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Jhawaiianhny    23

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Hey there... I've read about people who've had the wls that start a new addiction... instead of food they turn to something else...

I think I'm one of them... and there's no one I can talk to about it where I live...

I drink wine... everyday.... not just a glass, not just a bottle, sometimes it's 2 bottles or even 3... once I pour a glass or even take a sip I can't stop till I either pass out or run out.

It gets kind of bad sometimes, I wake up not remembering what I did before sleeping... but the thing I recently realized about why I drink... it's "healthier"to me then putting food into my mouth... I'm so terrified to gain weight back!

It's hard to explain really...I don't know... maybe it's me just being stupid...idk...I make 2 years November 1st...

I guess I just wanted to know if I was alone or not???

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Matt Z    4,140

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1 hour ago, Jhawaiianhny said:

Hey there... I've read about people who've had the wls that start a new addiction... instead of food they turn to something else...

I think I'm one of them... and there's no one I can talk to about it where I live...

I drink wine... everyday.... not just a glass, not just a bottle, sometimes it's 2 bottles or even 3... once I pour a glass or even take a sip I can't stop till I either pass out or run out.

It gets kind of bad sometimes, I wake up not remembering what I did before sleeping... but the thing I recently realized about why I drink... it's "healthier"to me then putting food into my mouth... I'm so terrified to gain weight back!

It's hard to explain really...I don't know... maybe it's me just being stupid...idk...I make 2 years November 1st...

I guess I just wanted to know if I was alone or not???

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This is what the pre-op psy exam is supposed to help flush out. Get to some addiction counseling / AA. Several bottles of wine a day, sadly, makes you an alcoholic. You seem to be accepting the addiction to wine, now you need to step up and get some help. Alcohol is in no way a healthier option than food, I don't see how you can justify wine as being healthier. 2 bottles of wine puts you into the 1300 - 1500 calorie a day mark, and with no Protein or other required nutritional value... it's pure empty calories. So it's really no better than soda from a "health" standpoint.

I hope you do get some help... this is bad on a few levels for a non-altered person, worse so for a WLS patient.

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Healthy_life    1,437

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4 hours ago, Jhawaiianhny said:

Hey there... I've read about people who've had the wls that start a new addiction... instead of food they turn to something else...

I think I'm one of them... and there's no one I can talk to about it where I live...

I drink wine... everyday.... not just a glass, not just a bottle, sometimes it's 2 bottles or even 3... once I pour a glass or even take a sip I can't stop till I either pass out or run out.

It gets kind of bad sometimes, I wake up not remembering what I did before sleeping... but the thing I recently realized about why I drink... it's "healthier"to me then putting food into my mouth... I'm so terrified to gain weight back!

It's hard to explain really...I don't know... maybe it's me just being stupid...idk...I make 2 years November 1st...

I guess I just wanted to know if I was alone or not???

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It's time to address what's going on. Cross addictions after surgery are common. It's important that you have recognized that you are having an issue with alcohol. Look up treatment options in your area.

Addiction is a primary, chronic disease of brain reward, motivation, memory and related circuitry. Dysfunction in these circuits leads to characteristic biological, psychological, social and spiritual manifestations. This is reflected in an individual pathologically pursuing reward and/or relief by substance use and other behaviors.

Addiction is characterized by inability to consistently abstain, impairment in behavioral control, craving, diminished recognition of significant problems with one’s behaviors and interpersonal relationships, and a dysfunctional emotional response. Like other chronic diseases, addiction often involves cycles of relapse and remission. Without treatment or engagement in recovery activities, addiction is progressive and can result in disability or premature death.

You can overcome this!

Wish you the best,

Jenn

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jujusmommy07    59

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You are not alone. Studies are showing that people that have had bariatric sergery are more likely to get late onset alcoholism.
I suggest to start cutting back if you noticed that cutting back causes you to have physical effects such as shaking I would mention it to your primary care doctor. You colossal look into AA meetings and your community.

