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Hi All,

Just wanted to provide an update.

My wife was sleeved yesterday and she is in a lot of pain.

We were not mentally prepared for how much pain she would be in.

She has had two C sections, gall bladder removed, appendix removed and hiatal hernia repair and handled those like a champ.

After sleeve surgery she is miserable.

She is having buyers remorse.

I am scared as my surgery is in August.

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You will find almost everyone has buyers remorse after surgery. Mine didn't come until a month out, but it passes and things get better. I promise both of you it does get better!

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Hi All,
Just wanted to provide an update.
My wife was sleeved yesterday and she is in a lot of pain.
We were not mentally prepared for how much pain she would be in.
She has had two C sections, gall bladder removed, appendix removed and hiatal hernia repair and handled those like a champ.
After sleeve surgery she is miserable.
She is having buyers remorse.
I am scared as my surgery is in August.
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My surgeon told me that it was a good thing I didn't have any prior abdominal surgeries. Apparently the scar tissue causes more pain. I hope she feels better soon. I'm 10 days out, and tonight is the first time I've had any pain...a little stomachache

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Hi All,
Just wanted to provide an update.
My wife was sleeved yesterday and she is in a lot of pain.
We were not mentally prepared for how much pain she would be in.
She has had two C sections, gall bladder removed, appendix removed and hiatal hernia repair and handled those like a champ.
After sleeve surgery she is miserable.
She is having buyers remorse.
I am scared as my surgery is in August.
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Oh no. This makes me so sad to read. I hope it passes quickly.
Been thinking of you guys and knew hers was getting close.
I know you're scared but the pain is a small price to pay for a healthy and hopefully longer rest of your life.
She'll heal and the pain will be gone and things will get exponentially better.

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Normal to have some pain after surgery. Try Naprosyn and Tylenol suppositories (alternating) to get on top of pain . That helped take away my pain . Take them regularly for a couple of days , even if pain is just starting . I wish you all the best! Hang in there.

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Oh no. This makes me so sad to read. I hope it passes quickly.
Been thinking of you guys and knew hers was getting close.
I know you're scared but the pain is a small price to pay for a healthy and hopefully longer rest of your life.
She'll heal and the pain will be gone and things will get exponentially better.


Thank you for thinking of us.
I am hoping she feels better soon.
I think we were naive about the surgery and the recovery time.
Plus, our three year old daughter jumped on my wife when she was sleeping. She literally jumped on her stomach.
I feel bad for my wife and I am scared now.
I don't know if I can handle the surgery.
However, I don't want to be super morbidly obese the rest of my life either.

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Thank you for thinking of us.
I am hoping she feels better soon.
I think we were naive about the surgery and the recovery time.
Plus, our three year old daughter jumped on my wife when she was sleeping. She literally jumped on her stomach.
I feel bad for my wife and I am scared now.
I don't know if I can handle the surgery.
However, I don't want to be super morbidly obese the rest of my life either.

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Everyone is different so don't let her experience scare you!

I had had several abdominal surgeries (gallbladder, c section, kidney stone removal) and for me the sleeve was much easier. I was up and going quite soon after. So your experience wont necessarily be hers.

Be there for her and support her. I hope she feels better soon, but it doesn't mean YOU will have as hard a time of it!


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Everyone is different so don't let her experience scare you!

I had had several abdominal surgeries (gallbladder, c section, kidney stone removal) and for me the sleeve was much easier. I was up and going quite soon after. So your experience wont necessarily be hers.

Be there for her and support her. I hope she feels better soon, but it doesn't mean YOU will have as hard a time of it!




Thank you.
I am doing the best I can.
We are both exhausted.

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Thank you.
I am doing the best I can.
We are both exhausted.

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That must've hurt when your daughter jumped on her. Poor thing.
Keep us posted and try to get some rest.

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That must've hurt when your daughter jumped on her. Poor thing.
Keep us posted and try to get some rest.


Will do.
My poor wife cried when our daughter jumped on her then our daughter cried real bad.
It has been a rough couple of days.

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It does get better! I'm only 5 days post op and was not prepared for the pain after surgery at all. It was a rough 48 hours, and I too had buyers remorse and wasn't sure if I had made the right choice, but I did. Hang in there, each day gets a little bit easier!


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I had the same thing. I wasn't prepared for so much pain, but it gets better within 2 weeks and back to normal by 6 weeks. Seeing results is what gives you the boost needed.

36yo Male

HW:308
SW:302
CW:228

Sleeved 01/30/2017

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Hi All,
Just wanted to provide an update.
My wife was sleeved yesterday and she is in a lot of pain.
We were not mentally prepared for how much pain she would be in.
She has had two C sections, gall bladder removed, appendix removed and hiatal hernia repair and handled those like a champ.
After sleeve surgery she is miserable.
She is having buyers remorse.
I am scared as my surgery is in August.
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The day after surgery I was extremely miserable. I would not talk to anyone. The nurses had a hard time with me, but they were extremely patience with me. The next day was better, talking more and walking more. The day after much better. Each day is better, two months out I have no regrets. Everyday is still a challenge, and this is not easy by no means, but I think it was worth those fews day of being miserable in the hospital.

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How's she doing today? Did you manage to get some sleep?


She is feeling a little better.
We both got some sleep.
Our kids are being ornery, I think cause they have been cooped up in the house too much.
We are taking it one day at a time.

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