So Confused

[acuttita 49]

So I’m almost 3 months post op and I’m stalled right now at the same weight for almost one week again. I’m not sure why i keep stalling, is anyone else experiencing this? I’m down 44 lbs since surgery but I feel like I should be down more when I see others who had the surgery around the same time as me. Also I feel like i need to live up to the expectations of others, especially one co-worker who had by-pass fifteen years ago and keeps reminding me she lost 100 lbs in six months. She keeps telling me I’m doing something wrong, am I? I’m so confused.

[Amc203 9]

I’m 3 weeks 4 days post opp and I’ve been stalked for over a week! Just try stay positive! Are you getting enough fluids ?

[BurBur 113]

You don't lose weight as fast with the sleeve as you do with a bypass. It's a better, healthier route in the long run. Ten pounds plus each month is very nice, really. Sure, you will see some who lose more or less than you, but you can't really compare yourself to anyone. Here's some food for thought since food for your tummy is in short supply :). Your body's metabolism is in the shitter 'cause it thinks your dying. Your system is still recovering from major surgery even though the roughest part is most likely past. You probably spent some of those three months less active than normal and you still may need to work in more activity to boost that metabolism. Don't step on the scale as often as you are because stress over progress is not helping your progress! I'd even scale back to weighing once a month. Do things like track calories or take body measurements. Measure your food to ensure continued support of learning true portion sizes. Instead of relying on a scale to give you positive feed back, rely on yourself to "know" you are doing the things you need to do for better eating, and living. If you step on a scale one week and it doesn't tell you the numbers you want to see, then you might actually hurt your progress by refusing much needed Protein, good fats and calories. You actually do have to eat in order to make magic happen, plus you don't want your hair falling out and clogging up you drains!

Oh, and your co-worker is toxic. What a horrible thing for them to say to you. I'd create some distance there because you don't need to be thinking about those words in the middle of the night when you can't sleep. It is normal to have some anxiety about the speed of your progress. You just agreed to have your body cut open, your stomach butchered into a wee little banana, and your whole life changed forever and ever. You want results and you want them right now :). I do too lol, but I know I am doing the right things for my body, I'm eating very healthy, I kayak on the ocean, I walk on the beach, I do my eliptical even though that is way too boring for me and now when I watch tv I work out with free weights mindlessly. I lose 10 lbs a month too and I have so far to go still, but ima not worry about it. Chin up, you will be amazing! Wait, I mean, you are amazing--try to believe that.

[BurBur 113]

3 hours ago, Amc203 said:

I’m 3 weeks 4 days post opp and I’ve been stalked for over a week! Just try stay positive! Are you getting enough fluids ?

I've always wondered if a stalker would be flattering to me or not. Do let me know how it goes for you :)!

[Matt Z 4,138]

If you are stalled out. First thing is to not worry about it. It happens.

If it is *REALLY* bothering you, then you need to make sure you are doing the following.

• You need to be tracking **EVERYTHING** You eat
• Your total calories need to be lower than your BMR
• You need to be tracking your Water intake and ensuring it's above 64oz, the human body needs water to break down fat, if you don't have enough to meet your normal requirements, fat loss is going to suffer
• You need to be doing SOME exercise, daily

If you aren't doing all of these. Then start.
Also, Weight is just 1 number in this whole process, if you are not tracking fat loss, you are missing out on another important measurement. You can not lose weight, or even gain weight and still lose body fat (if you are working out / exercising)

[madscientistmommy 124]

I am starting to slow down too. I find if I do a little bit of exercise it makes a tremendous difference. I like biking-find something you enjoy. And don’t compare yourself to others-we are all on our own journey. If you feel like you need some advice on food choices, ask your programs nutritionist. Good luck!!!