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I was craving hummus and salmon at about 2 weeks post op, I couldnt wait to eat soft foods. Funny thing is, I dont even like salmon or hummus..lol

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While being on the liquid diet does suck, the fact that I was able to lose 3,8 kg since Sunday shows me that this can be worth it.


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While being on the liquid diet does suck, the fact that I was able to lose 3,8 kg since Sunday shows me that this can be worth it.




Since i started the liquid diet;
mental clarity improved
less naps/ less fatigue
feel happier...
despite the withdrawal headaches and I'm much more candid lol.

It was in that moment; she learned self love was her priority.
HW 251 CW 237 GW 160

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4 hours ago, girlgonesleevy said:


Since i started the liquid diet;
mental clarity improved
less naps/ less fatigue
feel happier...
despite the withdrawal headaches and I'm much more candid lol.

It was in that moment; she learned self love was her priority.
HW 251 CW 237 GW 160

Thats from the stable blood sugar without spikes and dips in it from processed foods and sugars.

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Wanting to chew in those early stages isn't regret. It is just normal. You will get to chew again. Patience gets tough as you start to heal and feel better. Follow your Dr's program.
Spice up your drinks...add some cinnamon or Peanut Butter powder. Order some different flavored Protein Shakes. Keep with it.
Have you tried some meditation when you get those pangs? They did a session at my support group and it was so great. I've tried it a few times and it can help me.

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Im glad to hear yall talk about chewing because I felt a little cray cray. I was sleeved on 8/14 and I shamefully admit that I have chewed and not swallowed food about mid week two. But then I learned very quickly that swallowing is a reflex with a mind of its own! That will learn me... But I just wanted to taste real food. Now Im almost through week three.

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Oh Yes! I was sitting in my hospital room thinking what the hell did I just did to myself. The first three weeks I was uncomfortable dealing with gas, Constipation, pain with trying to drink, the misery of wanting to chew. I did eventually take a salty potato chip and sick the salt off then slowly chew it to oblivion. It was a wonderful feeling. I got sick of Protein Shakes real quick. chicken broth was nice. I never tried the unflavored Protein Powder but people in here have used it, this can help get your Protein with more variety of liquids. By week 3 I felt alot better and I'm glad I went through with it.

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At 3 weeks I cried for a week straight.

I had an Endocrine specialist appointment and the nurse was hounding me on my elevated numbers. The problem was it took me hours to drink a Protein Shake so there was no way to take my blood sugar outside of morning fasting. I explained it to her but she wasn't a native English speaker and just kept asking me over and over. I just broke down in tears, I tried to explain and then I said I can't eat anything - just a Protein shake, I'm trying to get all my numbers, and I'm trying to keep everything under control, I can't do it all! I then couldn't stop crying, the doctor came in and I tried to talk and I would just cry. Then I drove back to work and I couldn't stop crying, then I got my ship together as much as possible and went into the office, close my office door and started crying. I worked hardly at all that week and it was my first week back. I cried at night, I cried in the morning, I felt like I was never going to be normal again, what did I do to myself?!?!

This went on for a full 5 to 7 days, at this point one of the items on my acceptable food list was mashed potatoes. So I heated up some of those mashed potato discs in the bag. For the first time I ate something that wasn't a protein shake or puréed meats or some other food product that comes in a powder packet. I allowed myself some carbs, and a little fat, and I sat down with my best friend and just cried & talked.

I realized a couple of things:

#1 it's okay to have total breakdown for an entire week and then bounce back.

#2 it's okay to eat the items on your approved food list even if it seems too good to be true or something you should stay away from

#3 this process is an emotional, mental, and physical ordeal, it's the opposite of "the easy way out". So just know you are a freaking warrior bad-ass, don't anybody shame you for feeling a sense of regret. It's temporary, it will pass and it's OK to talk about it.

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5 hours ago, LittleLizzieLilliput said:

At 3 weeks I cried for a week straight.

I had an Endocrine specialist appointment and the nurse was hounding me on my elevated numbers. The problem was it took me hours to drink a Protein Shake so there was no way to take my blood sugar outside of morning fasting. I explained it to her but she wasn't a native English speaker and just kept asking me over and over. I just broke down in tears, I tried to explain and then I said I can't eat anything - just a Protein shake, I'm trying to get all my numbers, and I'm trying to keep everything under control, I can't do it all! I then couldn't stop crying, the doctor came in and I tried to talk and I would just cry. Then I drove back to work and I couldn't stop crying, then I got my ship together as much as possible and went into the office, close my office door and started crying. I worked hardly at all that week and it was my first week back. I cried at night, I cried in the morning, I felt like I was never going to be normal again, what did I do to myself?!?!

This went on for a full 5 to 7 days, at this point one of the items on my acceptable food list was mashed potatoes. So I heated up some of those mashed potato discs in the bag. For the first time I ate something that wasn't a Protein Shake or puréed meats or some other food product that comes in a powder packet. I allowed myself some carbs, and a little fat, and I sat down with my best friend and just cried & talked.

I realized a couple of things:

#1 it's okay to have total breakdown for an entire week and then bounce back.

#2 it's okay to eat the items on your approved food list even if it seems too good to be true or something you should stay away from

#3 this process is an emotional, mental, and physical ordeal, it's the opposite of "the easy way out". So just know you are a freaking warrior bad-ass, don't anybody shame you for feeling a sense of regret. It's temporary, it will pass and it's OK to talk about it.

