NO JUDGEMENT!

So I was really naughty NYE and today - New Years Day here in Oz. I ate heaps, and drank wine. I even ate mini chocolates. I really fell off the wagon and only about a month post-op.

Has anyone else had bad days like this? Did it stop you from reaching your goals?

I am going to a cycle class tomorrow because I feel ready, but today I just want to treat myself. Is the occasional slip up really going to ruin everything?

Thanks in advance xx

Sleeved: 2/12/2017

SW: 209lbs/95kgs

2 minutes ago, _Kate_ said:

But I know bollocks when I read it

More like you know "bollocks" about this subject.

Just now, KCRN said:

More like you know "bollocks" about this subject.

Bit personal.. but hey.... ???????

Has anyone tried those protein cookies? They're expensive as you know what so I doubt I could binge on em. But maybe for when I crave a cookie

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52 minutes ago, _Kate_ said:

Bit personal.. but hey.... ???????

Couldn't read my message eh? Bull. Here's the message again for you: keep your judgement to yourself.

Someday, if I ever reach my goal weight...I hope I have better things to do than to monitor weight loss message boards for naughty adult people who need to be told they've been bad.

I have big plans. Making condescending posts on message boards post goal-weight...is not a part of them. Cause...ya know...I have a life. LOL:)

If I'm still here telling other people how it's done and scolding them when I'm thin......someone please shoot me.

Thank you.

I have had naughtiness in moderation - mostly I stay in track. I eat low carbs- less than 50 g, High protein, veggies. Today I ate a banana and I felt guilty. Now that’s dumb. I had a craving for a banana. Oh well. Other times- chocolate or a little ice cream. I bite of my kids’ dessert etc. For me, I would get really depressed if I refused every little yummy taste. If I feel I had a too carb day I try limiting carbs the next day and that helps me get on track. Right now I’m recovering from foot surgery so I am home and not that perfect. Not exercising like I had and feeling lousy. But I know that in two weeks I’ll be able to do more and by spring I will not be in foot pain which I’m super excited about. I have also lost a few pounds so I’m hoping to just not lose a little during this month of recovery. Your post has made me try to be better tomorrow. Thank you!


HW. 289
SW. 284
Height. 5’8

Funny you should mention banana. I start week five in a couple days and my nutritionist has a banana listed as a snack on a sample menu of what we should be eating. Half a small banana with some peanut butter is listed as a healthy snack. I think i'm gonna love week five:)

I had a doughnut 10 days after surgery and immediately puked it back up. Just had to test the waters, I guess.

Today (day 14) I had a quarter of a cupcake and kept it down. I’m tempted to eat poorly for dinner bc I’m starving, but the thought of puking up bad food is a strong deterrent for me.

29 minutes ago, Creekimp13 said:

Funny you should mention banana. I start week five in a couple days and my nutritionist has a banana listed as a snack on a sample menu of what we should be eating. Half a small banana with some Peanut Butter is listed as a healthy snack. I think i'm gonna love week five:)

Hell, I’m excited about being able to eat cottage cheese starting Friday.

It's a slow Tuesday so I'm weighing in (no pun intended) for Team _Kate_. I am type A, and very stubborn. I need and seek out the tough love, every day. I suspect 3 years out that's exactly what I will still be seeking out and handing out. It's a personal preference or personality quirk, however you want to look at it.

WLS doesn't fix your brain, it's only a tool to help you help yourself. And every person who has it has to find their balance. Are you a "in moderation" person, and can you control yourself? I can't. I can't have a piece of cake, a piece of pizza, one cookie. I know that, and until my brain magically changes (please be soon, thanks in advance) I will continue to be a mean old biddy and advocate for control.

Having said all of that, I spent several weekends making Christmas candy with my mom, and every day for probably 2 weeks I came home and thought, a little piece wouldn't hurt. It probably wouldn't make me sick. Just a little nibble. And it was so hard, and I thought I couldn't live another moment without taking a piece of brittle. But I did, and it sounds so cheesey, I hate myself a little for saying this... Being able to say, I didn't cheat, feels so much better than a stolen piece of candy would. Because now when I'm feeling weak, I think, I turned down delicious homemade candy for days on end. I got this.

