Help me set realistic expectations

[Tanyatata 28]

As I'm counting down to my date, Nov 14, I'm passing time reading all of these wonderful posts! Pre-Op diet starts on the 1st. What's the average weight loss and how long will you continue to loose ...avg starting weight 210 and 5'2'

[BigViffer 3,544]

Don't set expectations on weight loss and time losing. You will only set yourself up for misery. The thing you want to mentally prepare for is the "pain". No I don't mean the physical discomfort, that is a different level for everyone. I mean the mental anguish that you will inevitably go through. Unreasonable crying and emotional outburst are completely normal and very common. Be prepared to be very difficult to be around. Have your husband prepare to take the brunt of your attacks. Let him know what to say before it happens. We men are generally "fixers" and don't quite get the need to just say something without wanting to fix it.

All that being said, you will lose a lot the first month. Then you will stall. Then you will think something is wrong because you are basically starving and working your @ss off but nothing is happening, etc... And it will be slow for you since you are only 210 SW. You are going to have to think of this as a long term process. You just won't get the instant gratification we all say we aren't expecting but deep down we just know that there is a greek god(dess) hiding under our fat.

[njgal 535]

Don't set expectations on weight loss and time losing. You will only set yourself up for misery. The thing you want to mentally prepare for is the "pain". No I don't mean the physical discomfort, that is a different level for everyone. I mean the mental anguish that you will inevitably go through. Unreasonable crying and emotional outburst are completely normal and very common. Be prepared to be very difficult to be around. Have your husband prepare to take the brunt of your attacks. Let him know what to say before it happens. We men are generally "fixers" and don't quite get the need to just say something without wanting to fix it.
All that being said, you will lose a lot the first month. Then you will stall. Then you will think something is wrong because you are basically starving and working your @ss off but nothing is happening, etc... And it will be slow for you since you are only 210 SW. You are going to have to think of this as a long term process. You just won't get the instant gratification we all say we aren't expecting but deep down we just know that there is a greek god(dess) hiding under our fat.

Well said!

[kell911 62]

I am almost 8 moths out, I started at 212 also 5'2". The first month a lot came off. Then it slowed to about 4-9 pounds a month. Then there was a month the scale did not budge. You will lose inches when that occurs. Your mind set needs to remain on the end goal. Don't get frustrated because the number on the scale didn't move...It sucks but get over it and fast because some people get depressed. Keep your body moving!!!Drink your Water and get your Protein. Those are not the easiest things to do, I still struggle with both! I was able to reach my Dr's goal of 143 at 6 months, my personal goal is 137 by my birthday. I did not make it but I still felt good and was okay with that. Little goals before BIG ones! Good luck...

Kelley

[Tanyatata 28]

Don't set expectations on weight loss and time losing. You will only set yourself up for misery. The thing you want to mentally prepare for is the "pain". No I don't mean the physical discomfort, that is a different level for everyone. I mean the mental anguish that you will inevitably go through. Unreasonable crying and emotional outburst are completely normal and very common. Be prepared to be very difficult to be around. Have your husband prepare to take the brunt of your attacks. Let him know what to say before it happens. We men are generally "fixers" and don't quite get the need to just say something without wanting to fix it.
All that being said, you will lose a lot the first month. Then you will stall. Then you will think something is wrong because you are basically starving and working your @ss off but nothing is happening, etc... And it will be slow for you since you are only 210 SW. You are going to have to think of this as a long term process. You just won't get the instant gratification we all say we aren't expecting but deep down we just know that there is a greek god(dess) hiding under our fat.

I found this to be one of the most meaningful responses that I have received....and the timing was/is perfect. Thank you very much!

[Tanyatata 28]

I am almost 8 moths out, I started at 212 also 5'2". The first month a lot came off. Then it slowed to about 4-9 pounds a month. Then there was a month the scale did not budge. You will lose inches when that occurs. Your mind set needs to remain on the end goal. Don't get frustrated because the number on the scale didn't move...It sucks but get over it and fast because some people get depressed. Keep your body moving!!!Drink your Water and get your Protein. Those are not the easiest things to do, I still struggle with both! I was able to reach my Dr's goal of 143 at 6 months, my personal goal is 137 by my birthday. I did not make it but I still felt good and was okay with that. Little goals before BIG ones! Good luck...
Kelley

Thank you for responding ....it's awesome to directly hear from someone who has experienced what I may soon. These types of things are exactly what I need to hear because that's exactly where my head will go!