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I don't really mind at all...... but I think it's funny hardly anyone comments on my weight loss.

I know the first pounds aren't really noticeable- but I've lost 43 lbs now !

Again, I'm not bothered by it- but it's strange because the very few people who have said something - say what a huge change !! How can that be when others don't even notice lol

Anyone else have this happening ?

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You did this for you, forget about what other people think. Weight is a touchy subject, some people might not want to hurt your feelings.

I haven't gotten many comments either. I generally feel awkward when someone wants to talk about my weight, even if it's a stranger making a comment while handing my drivers license back. Just weird... 😶

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Lol..... your totally right ! I don't really care that much..... but it makes me question my progress - which is dumb.
I start thinking - hmmmm..... maybe I haven't changed yet. You know those head games?!??
I totally agree with you that weight is touchy - and that's probably it. And you are totally right about talking about it - it's almost easier when people don't say anything [emoji4]


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I've lost about 80 lbs now and most people at work haven't said anything. Many in my personal life don't say anything either. At this point it's pretty much impossible for people to not notice, so I think they just feel like its a touchy/inappropriate subject.

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I also see this with some people, but I think that people may think something is wrong with you being sick, so they refrain from commenting.

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I was so heavy that I doubt my loss was noticeable until I'd lost at least 70 lbs or so. Even now, having lost 230 lbs, some people I haven't seen in a long time don't say anything - although it's pretty obvious by their facial expressions that they've noticed. I think they're afraid I might have cancer or something and don't want to say anything - or else feel it's not appropriate to mention it.

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I worked at the same place with an elderly couple for 2 years I'm 6 months out, down 60lbs since surgery 99 since I started last January. A couple weeks ago he finally says I just noticed you've lost weight, whats happened. Really took that much lol.



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If someone sees you everyday they may not really notice the weight loss. People at work don't say anything to me about it. However if I see one of my friends from the Veterans of Foreign Wars (VFW) who hasn't seen me in months they will say something (after they finally recognize who I am).

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Not a single person noticed I had lost weight until I was down 43 pounds. Then the only reason why another person noticed was because they overheard me telling the first person that I had lost 43 pounds lol. Then they just said "oh that's great". I wasn't offended. I figured it would take my husband and kids forever to notice since they see me daily. I was a little surprised about others not noticing sooner and then i realized that I need to lose a total of 188 pounds. 43 out of that is just a drop in pond. I'm sure people will notice when I've lost at least half of my excess. And if THEY don't, at least I will.

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Some people will never notice or say anything for a variety of reasons. They may be too wrapped up in their own lives to care or notice or they may be fearful of offending you.

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