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Hello everyone i am four weeks post op today. I had my surgery Jan. 31.

My heaviest weight was 307. the day of surgery I was 290 and today, I am 268. I am feeling down because everyone else seems to be loosing much more. I returned to work 5 days after surgery I start working out 2 weeks after. I am following my plan to the T and staying very active. I seem to just be loosing very very slow and I do not know why. What am i doing wrong????????

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Don't be everyone if different ? you are doing fantastic ?Stay strong and keep up the good work . And think ov your goal ???????????????????????

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Ur welcome any time ?

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Wow, that is fantastic... 22 pounds in 4 weeks! You should be proud of losing that much. Try not to compare yourself to others.... we all lose at different rates. Also, you will most likely hit a "stall" sooner or later. Most everyone does... when I was at 3 weeks post op I stalled and didn't lose anything for 2 whole weeks. If and when that happens to you, just accept it and know that it happens to everyone.

Keep sticking to your plan and the weight loss WILL come, even if it is slow... you will just have to accept it. :)

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@Black2028, I totally understand you. My surgery was 2/8/17 and I was 284. I have only lost 11lbs. I am losing slow and following my plan. I thought the larger a person was the more he or she lose upfront. Apparently this isn't the case. I decided to stop weighing myself daily, stop comparing myself, and work the plan. Although, the scale isn't moving, I sure have lost a lot of inches! I am happy with that. You should be proud of yourself on your weight loss thus far. I know it isn't what you want to hear especially from people that has lost >30 lbs in 5wks...Hang in there!

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[mention=307913]Black2028[/mention], I totally understand you. My surgery was 2/8/17 and I was 284. I have only lost 11lbs. I am losing slow and following my plan. I thought the larger a person was the more he or she lose upfront. Apparently this isn't the case. I decided to stop weighing myself daily, stop comparing myself, and work the plan. Although, the scale isn't moving, I sure have lost a lot of inches! I am happy with that. You should be proud of yourself on your weight loss thus far. I know it isn't what you want to hear especially from people that has lost >30 lbs in 5wks...Hang in there!

Such a great attitude and advice!

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You lost .78 lbs a day. That's AMAZING!

This isn't magic, it won't melt off right away. It's going very fast and will continue to do so. Please don't be discouraged, especially with these kinds of results!!

My surgery was on 10/10, I have spent HALF that time not losing a single pound. But I keep losing inches, I'm working out as much as I can and I'm converting fat into muscle. This is not a linear straight line process. There will be ups and downs. I like to say our Metabolism is like an elusive mythical creature. It does what it wants. It doesn't like the body losing weight so quickly so it will slooooow down it's processes dramatically. And then be like OH DIP! I need to drop some lbs! and then whammo, you've lost 5 lbs over night. That's how it works for me sometimes. I just keep at it. Drinking my Water, running up the stairs as much as I can, eating Protein and staying away from carbs. This is gonna take about 8 -10 months if you keep at it dilligently and stay focused.

Don't let yourself get discouraged this soon with numbers like 22 lbs lost, that is a fantastic #! We have to take our wins and our weight loss with great joy whenever we can.

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Everyone loses at a different rate. That's the most important thing you need to remember. I'm a slow loser too, and i'm currently on my second stall, and even though i get a little bit impatient it doesn't phase me one bit. I know the weight will come off eventually.

You just need to be positive and think happy thoughts. The fact that you're even losing is awesome, isn't that the one thing so many people struggle to do and few can? Don't give up, just keep at it and it will only get better for you. Best of luck! :)

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22 pounds in a month is great! Plus you lost so much pre-op! I think I lost only 15 pounds in the first month and it continues to come off day by day. I have a NSV/ SV to share: I went to see my primary care physician on Friday for a physical. When the nurse was entering my stats into the computer, a big error box popped up saying that it was like a 30% change so she needed to reenter my weight. Hee hee what she'd entered was right. We lose weight so fast that even computers get confused! Hang in threre!

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