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On ‎8‎/‎12‎/‎2019 at 1:09 PM, AnnieD78 said:

I just had the worst conversation with my sister. I had called her to tell her I came from the endodontist who told me I have to have a root canal. I told her that as I was leaving he was like “good luck with your surgery, but you already look great.” And I was annoyed. So I was telling her I was annoyed and she said why? And I said “I guess I’m not comfortable with people commenting on my body” and she said “well you better get used to it and you’re going to lose weight so quickly that your mind won’t be able to keep up.” And I said “and also how does he know I’m having surgery to look good? What if I want to feel good?” And she said “I feel like most people have surgery to look good” and I said “well you can feel whatever you want but the science says otherwise. People have this surgery to resolve a ton of other medical problems. Skinny people who have uncontrolled diabetes have it in order to help their diabetes” and she’s like “well you’re having it to look good.” And she knows why I’m having it. It’s because my feet hurt, my knees hurt, I can’t be active anymore. I’m ashamed to leave the house sometimes. BTW my surgery is on Wednesday. I am single and wish she could be supportive but I just don’t think it’s in her. She is taking me to the hospital though. my mom passed away in March, and I really wish she was here right now.

I also had family issues that came up like this prior to surgery. I just had to within myself let them have their opinion and say what they needed and now post op make them eat everyone of those comments! I am only in my 30's and have arthritis so bad in my ankle and leg there were days I was not even mobile. My family knew. And yet still made comments. And now post op they may say you look good but its always followed by "I bet you feel better now that your not in all that pain". So as frustrating as it is and many of us can relate just stay focused on you. BE SELFISH! Take your life back. And last thing the ones who seem to be not so supportive...deep down they are jealous.

Sorry to hear about you mother.

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