And so do you, OP. No.matter which team you fall on [emoji4]

10 minutes ago, Sqkysphnctr said:

WLS doesn't fix your brain, it's only a tool to help you help yourself. And every person who has it has to find their balance. Are you a "in moderation" person, and can you control yourself? I can't. I can't have a piece of cake, a piece of pizza, one cookie. I know that, and until my brain magically changes (please be soon, thanks in advance) I will continue to be a mean old biddy and advocate for control.

I think this is a brilliant illustration of two different schools of thought and two very different approaches....that might be at the root of this conflict.

In my mind...unless I achieve moderation....food is still in control.

I need to be able to have a bite and walk away....or food has won....and is still out there waiting for me to screw up.

For me...being in control of moderation...is the only way to win the war.

Interesting, no?

Has anyone tried those protein cookies? They're expensive as you know what so I doubt I could binge on em. But maybe for when I crave a cookie

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I haven’t tried them but I am not much of a cookie eater. Maybe you could cut them into 1/4 and have a piece every once in a while when your craving something sweet.

17 hours ago, AZLoser said:

All of you are risking your health if you are cheating like within a few weeks of surgery. 'Treating yourself' is fine but why does it have to be with food? This is not to judge but to let you know this is not a path to success with the surgery. Yes, it will stop you from reaching your goal. And if you were sleeved 2 weeks ago, you are literally putting your life at risk. Seek out a good therapist to find out why you are sabotaging yourself.

Literally putting your life at risk? A little dramatic, no?

I’m all for moderation and living a balanced life. On one hand I agree with Creekimp, if I can’t learn to enjoy and walk away... then I still have an unhealthy relationship with food. I don’t want to binge, but I don’t want to deny and restrict myself for all of eternity either. I want a balance. I want a healthy and nutritious eating plan... and not to freak out if at the holidays I bite a cookie (as long as I’m not biting 50 cookies, you know).

Now, that being said, I do agree that cheating early on is more alarming and more dangerous.

I also am just generally concerned for the OP because this is the same OP who was worried about eating cauliflower soup barely a week out and then later in the same day ate pizza. I commented then and I’ll
comment now, it sounds like you really, really need to seek help from your doctor, nutritionist, and/or therapist. I imagine between the pizza a week post op to wine and loads of chocolate and whatever else NYE you’ve had other pretty serious cheats as well.

Again, I’m not saying I’m against the occasional cheat or treat or whatever. But it sounds like your situation might be borderline worse than that.


5’6”
25 yo
SW: 256
CW: 236.9

*12/04/2017*

"This is not to judge but to let you know this is not a path to success"
Cause...we didn't know that. LOL!
Personally, I'd rather face my very serious struggles with food with a lot of honesty and support from other people going through the same crap.....than remain in denial about them. Lying to yourself is some toxic crap.
Some folks over eat after sleeve and cause themselves big problems. Some folks under eat and trade one eating disorder for another...and cause themselves big problems. Both behaviors are self sabotaging. There's a lotta pathology to spread around. A therapist would have a hay day with most of us, I expect. LOL.
We all screw up. We're all human that way. Finding balance is a struggle.
Lemme tell ya....if I was capable of perfection and never screwed up? I sure as hell wouldn't have gotten morbidly obese, or needed surgery to try to lose weight. LOL.
Not saying any of your advice is even wrong, AZLoser, it was just tone deaf and precisely what the OP asked people not to do.
There's a little "people in glass houses" element there that I know you don't see....but far be it from me to judge you for your choices. To each, their own:) Best wishes on your journey.

Too bad you took it that way. There are plenty of Facebook groups where sleevers can talk about all the thing they gourge on off plan and get support from people who say it's okay. I never ever said I was a perfect eater. The question was does it hurt your weight loss. The answer is yes it does. People sometimes post here because they need to hear the truth. That's not being judgemental.