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CocoNina

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CocoNina    210

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I’m almost 10 months post op & lost 65 lbs from day of surgery. Some people say I’m getting too skinny (I’m 5’0” & at 130 lbs now). I hate people giving me their opinions about MY body. Frankly, I still feel like I’m that fat girl.

I’m so grateful that I lost the weight fast. But prior to my sleeve, I was always put down for my weight. I don’t think those “scars” go away so quickly. People will always have their stupid opinions, but I haven’t “healed” from the negativity I endured over the several years I was obese. My mind hasn’t fully accepted I lost the weight. My mind still sees a fat girl when I look in the mirror. I know I can’t be the only one that feels this way. How did you cope with the rapid weight loss, especially when you’ve been obese for many years?

I never want to go back, but I can’t wait for the day I look in the mirror & see the thin girl that everyone else sees.

Height: 5'0"

Weight for WLS consultation: 216 lbs.

Surgery date: 2/13/17

Goal: -71 lbs for healthy BMI (about 145 lbs).

Current weight: 130 lbs, 10 lbs away from new goal.

My profile picture is not me. It's my "FITspiration" body.

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The mirror lies. Get pictures and video with you interacting with other people. That's how you can see your "true" self. Your doctor can help guide you to the ideal scale weight.. but according to BMI, you can drop quite a bit more before having to worry about getting "too thin". Keep in mind that most people regain 10-15lbs after hitting their lowest weight, so it's worthwhile to drop as low as is reasonable to guard against the bit of regain. (For the same reason, keep the clothing you are wearing now, even when you drop to the next lower size).

People that know us aren't used to us being thin. They start worrying, frequently well before it's warranted. Assure your friends/family that you are working closely with your doctor, and your ultimate size will be a healthy one.

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I'm not sure when your mind adjusts it happens slowly and then one day normally after 2 years you'll look at an older picture of yourself and think that doesn't even look like me. But there is a part of you that will always remember being the ignored fat girl but that's good it gives us a depth to our character. You must be very thin at 130 just make sure you're taking your Vitamins and have enough Protein to help you heal and not get a deficiency.

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blondie, the OP is quite petite, so 130lbs for her is like 162lbs for me (I'm 5'7). Which is thin, but not TOO thin. I would look great at 150lbs.. though I doubt I'll ever get there.

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I'm not sure when your mind adjusts it happens slowly and then one day normally after 2 years you'll look at an older picture of yourself and think that doesn't even look like me. But there is a part of you that will always remember being the ignored fat girl but that's good it gives us a depth to our character. You must be very thin at 130 just make sure you're taking your Vitamins and have enough Protein to help you heal and not get a deficiency.

Very thin ??! She's 5.0! I'm 5.2 and 130 is 24ish on bmi for me. So how is she very thin ?

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dreamingsmall    1,125

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I know when we are really big even an overweight weight is seen as thin to us .

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dreamingsmall    1,125

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I’m almost 10 months post op & lost 65 lbs from day of surgery. Some people say I’m getting too skinny (I’m 5’0” & at 130 lbs now). I hate people giving me their opinions about MY body. Frankly, I still feel like I’m that fat girl.
I’m so grateful that I lost the weight fast. But prior to my sleeve, I was always put down for my weight. I don’t think those “scars” go away so quickly. People will always have their stupid opinions, but I haven’t “healed” from the negativity I endured over the several years I was obese. My mind hasn’t fully accepted I lost the weight. My mind still sees a fat girl when I look in the mirror. I know I can’t be the only one that feels this way. How did you cope with the rapid weight loss, especially when you’ve been obese for many years?
I never want to go back, but I can’t wait for the day I look in the mirror & see the thin girl that everyone else sees.
Height: 5'0"
Weight for WLS consultation: 216 lbs.
Surgery date: 2/13/17
Goal: -71 lbs for healthy BMI (about 145 lbs).
Current weight: 130 lbs, 10 lbs away from new goal.
My profile picture is not me. It's my "FITspiration" body.


Your profile pic fitspiration. Your probably smaller than her now ! You just need to learn to love yourself from the inside now. Maybe therapy can help?

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dreamingsmall    1,125

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Wow people need to chill! Sorry I said very thin. Not going on this site again.




