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You had me scared there! Ok, glad it was just brash typing. Tell ya what, while you are waiting, go to your local health food store and ask for some homeopathic anxiety stuff. It might help [emoji4]

I had BAD post partum depression, and took Depressaquel for it. Helped loads! Might be hard to find, but there are others...

Good luck! You can do this!





I'm just so scared that I’m beyond help.

That I'll be so depressed about this decision I made.

That I'll be idealizing reversal forever.

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I am actually watching youtube videos by MadeUpMama as we speak. Watch her 6 week post op video, then her 32 week video. Maybe it will help...

(they are long, but you will get the gist after just a few minutes so don't have to watch the whole things)...



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Iv just had my gastric sleeve Done on Monday I'm not going to lie I woz pooing myself I'm now in recovery at spire hospital I go home tomorrow I think it will be the best decision you will make it's a new journey in our lives good luck keep me posted if u need to ask me out feel free x

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Good luck [emoji6] hope all goes well

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Yay! Glad you will have a group to talk to!

And, of course, goes without saying, you are NOT beyond help at all! This, too shall pass.

Do you remember a time several years ago when you were really angry? Just furious? Are you still AS angry now? (If yes, then choose a different time!) Hopefully you don't even remember what it was about.

Time really can make things look and feel different. Right NOW the initial excitement and healing phase of the surgery has passed, but your body and mind have truly just begun the work of the beginning of the rest of your life.

The fat is being broken down, releasing tons of stored hormones and chemicals. The scale might slow down as the body adjusts, and your mind is under a huge strain.

Those videos of Mama shows this. At 6 weeks she is angry, rather than anxious, so it may be easier to recognise how her fears seem a bit "bigger" than they need to be. By 32 weeks, she is no longer angry or fearful, and you can see her calmness. Her body and mind had the time to get used to her baby tummy.

Even though time will help, you need something to help you through this NOW. Thus meds and counseling.

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No one can imagine how hard a journey will be until they live it. And the journey is different for each of us. You are going to do great in your journey, even if it does have some rough Patches.

[Hugs]

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Most of the folks I see posting about regrets or being overwhelmed or not feeling good are within the first several months after surgery. So it's normal to feel this way! But you do need to ask for your surgeon's help (like with the insomnia) and take advantage of support stuff like therapy, support groups, posting here, etc.

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I'm trying to think of what I can write that would be useful. I'm 130 pounds lighter and 18 months post op. I can pretty much eat everything. This surgery is not a life sentence of no fluids and applesauce. Make sure to take meds Vitamins and sip Water and Protein Shakes. You don't have to be perfect your body will heal but you must get some rest. Try and get some walks in and realize you have 1 year to lose most of your weight. This is an opportunity not a curse. Take this year to lose what you can and get healthy. After that it will about maintaining and losing maybe a few more pounds. I'm amazed at how much I can eat now and not gain weight. It was the best decision I made for my health and relationships in all ways.

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      1. summerseeker

        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

        Now I have a whole new big, bigger, biggest, best days ever. I am out there with those skinny people doing stuff i could never have dreamt of. Food is now an after thought. It doesn't consume my day. I still enjoy the good home cooked food but I eat smaller portions. I leave food on my plate when I am full. I can no longer hear my mother's voice saying eat it all up, ther are starving children in Africa who would want that!

        I still cook for family feasts, I love cooking. I still do holidays but I have changed from the All inclusive drinking and eating everything everyday kind to Self catering accommodation. This gives me the choice of cooking or eating out as I choose. I rarely drink anymore as I usually travel alone now and I feel I need to keep aware of my surroundings.

        I don't know at what point my life expanded, was it when I lost 100 pounds? Was it when I left my walking stick at home ? Was it when I said yes to an outing instead of finding an excuse to stay home ? i look back at my last five years and wonder how loosing weight has made such a difference. Be ready to amaze yourself.

        BTW, the liquid diet sucks, one more day and you are over the worst. You can do it.

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