Youre a food addict like we all are/were. Once you come to terms with it and get past it emotionally, and realize food is fuel and you will be able to eat it all in moderation sooner than you realize, you will be fine. Your releasing emotions and hormones and going through withdrawal and it will pass. Trust me it gets easier after week 4 to 6.

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Jello was my "chew" go-to. It helped staunch that urge without putting anything terrible into my body...

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On 9/1/2017 at 4:04 PM, LittleLizzieLilliput said:

At 3 weeks I cried for a week straight.

I had an Endocrine specialist appointment and the nurse was hounding me on my elevated numbers. The problem was it took me hours to drink a Protein Shake so there was no way to take my blood sugar outside of morning fasting. I explained it to her but she wasn't a native English speaker and just kept asking me over and over. I just broke down in tears, I tried to explain and then I said I can't eat anything - just a Protein shake, I'm trying to get all my numbers, and I'm trying to keep everything under control, I can't do it all! I then couldn't stop crying, the doctor came in and I tried to talk and I would just cry. Then I drove back to work and I couldn't stop crying, then I got my ship together as much as possible and went into the office, close my office door and started crying. I worked hardly at all that week and it was my first week back. I cried at night, I cried in the morning, I felt like I was never going to be normal again, what did I do to myself?!?!

This went on for a full 5 to 7 days, at this point one of the items on my acceptable food list was mashed potatoes. So I heated up some of those mashed potato discs in the bag. For the first time I ate something that wasn't a Protein Shake or puréed meats or some other food product that comes in a powder packet. I allowed myself some carbs, and a little fat, and I sat down with my best friend and just cried & talked.

I realized a couple of things:

#1 it's okay to have total breakdown for an entire week and then bounce back.

#2 it's okay to eat the items on your approved food list even if it seems too good to be true or something you should stay away from

#3 this process is an emotional, mental, and physical ordeal, it's the opposite of "the easy way out". So just know you are a freaking warrior bad-ass, don't anybody shame you for feeling a sense of regret. It's temporary, it will pass and it's OK to talk about it.

Lizzie, first of all, thank you for your openness and candor. It's this type of honesty that is going to help others. The mental and emotional aspect of this is intense. I see why they screen us ahead of time. To make sure we will be able to cope. I read this and nodded my head as I could relate to your all your feelings. And I'm so glad you found your way and your take aways we're awesome. I'm encouraged.

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I was sleeved 17 August and not moved on the scales at all for 8 days and still in liquid stage. I'm feeling a little better today as I started on a high strength probiotic. Well I think it's that that's made a difference but I was so low all week and wondering what the hell I had done all this for. So I totally get how your feeling and think it's normal to feel like that but still working through it. Xxx


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Hello everybody! I was sleeved August 16th. I haven't been in pain or anything, I am not hungry but I want to chew!!!! I still have one more week until full liquids (pudding, yogurt cream of chicken etc). I think I am kind of regretting the surgery, it's going to be about 7 weeks before I can start regular foods so I'm not sure if I regret the surgery or I feel like this because I've been on a liquid diet for almost a month now and I miss chewing food? Has this happen to anybody here? Is there a light at the end of the tunnel?
Please no negative comments
Thank you very much!


I felt the same way. Popsicles saved my life.


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At 3 weeks I cried for a week straight.
I had an Endocrine specialist appointment and the nurse was hounding me on my elevated numbers. The problem was it took me hours to drink a Protein Shake so there was no way to take my blood sugar outside of morning fasting. I explained it to her but she wasn't a native English speaker and just kept asking me over and over. I just broke down in tears, I tried to explain and then I said I can't eat anything - just a Protein shake, I'm trying to get all my numbers, and I'm trying to keep everything under control, I can't do it all! I then couldn't stop crying, the doctor came in and I tried to talk and I would just cry. Then I drove back to work and I couldn't stop crying, then I got my ship together as much as possible and went into the office, close my office door and started crying. I worked hardly at all that week and it was my first week back. I cried at night, I cried in the morning, I felt like I was never going to be normal again, what did I do to myself?!?!
This went on for a full 5 to 7 days, at this point one of the items on my acceptable food list was mashed potatoes. So I heated up some of those mashed potato discs in the bag. For the first time I ate something that wasn't a protein shake or puréed meats or some other food product that comes in a powder packet. I allowed myself some carbs, and a little fat, and I sat down with my best friend and just cried & talked.
I realized a couple of things:
#1 it's okay to have total breakdown for an entire week and then bounce back.
#2 it's okay to eat the items on your approved food list even if it seems too good to be true or something you should stay away from
#3 this process is an emotional, mental, and physical ordeal, it's the opposite of "the easy way out". So just know you are a freaking warrior bad-ass, don't anybody shame you for feeling a sense of regret. It's temporary, it will pass and it's OK to talk about it.

I think you just summed it up perfectly. I didn't cry but I was mad at the world for letting myself gain so much weight, for letting my health get out of control and having to have a procedure like this to help me lose weight. I got so tired of Protein Shakes and Soups. I was trying to do things by the book provided by my doctor and potatoes weren't on my list. Finally I just stopped eating everything with the exception of popsicles and looked forward to phase 3. It was hard but now I am on purée foods and not sure I am doing it right. Not sure if I am full or it it is gas. This all is just a confusing process.


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I will be honest I felt a few instances of regret, especially when I first woke up from surgery...lol.. Mostly a few short bouts of regret during the first 3 weeks, but seeing the scale move down for the first time in my life, made the regret quickly go away. I just hit my goal weight today of 225 which I havent weighed since I was 18 years old, and there is not a single thing I regret about having done this. I only regret I waited so long to do it.

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