i want to share with ALL OF U someones comment that made me feel like shit tonight, just came back from visiting my bestfriends parents that have just arrived from overseas,, anyway all us girlfriends were sitting having our coffee and smoke out on the verandah, and my best friends mother turned around out of nowhere and said to me "how did u get so fat? i remember u when u were small u werent this fat" guys i just wanted to disappear,, u can all imagine...

How judgemental can someone be,, hello , never judge a book by its cover!

Anyway my girlfriends all know im going in tomorrow for surgery so they just ignored it and spoke over her,,,they tried hard to make me feel better because they all know my weight problem is a very personal and touchy topic...

After tonight's humiliation i want this band badly , no hesitation now , death or no death!!!!!im going in tomorrow!

MIND YOU this woman is a very big lady....... huge! so how dare she put me down like that,, guys u dont understand im realy f***** off!

Jennibee, I am sorry that happened to you. When I went from 175 to the 200s I ran into an old friend of mine. He looked at me and said "what happened to Julie". I never looked at it that way until he said that to me. It really hurt. You handled that with grace.

screw em!! screw all the SOB's and b*^ches that ever said anything. You just take care of you and when you are skinny, don;t take the judgemental route like they did. I am allowed to be jealous of anyone I want, but I AM NOT allowed to go around being rude to people for the benefit of my own self esteem. Keep your chin high and one day you will not even look back!

Good Luck!

Sometimes it seems that older people think since they are older they can talk to people anyway they want. Thats not right.

I agree with DonHoll1. Just ignore them. People like that are not worth your emotions and energy.

hey crispy lol---i love that---thats what i always say to people--"i might be fat but you change fat you cant change ugly!" haha

When I worked at a retirement community, I was filling in for the activities director. So for some of the residents who couldn't get out of bed in the nursing center, I would go and sit in there with them and talk. I had one lady, ask me where I got my large size from. She didn't know what she said was offensive, so of course I couldn't get mad or anything. But yea it just kinda shook me I guess.

Also, I am pretty sure my husband's family talks about my weight. Or they "worry". They love me, and would never ever say anything to hurt my feelings. But I have a feeling just from things my husband has let slip, that they do talk to HIM about it. So that makes me feel bad that he has to hear it.

Some people are downright rude and cruel... just remember it's their own lack of self esteem that gives them the need to put others down. I tend to tell them off but cry later... then I remind myself that their not worth it and that I'm better than they'll ever be!!

oops... they're not their.

I like to tell people how ugly they are when they tell me I am fat! Even if they are skinny or fat they can never change the way they look!

I say that too, since I was a kid. "I may be fat, but you will always be ugly".

Good Luck on this special day. This is truely the beginning of a new and healthy lifestyle. You have made the first big step in the right direction. There are always going to be ignorant people in this world. Is it really worth your breath to have a cruel comeback? Who looked like the stupid one? Your friends talked over her which tells you that they agreed she was rude and out of place. When you reach your goal...send your friend a new picture of yourself. You really have to feel sorry for this poor stooge! Her poooooorrrrr daughter. How embarrassing to have a mother with a BIG mouth. I am thinking of you!

I've heard it said that when people lash out with rude, unkind, hurtful comments they're actually turning their self hatred outward. Since you said she was fat,,sounds like a fair assumption to me,,lolol. Force yourself to feel pity for a woman who doesn't recognize her own misery. :-) (I must be in a mellow mood today,,hahahaha)

banded 1/29/07

Dr Ken Cleveland

Jackson MS CMMC

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I had a brother who asked me how i got so fat, my reply was how did you become such a big asshole.

You shouldn't let ignorant people like that (and there are loads of them) upset you - just keep motivated and take care of yourself. You have made a choice to change by choosing the this tool that will allow you to flaunt your success the next time you see her!

Good luck with your surgery!

Well...one thing I have learned in life..some people are just plain old rude. I can't believe that woman said that! Wow..what an meanie. I would never hurt someone's feelings, that's just ignorance to be that way. I say get the band, lose the weight...then tell HER if you see her again, maybe the band would work for her too since she's overweight..get her back. Good luck and keep smiling!!! :biggrin1:

No, I have not been banded yet!!! I am trying to get a MD to take Care Credit for my funding. It is like a credit card, but it is just for medical purposes. I am praying and looking for an answer for my lap band surgery.

I see that you had yours today, good luck!!! Keep me posted. Kat

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