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I’m starting my 6 month doctor supervised phase in January. I go to my surgeon/team January 5th and I’m so excitedly anxious! BUT.. I can’t help but feel like.. what if this doesn’t work?! I know I’m not the only one who has ever thought this.

I’m 5’4”, 241lbs, 28 years old. I have about 100-110lbs to lose. Of course, I’ve tried *everything*. Which is why I get these thoughts of “this won’t work either” in my head. How do I get past those thoughts and get through this 6 months without driving myself insane?!

I’m so ready for this change. I’ve thought about it for 2 years and finally have 100% of my hubbys support. I guess I’m just afraid of ruining it somehow. Sorry for the rambling!!

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27 minutes ago, 123mollie said:

I can’t help but feel like.. what if this doesn’t work?

There's hardly a soul who does not ponder this same thought ... many of them for days on end.

Step back and think of the ultimate good you're doing for yourself.

Ponder the healthier you at a more normal body mass!

Over 90% of people have a GOOD or EXCELLENT outcome from gastric sleeve surgery.

It'll, very likely, be a good outcome for you too!

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as long as you're compliant, you *will* lose a ton of weight!

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You will lose weight, I'm 4 months post op and lost 45 kgs (about 100 pounds). I'm just never hungry. I need to remind myself to eat. It's not like dieting, it's like having a reset and starting again.

Good luck!

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2 hours ago, BigAussieGirl said:

It's not like dieting, it's like having a reset and starting again.

This is the exact reason I want this so bad!! I NEED this reset. Thanks so much for everyone’s encouragement!

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It is completely normal to have those thoughts. Everyone is different I am now 3 months post op and i have lost only 40lb and I am very happy with that. However, I am always hungry yet can't satisfy that hunger eventually, you get use to it. It is hard but it gets better when you see the weight coming off. Remember that everyone's body is different everyone's surgeon is different. Someone else's experience might not be yours. My cousin did the sleeve as well and she can't eat certain foods. I on the other hand can eat everything but in small amounts. Good luck and this is a great step your taking. Just remember to go off your doctors orders and learn to eat again based of what your body takes and adjusts too.


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I felt just like this and had similar stats (was 247 when I started). I didn’t even really commit fully to the pre op/6 month diet. But I went back every month even if I hadn’t lost, mostly because I didn’t want to start over. Once my surgery approval came in, a month prior, it got a lot more real and I got serious. I started the plan with some rigor, cut out all sugar and alcohol, etc., and lost around 15 lbs pre-surgery. I’ve been a slowish-loser post-op but have been compliant, careful, diligent and have not gone back to my bad habits, and exercise 5x week and enjoy it. Am down almost 80 lbs, at around a .5 lb/week pace now. The surgery won’t “work” on its own but it’s a huge opportunity to change your life, and the weight loss is an awesome motivator to keep going. Good luck to you!!

I’m starting my 6 month doctor supervised phase in January. I go to my surgeon/team January 5th and I’m so excitedly anxious! BUT.. I can’t help but feel like.. what if this doesn’t work?! I know I’m not the only one who has ever thought this.
I’m 5’4”, 241lbs, 28 years old. I have about 100-110lbs to lose. Of course, I’ve tried *everything*. Which is why I get these thoughts of “this won’t work either” in my head. How do I get past those thoughts and get through this 6 months without driving myself insane?!
I’m so ready for this change. I’ve thought about it for 2 years and finally have 100% of my hubbys support. I guess I’m just afraid of ruining it somehow. Sorry for the rambling!!




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      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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