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insta_adventurer    1,046

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First of all... good on you for recognizing and admitting you have a problem. That’s not an easy step and is honestly the hardest part. You should be proud that you’re able to be so honest with yourself. Most people go years and can never manage to do so!

At this point, I would really recommend finding a therapist or counselor who specializes in addiction treatment. They will be the ones that can help you figure out what you’ve been using food and now alcohol to really cope with.

Best of luck to you! It’s time to take control and you’ve already taken the hardest step!

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Walter.Sobchak    978

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I had been sober for 9 years before weight loss surgery. Everyone told me I had to be careful after surgery and really protect my sobriety. About 3 months after surgery I ended up relapsing and almost died. Like literally almost died, had to be taken to the ER in an ambulance. I have since regained sobriety but it has been very hard. You have two choices, continue to drink like an alcoholic and see where that takes you or get into a program of recovery. I got sober in AA and I know the program works if you are committed to it. Ultimately it’s your choice and no one else’s. If you choose to keep drinking then more power to you. No one can make you get sober.

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On 10/15/2018 at 1:53 AM, Jhawaiianhny said:

Hey there... I've read about people who've had the wls that start a new addiction... instead of food they turn to something else...

I think I'm one of them... and there's no one I can talk to about it where I live...

I drink wine... everyday.... not just a glass, not just a bottle, sometimes it's 2 bottles or even 3... once I pour a glass or even take a sip I can't stop till I either pass out or run out.

It gets kind of bad sometimes, I wake up not remembering what I did before sleeping... but the thing I recently realized about why I drink... it's "healthier"to me then putting food into my mouth... I'm so terrified to gain weight back!

It's hard to explain really...I don't know... maybe it's me just being stupid...idk...I make 2 years November 1st...

I guess I just wanted to know if I was alone or not???

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My doctor warned me the top 3 " New comforts" in my life could be sex, gambling, or drinking. You're not alone.

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Frustr8    7,886

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Hey can I take 2 from Column A or do I need to embrace all 3? Drinking- bad for a bari-patient, we get drunk quicker, not sure I have enough loose capital for gambling but sex, hmmn, fun, can be done at home,or away, doesn't. necessitate a crowd or membership cards. No clothing styles or uniforms, in fact,clothing largely optional. So a vice I could grow to enjoy, okay where are YOU SIGNING UP PEOPLE? Please let us all know.😝🚩🎪

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On 11/21/2018 at 12:38 AM, Frustr8 said:

Hey can I take 2 from Column A or do I need to embrace all 3? Drinking- bad for a bari-patient, we get drunk quicker, not sure I have enough loose capital for gambling but sex, hmmn, fun, can be done at home,or away, doesn't. necessitate a crowd or membership cards. No clothing styles or uniforms, in fact,clothing largely optional. So a vice I could grow to enjoy, okay where are YOU SIGNING UP PEOPLE? Please let us all know.😝🚩🎪

It's not fun. I promise. I haven't even had surgery yet and and particular addition is destroying my life. It's all I ever think about now that I've completely overhauled my diet. In fact I've put myself on the Optifast plan. I have 4 - 5 cups of unflavored, unsweetened Protein isolate miked with Water. 1 meal for dinner. Only eat meat on the weekends. 800 calories a day, at least 108 grams of protien. Plus intermittent fasting 16/8. The weight is flying off. I don't know how much I weight now becuase I hid my scale, but all my clothes fit looser and I can definitely see the difference. My surgeon should be pleased. The only reason I'm successful is because I know I'm having this surgery in January.

I'm convinced I've been visited in the middle of the night by the Barbaric Fairy and she took most of my stomach with her lol. I've even experienced dumping to day! I was fighting my urge to engage in a sexual act, right here at work! Sitting next to me was a gift bag of Cookies my boss gave me. I ate about 5 nickerdoodles and a whole candy bar. It all came out of both ends. FML

As least I feel so sick that I'm no longer have the "urge" but it always comes back. Always.

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