No need to be dramatic.

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Healthy_life2    8,330

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On 12/3/2017 at 1:32 AM, CocoNina said:

I’m almost 10 months post op & lost 65 lbs from day of surgery. Some people say I’m getting too skinny (I’m 5’0” & at 130 lbs now). I hate people giving me their opinions about MY body. Frankly, I still feel like I’m that fat girl.

I’m so grateful that I lost the weight fast. But prior to my sleeve, I was always put down for my weight. I don’t think those “scars” go away so quickly. People will always have their stupid opinions, but I haven’t “healed” from the negativity I endured over the several years I was obese. My mind hasn’t fully accepted I lost the weight. My mind still sees a fat girl when I look in the mirror. I know I can’t be the only one that feels this way. How did you cope with the rapid weight loss, especially when you’ve been obese for many years?

I never want to go back, but I can’t wait for the day I look in the mirror & see the thin girl that everyone else sees.

Height: 5'0"

Weight for WLS consultation: 216 lbs.

Surgery date: 2/13/17

Goal: -71 lbs for healthy BMI (about 145 lbs).

Current weight: 130 lbs, 10 lbs away from new goal.

My profile picture is not me. It's my "FITspiration" body.

It messes with your mind for a while. Especially if you have been overweight several years. Some of us get our body image corrected with time. Some have used counseling and still work thourgh it.

Be gentle with yourself. Give it time.

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CocoNina    210

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Wow people need to chill! Sorry I said very thin. Not going on this site again.






I stopped going to this site for months. I agree that there’s been a lot of negativity lately. I don’t know why people are so negative when we’re all pretty much going through the same thing. Don’t leave this site. We need more positive people like us around.


Height: 5'0"
Weight for WLS consultation: 216 lbs.
Surgery date: 2/13/17
Goal: -71 lbs for healthy BMI (about 145 lbs).
Current weight: 127 lbs, 7 lbs away from new goal.
My profile picture is not me. It's my "FITspiration" body.

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CocoNina    210

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It messes with your mind for a while. Especially if you have been overweight several years. Some of us get our body image corrected with time. Some have used counseling and still work thourgh it.
Be gentle with yourself. Give it time.


Thank you.


Height: 5'0"
Weight for WLS consultation: 216 lbs.
Surgery date: 2/13/17
Goal: -71 lbs for healthy BMI (about 145 lbs).
Current weight: 127 lbs, 7 lbs away from new goal.
My profile picture is not me. It's my "FITspiration" body.

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CocoNina    210

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blondie, the OP is quite petite, so 130lbs for her is like 162lbs for me (I'm 5'7). Which is thin, but not TOO thin. I would look great at 150lbs.. though I doubt I'll ever get there.


Exactly! Thank you for explaining how height makes the difference.


Height: 5'0"
Weight for WLS consultation: 216 lbs.
Surgery date: 2/13/17
Goal: -71 lbs for healthy BMI (about 145 lbs).
Current weight: 127 lbs, 7 lbs away from new goal.
My profile picture is not me. It's my "FITspiration" body.

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CocoNina    210

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Very thin ??! She's 5.0! I'm 5.2 and 130 is 24ish on bmi for me. So how is she very thin ?

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She means well. She probably didn’t notice my height. 130 lbs is very thin to most folks. My BMI says I should be at 100 - 110 lbs. honestly, I think I’ll look sick by that point. I’ll be happy at 120 & my BMI is listed as overweight in as 130. It doesn’t account that I’m very muscular in my legs & top heavy.


Height: 5'0"
Weight for WLS consultation: 216 lbs.
Surgery date: 2/13/17
Goal: -71 lbs for healthy BMI (about 145 lbs).
Current weight: 127 lbs, 7 lbs away from new goal.
My profile picture is not me. It's my "FITspiration" body.

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Omg I completely understand where you’re coming from. I’ve reached my target weight but after years of trying to lose weight I’m struggling to allow myself to stop. It’s a real mental battle that I’m facing every day. People tell me I’m too thin now. Feel like I can’t win whatever I do. My head sees the skinny me but my heart is still that of an fat person who suffered for years. I think it’s partly down to the excess skin I’ve got. Maybe if I could get that removed, I may be able to learn to love my thin body ... x

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