Apparently I'm single and should start thinking about dating again.

Where are people meeting each other these days?

On 10/25/2018 at 4:22 PM, xoxococojay said:

I would say skip online dating and have fun. You’ll meet some of the most amazing people unexpectedly just by doing hobbies you love. I accidentally met the love of my life after wls that way. I’m not against online dating or anything, i guess my suggestion would be- take some time to date your self instead of going into it with a full blown purpose if that makes sense. Who knows, you may even meet your match randomly at whole foods or the gym or something.

Sorry you’re going through that hun, view it as the right door closing and a better one about to open. ?

Expert level advice right here!

@greenTealael it’s been a min since i posted, how are you feeling now? I hope all is well.

Dark room- good advice!
However it doesn’t seem to go that direction. Clearly I’m not a skinny person, clothed or unclothed, I just KNOW it’s not what they’re expecting. I also know some men may not mind, it’s much more a confidence issue with me!
Lights off, I’ll rock your world. Lights on, I’m timid and shy! ??

A little poem from my still obese-time youth
Not for us a totally empty larder***
We may not be as prevelant, but we GIRLS try harder!
I always thought scrawny and anorexic didn't look as attractive as gently rounded. ?So go be your best YOU, rock yourself and I believe, the Right Person for you will come!

16 minutes ago, sarhgrif said:

Dark room- good advice!
However it doesn’t seem to go that direction. Clearly I’m not a skinny person, clothed or unclothed, I just KNOW it’s not what they’re expecting. I also know some men may not mind, it’s much more a confidence issue with me!
Lights off, I’ll rock your world. Lights on, I’m timid and shy! ??

You know confidence is built upon repetition and mastery of something. It can take upwards of 10000 hours to become a master at something. That's a LOT of cardio "practice"! Keep experimenting and growing and honing your craft and experience. Confidence is imminently attractive to guys!!

Edited November 8, 20187 yr by FluffyChix

9 hours ago, GreenTealael said:

So... Friend zoned (I was the zoning committee, Just didn't feel quite right so I asked to remain friends for now)

BUT

I randomly meet two people out in the wild. The first one at a local food Co-op, the second while with Friends. I'm opt-in for door #2 I think...

This is work... I'm tiredt

You met men in the wild!?!? That doesn't even seem possible these days!

6 minutes ago, sillykitty said:

You met men in the wild!?!? That doesn't even seem possible these days!

IKR!?!?!

I thought they were extinct. If only for pure anthropological research I must continue my observations ... What we do for the advancements of the Sciences

1 hour ago, sarhgrif said:

Dark room- good advice!

Lights off, I’ll rock your world. Lights on, I’m timid and shy! ??

I'm with @FluffyChix ... flattering lighting, and confidence!

Just rock his world a few times in the dark, or dim lighting, so you are comfortable and confident. Then once the lights come on, he'll already be thinking you're a sex goddess and he'll be crazy about every bit of you.

I'm speaking from experience .... just entered a relationship after losing 80 lbs (and losing nearly 20 more since), and before plastics. I hate the way I look naked, but he thinks I'm sexy af

5 minutes ago, GreenTealael said:

IKR!?!?!

I thought they were extinct. If only for pure anthropological research I must continue my observations ... What we do for the advancements of the Sciences

The sacrifices we make ....

4 minutes ago, sillykitty said:

I'm with @FluffyChix ... flattering lighting, and confidence!

Just rock his world a few times in the dark, or dim lighting, so you are comfortable and confident. Then once the lights come on, he'll already be thinking you're a sex goddess and he'll be crazy about every bit of you.

I'm speaking from experience .... just entered a relationship after losing 80 lbs (and losing nearly 20 more since), and before plastics. I hate the way I look naked, but he thinks I'm sexy af

That's because you are Sexy AF ?

1 hour ago, FluffyChix said:

You know confidence is built upon repetition and mastery of something. It can take upwards of 10000 hours to become a master at something. That's a LOT of cardio "practice"! Keep experimenting and growing and honing your craft and experience. Confidence is imminently attractive to guys!!

The Gladwell of cardio these days ... Observing, speculating and then just writing about ?

2 hours ago, xoxococojay said:

@greenTealael it’s been a min since i posted, how are you feeling now? I hope all is well.

I'm doing well, how about you?

Edited November 8, 20187 yr by GreenTealael

On ‎10‎/‎2‎/‎2018 at 7:26 PM, GreenTealael said:

Worst date ever

FML

I'm sorry...I'm totally LOL at all your posts in this thread! Keep swimming girl

On 11/8/2018 at 11:13 AM, GreenTealael said:

The Gladwell of cardio these days ... Observing, speculating and then just writing about ?

Ok, but inquiring minds and all and in the spirit of observation, speculating, then writing about it...how far did you get in the cardio pursuit before friend-zoning?

I've got a 10 year old daughter and I've been single for......10.5 years! Honestly dating and "cardio" have been on my mind a lot more since my decision to have WLS. December 4th is my surgery which also happens to be my birthday (did that on purpose)! I'd so love to meet a Mr. Wonderful but I'm worried my expectations are too high...like unrealistically high. I'd try the online dating thing but with caution. Hoping to be dating in less than a year maybe???