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I'm going through the steps needed for my insurance to be approved for Gastric Bypass, however; I am not having 2nd thoughts about having the surgery. I need to know if this is normal??

I am worried about how much my life is going to change, how much my body is going to change. I have been overweight since I was a child, about 3rd grade, so I have no idea what it's like to be skinny. I worry about how my husband will react/feel about my new body. Will he still love me/be attracted to me?

Can anyone tell me if these worries and 2nd thoughts are normal prior to surgery?

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It is rare to find someone who "regrets" weight loss - regardless of their circumstances. If you have always been overweight I understand your fear of the unknown. However, I think you will find happiness in the new you for many reasons: You will be healthier and feel lighter and have more energy. Your clothes will fit/look better. You will feel good about finally doing something for YOU. Your husband married you because he loves YOU not just your body (or at least I hope that is true) so he will be attracted to the person you become regardless of the changes in your body. It will be an adjustment - I don't know how much you have to lose - but I hope you and him will talk as you change and that he is supporitive of your decision. To answer your question these are totally normal feelings, yes. Good luck and stay positive. Your life is about to change for the better!

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