i want to share with ALL OF U someones comment that made me feel like shit tonight, just came back from visiting my bestfriends parents that have just arrived from overseas,, anyway all us girlfriends were sitting having our coffee and smoke out on the verandah, and my best friends mother turned around out of nowhere and said to me "how did u get so fat? i remember u when u were small u werent this fat" guys i just wanted to disappear,, u can all imagine...

How judgemental can someone be,, hello , never judge a book by its cover!

Anyway my girlfriends all know im going in tomorrow for surgery so they just ignored it and spoke over her,,,they tried hard to make me feel better because they all know my weight problem is a very personal and touchy topic...

After tonight's humiliation i want this band badly , no hesitation now , death or no death!!!!!im going in tomorrow!

MIND YOU this woman is a very big lady....... huge! so how dare she put me down like that,, guys u dont understand im realy f***** off!

I'm sorry this happened,I hate that! But think of it as the positive way.... Now you want it no matter what...

So do I.

I'm sorry she said that to you. People need to really think before the speak. I had a woman at church a few weeks ago, who's known me my whole life come up and pat my stomach and ask how my diets going, then proceeded to lecture me about how bad my weight is for my health. Yeah... I walked out of there in tears.

But like jelbel said think postivie now you know you really want this.

How Rude! And you should/could have spoken up and said so! I know I would. Anyway, I can also understand your humiliation as I too have been there and done that! It sucks. Congrats on your band and best of luck. Come in here and vent anytime, you do have understanding people in the same boat to support you through your band journey. Keep your chin up, you are on your way!

I'm so sorry this woman hurt you. Sometimes people don't have any sense and she obviously doesn't. Good luck with your surgery and take care.

I had a woman say something just like that to me once. But she was senile, so sometimes you just have to consider the source and not let it get to you. Sometimes people need to keep that foot they just put in their mouth there permanently. Good luck with your decision to move forward.

Two ways of dealing with it for me...

1. Because I am passive aggressive, I would have just ignored this obnoxious bit@h for the rest of the day.

2. If I'd had a little alcohol and my inhibitions were loosened, I would have probably said something along the lines of "I don't know; how did you let yourself get so rude?"

I had my best friend's mom say the same thing to me, almost word for word, as what this lady said to you. I feel for you, because it's a horrible feeling. Just think about it this way: that's one less person you need to worry about for anything ever again. Forget about her; you are doing what you need to do.

Just know that we are here for you! Ignorant people are just that IGNORANT!

I like to tell people how ugly they are when they tell me I am fat! Even if they are skinny or fat they can never change the way they look! I know that is mean but who the heck are they to talk about my/your weight. Sorry that happened I feel for you, I have had many of those situations with older relatives and even friends. I have one friend that now tells me I better not get skinnier than her! Ha more motivation for me to show her!

Ignorance is not always bliss.

Be proud of you and what you are doing to improve your life quality!!!!!!!!

Keep your chin up!!!!!!

You should have shoved her coffee up her nose

Just remember that people are always going say something to make themselves feel better. So since u said that she was big too and she saw you, that was for her benefit not yours!!!

You go girl and then when she sees you again, she is really gonna be pissed!!! oh well!!!

You should have said, " I don't know, I guess I'm taking after you!" and if your really spiteful make sure to go back after you've lost weight & ask her the same question.HA HA

That would definitely hurt my feelings. What a bitch. Take it in stride . YOu will love being banded. Good luck.

Some people are just too stupid for words. You have to ignore them. Donna

I had a guy (I refuse to call him a man) approach me once in a bar. I was out with my "skinny" girlfriends for a few drinks and some dancing and minding my own business. So he comes up to me and says "It must be hard" Of course I asked him what was hard, and he replied "being friends with girls like THEM and looking like THAT" I was so incredibly mad that I had to refrain from knocking his a** out cold! How dare he bother me with that nonsense, and who made him the authority on what is attractive and what isn't? I told him that it was obvious that he wasn't man enough for any of us and probably just needed to make himself feel better by hurting someone else's feelings. And that is was no wonder he was dancing by himself with a f'd up attitude like that. I played tough and put him in his place but later that night I ended up crying myself to sleep.