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Yes, it feels weird to become a 'project' and human nature just seems to take over. It will die down, but probably not soon enough to give you any relief. You can try deflecting - 'hey I love talking about this but I need to take my walk now, take my Vitamins, go write down meals in my food journal, and then walk away.' If you are trapped and can't leave, just ask them something personal - so how was your pap smear tuesday? Soon they will find something else to talk about.

And take all the compliments with a smile and a thank you and move on because that will end at some point.

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This is a hard one for me to understand! I wish people would notice that I’ve lost weight. I feel so much better about myself, but wondering if any improvements are even noticeable. On the other hand, it is hard to care since I truly feel so much better!

I refused to tell anyone about my surgery except my husband and mother prior to surgery and one couple after surgery who were restaurant and eating buddies since we didn’t want them to feel like they were being ignored. I asked that they honor my need for privacy which they have.

When people notice or comment about eating less, I tell them that I was told I was pre-diabetic and decided to change my life. It is the truth. It is honestly none of their business what tools or strategies are used.

My advice is to error on the side of caution when telling others about your surgery. One day, I may be willing to be more open if my story can help another person who suffers with weight, but for now, it is my own journey.

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