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I've been looking to make more friends. Been separated for a long time, down 101 pounds with 39 to go...have my self confidence back, and want to meet women or a nice woman to spend time with. It's been 18 years since I've been in this "game" and am getting discouraged.
Wanting to meet for things like walking/hiking, meet for coffee, maybe go to movies, etc.
Here's my dilemma. What's with this sexting crap? I mean if I were in a committed relationship and we wanted to flirt with some pictures maybe that's one thing. But just meeting someone over the internet and never in person yet, and the next thing you know you've gone from getting regular face pics to naked pictures on your phone?!?
I know some of you would not mind this but that's not me or what I'm looking for. I genuinely want to become friends with someone by spending time together.
Are there still people out there like me or is everyone just looking for a hookup?
VSG 10/11/17 HW = 360 SW = 292 CW = 259 GW = 220 (6'5")


I understand completely I had same thing happen. I was married for over twenty years lol since I was 18 then I get divorced and I am completely clueless about how I am supposed to date. I want to talk get to know a person and well it seems yeah it is all about sexting now a days. Good news I have met nice people going to karaoke lol. [emoji847]



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I understand completely I had same thing happen. I was married for over twenty years lol since I was 18 then I get divorced and I am completely clueless about how I am supposed to date. I want to talk get to know a person and well it seems yeah it is all about sexting now a days. Good news I have met nice people going to karaoke lol. [emoji847]



Lapband 9/11/07 227 pounds

Vsg 2/13/18

Pre op diet 188
Sd. 180
Cw 169.6



Thanks for the karaoke tip. I went for the first time last week and had fun so maybe I need to try that some more. Lol. You don't happen to live in NC do you? [emoji6]

I took a break from trying online dating sites. The women I was meeting were, well...I'll leave that alone. I'm know there are alot of good ones out there but they must be hard to find that way.

It'll happen when it's meant to happen, I'm sure.

Hope you have success and find true love!!

VSG 10/11/17 HW = 360 SW = 292 CW = 225.2 GW = 220 (6'5")

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Thanks for the karaoke tip. I went for the first time last week and had fun so maybe I need to try that some more. Lol. You don't happen to live in NC do you? [emoji6]

I took a break from trying online dating sites. The women I was meeting were, well...I'll leave that alone. I'm know there are alot of good ones out there but they must be hard to find that way.

It'll happen when it's meant to happen, I'm sure.

Hope you have success and find true love!!

VSG 10/11/17 HW = 360 SW = 292 CW = 225.2 GW = 220 (6'5")


Karaoke is great but then I love singing haha. Your in Carolina? I am in California, it’s even crazier here if you can believe it. I do hope you meet some nice people as it’s nice to have people to relax and unwind with after a long work week. Too funny I have a friend who was trying to talk me into moving to North Carolina last year we were both starting to hate a lot of things about living here.



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What ? Sending and receiving naked pictures from an adult.. something that alot of people do..can land him in jail.. because ?

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http://ncac.org/project/youth-free-expression-program/sexting-know-your-rights



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I hate getting unsolicited pictures. It’s all guys wanna do, send you a pic. No thanks. This pic is totally how I feel.

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Karaoke is great but then I love singing haha. Your in Carolina? I am in California, it’s even crazier here if you can believe it. I do hope you meet some nice people as it’s nice to have people to relax and unwind with after a long work week. Too funny I have a friend who was trying to talk me into moving to North Carolina last year we were both starting to hate a lot of things about living here.



Lapband 9/11/07 227 pounds

Vsg 2/13/18

Pre op diet 188
Sd. 180
Cw 169.6


I'm originally from NY..been here 18 years and love it. It's a good place to live. And the cost of living difference is great!

You're right, it'd be nice to have someone to relax and have fun with after a long work week.

VSG 10/11/17 HW = 360 SW = 292 CW = 225.2 GW = 220 (6'5")

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I'm originally from NY..been here 18 years and love it. It's a good place to live. And the cost of living difference is great!

You're right, it'd be nice to have someone to relax and have fun with after a long work week.

VSG 10/11/17 HW = 360 SW = 292 CW = 225.2 GW = 220 (6'5")


Too funny half my family is in New York, my mom was born there . What part did you move from?



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Pre op diet 188
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Cw 169.6

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That is funny! I'm from the Albany area. Where's your family located/your mom born?

VSG 10/11/17 HW = 360 SW = 292 CW = 225.2 GW = 220 (6'5")

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On 12/1/2017 at 11:41 AM, 336Mike said:

I've been looking to make more friends. Been separated for a long time, down 101 pounds with 39 to go...have my self confidence back, and want to meet women or a nice woman to spend time with. It's been 18 years since I've been in this "game" and am getting discouraged.

Wanting to meet for things like walking/hiking, meet for coffee, maybe go to movies, etc.

Here's my dilemma. What's with this sexting crap? I mean if I were in a committed relationship and we wanted to flirt with some pictures maybe that's one thing. But just meeting someone over the internet and never in person yet, and the next thing you know you've gone from getting regular face pics to naked pictures on your phone?!?

I know some of you would not mind this but that's not me or what I'm looking for. I genuinely want to become friends with someone by spending time together.

Are there still people out there like me or is everyone just looking for a hookup?

VSG 10/11/17 HW = 360 SW = 292 CW = 259 GW = 220 (6'5")

I'm older and a bit traditional. Talk to me face to face..Let things develop organically.

People that are looking for a sexual conversation on line are looking for a stranger to arouse them or get off. I guess they can't pay for porn sites.

Would any of these people walk up to a stranger whip out there naked photos or actual junk, then ask about your sexual fantasies and to see you naked?

Wow! Creepy sexual predator vibe...lol

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I'm older and a bit traditional. Talk to me face t face..Let things develop organically.
People that are looking for a sexual conversation on line are looking for a stranger to arouse them or get off. I guess they can't pay for porn sites.
Would any of these people walk up to a stranger whip out there naked photos or actual junk, then ask about your sexual fantasies and to see you naked?
Wow! Creepy sexual predator vibe...lol

Truth!!

VSG 10/11/17 HW = 360 SW = 292 CW = 225.2 GW = 220 (6'5")

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6 minutes ago, FluffyChix said:

@jenn1 ROFLMAO! The visual on this is hi-LAR-ious!!!

True story. I got a naked photo in myfitnesspal food log. I think it was my Protein Shake that caught his eye..lol

My Protein shake brings the boys to the yard.

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Dang ! @336Mike

Now I cant get this song out of my head this morning..*laughing*

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Dang ! [mention=328457]336Mike[/mention]
Now I cant get this song out of my head this morning..*laughing*


Haha!! Too funny!!

My sister sent me this one about 2 months ago because of a couple of women were being crazy.




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