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I had my sleeve done in 2016 and did great lost 112 lbs got down to 109 at my lowest. This past year I had a baby and was 178lb at delivery. I was at 164.4 for the past three weeks today got on the scale and it said 169.5!!! I only had him 3 1/2 weeks ago but right now I'm feeling so discouraged. Like I'm living my biggest nightmare. I'm so scared I'm going to keep gaining an end up right where I was back in 2016. I plan so start a liquid diet and then once cleared by my ob I want to start swimming laps several times a week and add walking or volleyball to that. This is just horrible I'm reaching out to anyone who might have advice or has been where I currently am.

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First off, congrats on your new baby! I hope it is happy and healthy.

Second, lots of us moms know how you feel. Even though I was sleeved this year, when I had my daughter 26 years ago, I had just lost over 40 lbs. on Weight Watchers and I regained some of it. Your big challenge is going to be exhaustion. Your body has just accomplished an amazing, difficult task and it's tired. Add lack of sleep and maybe the demands of nursing, and you are one tired Mommy.

Try not to push too hard, too early to get all the weight back off. Take it slower and steady. You've been through a lot.

I know you want to fix this immediately, but you don't want to get sick by stretching yourself too thin. Good luck.

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If you're breastfeeding, you'll want to make sure you get enough calories to feed the baby, too. This is something to talk about with your teams (bariatric and post-natal and maybe also a pediatric team). Balancing your nutrition and the baby's is going to be important.

Even if you aren't breastfeeding, your body is healing, and it is probably holding on to some resources to make milk.

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Breastfeed if you can. I lost weight after both my kids just by feeding them--30 pounds with both. And believe me, you lose weight from skipping meals. You won't mean to but there will be times you are so exhausted you will forget to eat--you will even forget to be hungry.

Congrats on your little one and best of luck!

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And eat a clean healthy diet, granted you can produce milk on most any, but give you little one the Grade A double A breast milk they deserve!

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Thanks everyone. I breastfed for a short while but decided it wasn't the route I wanted to take. So I recently stopped a few days ago. The stress from it was just too much baby was hungry and I just wasn't cutting it. I hadn't started any type of diet while bf cause I wanted to make him enough milk even then it wasn't enough. I'm very hard on myself. Getting on the scale this morning seeing I've only gained weight just has ruined my whole day. I'm trying to be understanding that this will take time. But I don't like seeing things go the other way . Very stressful.

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Leah,

I totally understand! I am also 2 years out. I didn't have as much success as you initially but about a year out I started losing. I then found out I was pregnant with TWINS! My girls are 6 months old now and I do not breast feed. I would but I never produced enough o keep up with both of them. I gained 68 lbs while pregnant with them and was able to get rid of 45 of those pounds the two days I was in hospital after giving birth. Now, I am stuck.

I am trying to go back to basics though. Hopefully it works out!

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Leah,

I totally understand! I am also 2 years out. I didn't have as much success as you initially but about a year out I started losing. I then found out I was pregnant with TWINS! My girls are 6 months old now and I do not breast feed. I would but I never produced enough o keep up with both of them. I gained 68 lbs while pregnant with them and was able to get rid of 45 of those pounds the two days I was in hospital after giving birth. Now, I am stuck.

I am trying to go back to basics though. Hopefully it works out!
Oh my your a strong woman carrying twins! Nice to hear someone else has been there. I wish you the best of luck hopefully we both can reach our goals

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1 hour ago, leah_born said:

Oh my your a strong woman carrying twins! Nice to hear someone else has been there. I wish you the best of luck hopefully we both can reach our goals

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Aw thank you!! Same to you!

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Leah,

If we look at the biology of pregnancy, we'll find a lot of weight gain is from evolution to help human mothers survive the stress. The baby weigh only a few pounds but the mothers weight goes up 3x the baby's weight. The mother builds up another half gallon or so of blood to help her not bleed out during birth, she'll hold more Water to help keep nutrients flowing, growing and thickening uterus adds a couple pounds, breast tissue swells, etc. You're getting some things that will probably not go away quickly. Welcome to one of a thousand headaches of parenthood.

Don't freak out. Kids are stressful enough. Eat healthy and as much as you need to stay sharp. At 3.5 weeks your hormones will still mess with your weight. Worry about losing the weight when you feel good.

-EQ

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You are really still healing, and even stopping nursing is a mess. I was a hormonal wreck and I nursed for a year. I was a hot mess the first month after delivering. Eat healthy food and take the baby for walks in the stroller. Don’t beat yourself up. You just had a baby!! You can do this.

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