Keeping secrets

WorththeWeight · December 4, 2007

Did I tell anyone? Yes...my husband, my sis, 3 of my closest friends and one coworker. Havent regretted it yet. Didnt and am not going to tell my parents or in-laws. My mom is incredibly judgemental. She was overweight years ago and through hard work and diet, she lost over 60 lbs. She would have given me tons of grief.

As for how did I keep it secret? Much like everyone else. Told my boss I was having surgery (female issues) and would be out for a week for recovery. He never asked for any more details and as far as my coworkers know, I'm on vacation (I was banded on 11/30. RTW on 12/10).

It's a very personal decision and obviously it's up to each one of us as to how we handle it. The band is mine and all that goes along with it!

turtlewind47 · December 4, 2007

The third week after surgery I went on a cruise and told as many people who showed a little bit of interest about my LB weight loss surgery. It helped get my happiness out! Finally losing weight, put me on a high. Eliminating back pain, gave me peace. And talking about it with strangers who had no preconceived idea of who I was, or what I should do was liberating.

Now am back at home. Somewhat talked out. Am glad, as my weight loss has slowed to a pound or half each week. My DH is encouraging by noticing changes. A kind word goes a long way.

As for the nay sayers, I look forward to continue growing and meeting upbeat new friends.

thundandlight · December 5, 2007

I totally agree with you Hungryforchange. That's exactly how I feel about telling about the surgery for me. I thought I had written it, hehe. The only difference is I'm getting banded Dec 27th and will be on Protein liquid diet during our family Christmas eve party. That will definately be a challenge. Since I see my family quite often (we all live pretty close to each other), and just spent Thanksgiving with them, I won't feel bad if all of a sudden I don't feel well and stay home Christmas Eve night! That's my secret! I'll still send my hubby to the party, hehe.

4jin · December 5, 2007

Well I haven't told....

4jin · December 5, 2007

My husband knows I am having surgery, he just doesn't know what it is for.....

is that terrible of me?

He is being supportive..and I did mention I will be loosing weight because of it....

sil · June 18, 2008

i,ve only told my boyfriend an 19 year oldan my 17 year old they are yound adults, they are with me 100%, i,ve got 6 months to go so when i get close to a date i will phone long distance an tell my family, sister,s an brothers right now i,m going throuht the process of getting things done.