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This post is just to share and help me process/be aware. RS

RNY almost 11 months ago and overall things are tough but this has been a great thing.

This week I've had a lot of stress, some from good things, some from negative/bad things. Thursday I blew my calories and found myself doing some emotional eating. Finding way too much happiness in peanut butter.... Friday I worked to correct it and still am today. It is difficult some days!

I just need to remind myself, yes I do still turn to food sometimes. I need to be careful of that. I need to stay aware and make myself use other coping skills. Have to keep trying to change my mind/thoughts/behaviors. Probably always going to be working on this and I need to remind myself that is ok.

One bad day doesn't undo all the good. Just need to learn from it and not run from it. Needed to get this out and think it through, admitting and owning up to it.

If you have any strategies that help you, I'd love to hear them!

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There's a few obvious strategies, of course, like not having the problem foods in the house if possible. But that's not always something we can control. It really is about the proven neurological effect sugar, salt, and fat has on our brains. Once I understood that, through books and documentaries, I had better coping strategies, because, let's be honest, willpower never works alone.

Some people go cold turkey off those things, others wean themselves off, and some learn how to portion them in a way that doesn't trigger cravings.

Add that to counselling, and you have the psychological tools to go with the physical one of WLS.

Keep posting here, and keep moving forward. You can do it.

Edited by Cindi_Augustine

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@AnneElliot I'm with you, the mental struggle is absurdly difficult! I wish you the best your battles too. :)
@Cindi_Augustine - I agree good counseling can make a world of difference and is a great tool. Thanks for cheering me on. :)

To the others who liked my post, thanks! Sometimes it is really cathartic to speak about something to then move on and up. Grateful for the support. :)





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On 18/02/2017 at 0:03 PM, Pazza said:

This post is just to share and help me process/be aware. RS

RNY almost 11 months ago and overall things are tough but this has been a great thing.

This week I've had a lot of stress, some from good things, some from negative/bad things. Thursday I blew my calories and found myself doing some emotional eating. Finding way too much happiness in Peanut Butter.... Friday I worked to correct it and still am today. It is difficult some days!

I just need to remind myself, yes I do still turn to food sometimes. I need to be careful of that. I need to stay aware and make myself use other coping skills. Have to keep trying to change my mind/thoughts/behaviors. Probably always going to be working on this and I need to remind myself that is ok.

One bad day doesn't undo all the good. Just need to learn from it and not run from it. Needed to get this out and think it through, admitting and owning up to it.

If you have any strategies that help you, I'd love to hear them!

That is a good reminder... one bad day does not undo all the good. I still have about 30 to 50 pounds to go but I am stuck at the weight I was when I was 12 years old. I live on a semi liquid diet still after so many years. I had a vertical gastric stapling.. this procedure is so old that it is no longer performed. If I knew then what I know now I never would have had this done. It has been nothing but grief!

It is true though that if the childhood issues are not resolved it is difficult for one to move on in adulthood.

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