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I don't think I could have prepared for the loss of appetite that happens with surgery. I'm not hungry, haven't been hungry since 8/5 - the day before my surgery. I thought it would be awesome not being hungry. And in a way, it is. I wasn't prepared for how its not. I hate eating right now. I don't struggle doing it, I just don't want to do it. There is no joy in it, it takes up my time, it occasionally hurts if i try to rush it. Honestly would like to take a day off and not eat anything and would be perfectly content but I know thats not what's best for my body. So I guess I'll force down the Protein Drinks, Soups, and yogurts today. I hope this melancholy regarding food goes away at some point.

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Well...embrace it. Cuz it only lasts a short time. Glom onto it. Relish it. Get the basics in and get on with your life. Cuz trust me. Your appetite will come back and then you'll have to figure out what to do with all the cravings and head/gut hunger.

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I feel like it is an adjustment period, but that’s normal. Some of the pleasure is gone out of eating in some ways. Sometimes I think I am really looking forward to eating something, but then I eat it and I don’t enjoy food the way I used to.

Other times I have eaten something and wished I could eat more because it was so delicious!

I have days where I am not hungry and eating feels like a chore and days where I am hungry.

Things have definitely gotten easier as I’ve gotten farther out from surgery.

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Thanks guys, I just felt like whining this morning.

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4 minutes ago, FluffyChix said:

you'll have to figure out what to do with all the cravings and head/gut hunger.

This is true as well. I do have cravings now, especially for ice cream which was a major trigger food for me. The good news is the more weight I lose, the easier it is to avoid these things. But for sure some cravings will return!

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2 minutes ago, KCgirl061 said:

Thanks guys, I just felt like whining this morning.

Whining is allowed. :) It's "wwwwwwwiiiiiiiinnnnnneeeee-ing" you will be roasted at the stake for doing here. :) I honestly "exercise" the cravings away.

Some might see that as transferrance but I don't honestly see it as that "yet." I get up, get active, do a short burst of activity like walking around the house very fast. About 10 minutes does and extinguished the cravings. For real hunger, I just drink Water (water load) until a normal meal or snack time, then I eat a balanced meal.

But for food ambivalence, I honestly just relished those times. If I needed to cry I would. I talked it out a lot -- to anyone who would listen. ;) And came here a lot. Your hormones will be all over the place. You just have to remind yourself to process the feelings that come with not having food as one of your medications any more. My food ambivalence period only lasted about 3-4 weeks. So it was just a tiny blip on the radar.

Now, that I'm 6 months, I am dealing with the complete opposite and dealing with antipathy to making a lot of effort to make good choices in the face of cravings. I'm so close to goal and am feeling good in my body and comfortable in normal size clothes...these are all very dangerous to my mind-set of "laser focus get to goal at all costs."

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It will get better but the first few months can be tough. Just have to push through it because if you dont get something in you, then you will totally crash and have no energy.

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