride in circles through Infinity!

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OMG...……..I feel exactly the same way. Been prepping for 6months(insurance waiting period)and my Surgery date is Sept 9

and I am CONVINVCED that something will go wrong and the surgeon wont do it. I guess my insecurities are really showing their ugly colors.

Fingers crossed

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I've never heard the term "food funeral" before but that's exactly what I'm doing. Seems normal to me but really what is normal for each person's weight loss journey. I have two days until I begin the pre-op diet. In a way, I can't wait to begin this journey. And I'm so glad I found this forum. Know that I appreciate all who share personal information to help others.

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I definitely had multiple food funerals during my two-week pre-op "diet" period. I don't regret it whatsoever. I got in all those last "flavors" of foods I mentally committed myself to not having again. I feel like I've been very successful thus far (granted, it hasn't been a full year yet), and I haven't cheated once or really had very many cravings.

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You are totally normal. I definitely had several “food funerals” before mine! Lol

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I had my "last supper" like I was on death row before starting my pre-op diet -LOL. Quite the pig-out I must say!

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