Post op depression, is there such thing?

[ZenDog 2]

11 hours ago, sherly86 said:

I am 4day post op and hate everything about what I have done. I feel weak and sick all the time.


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I'm a little farther out than you: post-op day 5 here. Remember, you just had MAJOR surgery. (I am a health care provider so I chose to really minimize what I'd had done but it's a big deal.) You had a significant portion of your stomach removed. You and I both feel weak and sick right now and that's REALLY normal. Give yourself a chance to recover. (I'm giving myself a similar pep talk--not so much about hating my decision but about being more realistic about what I just put my body through.)

This too shall pass. Although I am not recommending it after the decision you and I made for ourselves, we can choose to fail the sleeve too. There are people who make unhealthy food choices, stretch out their sleeves and gain. I just tell myself that I have no idea why I would do so after going through the recovery we are now experiencing.

I guess this is more of a stream-of-consciousness response than a pep talk but I just wanted to tell you that you are not alone and this is very temporary. Your job right now (as a very smart colleague told me) is to drink to prevent dehydration, sleep, and poop--in other words, heal!

I hope you hang in there.

Dianne

[bv33 1]

I am so glad i found this page, i am in the exact same boat. but i am not feeling loss of food, i am feeling depressed that i am NOT GOOD ENOUGH LIKE I AM. why do i feel that way? why do i feel like just because i am not thin i am a bad person??? why do i feel the need to put my body thru pain, scars, and spend a fortune taking Vitamins the rest of my life when i have already lost 65 lbs on my own doing it the old fashioned way??

i gave up soda 5 years ago. i eat healthy foods, i walk every day, i feel like i am already losing nutrients from food, i miss spinach. i miss grapes.

why am i putting mysefl thru all of this???? because my insurance wont pay for a breast reduction surgery until my bmi is under 34 and i need to lose 33 lbs to get to that point, and i havent lost any weight in over a year. i have maintained the loss i already had and i am a overall healthy person, no diabetes. i sit and think about those changes and do i really hate myself and my body so much that i want to have loose sagging skin hanging off of me instead of the full stomach and breasts i have now??? this whole thing is really taking a toll on my mind. i feel very less than human.

Edited February 27, 2017 by bartval30

[bv33 1]

food means nothing to me!! Before I started the liquid diet a week ago, pre-op prep, I ate the same way everyday. I had my whey shakes after working out, every single day, I walk. I ate salad, I ate lean meat, I ate fruits and veggies. I ate healthy, and when I walked, there was a smile on my face, I felt good, I knew I was doing something healthy and something I love.

Since beginning this liquid diet, I feel like a complete failure. I never had strong food cravings the way I am now. and I am sure its mostly mental. I chose this because my doctors and my insurance co will not recommend me or pay for breast reduction surgery until i reach a certain weight. and i need the br surgery to alleviate back and neck pain. they will not consider helping me with this physical change to help my pain, however they will pay for me to have wls so that i can lose the weight, then hope and pray they will do the br surgery. i envision my body with the weight gone and i wonder if its worth it to have all this loose hanging skin and have to undergo even more surgery???? i am not that far from reaching 200 lbs and just takes longer doing it the old fashioned way. so i chose surgery. by default. 8 days to go.

[Karinpiet 0]

I am almost 3 weeks post op and I have been on soft foods stage since day one after surgery as requested by my surgeons. I am realizing as well how important food was to me and I do get head hunger pains a lot. I am scrambling for new recipes as I am tired of eating the same thing. I can't wait to I can have vegetables, but that's not until month 3. Some days I eat less than they want me to and I gain a few ounces and other days when I eat more, I lose a pound. I have been plateauing between 182.0 and 182.8 for the last three days. Ugh its so frustrating and I start getting down on myself.

[tfarr 270]

Yes it is possible, with all the hormones flying all around now, it's bound to happen. It happens to the best of us.
Me anyway [emoji1]


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[joannrmn 20]

I am 6 weeks post Sleeve and I can totally relate to everything you are feeling. Before I decided to move forward with this surgery I thought I had done my homework and got feedback from others who had done the surgery. But no one could have prepared me for this. There are many a days where I regret this decision and wish I could turn back the clock. I tell myself why didn't I try something else..etc. Feeling cheated,..deprived and horrible feelings of hunger and thirst. At this point I am suppose to be introducing solids, but I can't seem to eat anything.. chicken .. tuna fish .. eggs none appeal to me. So I am living off fruit .. soup.. oatmeal.. Protein Drinks occasional thin fat free ham . Many tell me it will get better.. I cry a lot.. wonder if I will ever enjoy a meal again even in smaller portions. Can anyone tell us.. DOES THIS GET BETTER!.. If so .. how long post surgery... My reasons for having it done was also to get healthy.. was almost 300 pds.. but at this point I am weak.. exhausted with no energy.. I feel like my body is being starve... Nothing I try eating appeals to me .. two bites and its over. Can't even tolerate Water which I loved to drink all day long.. HELP..

[Karinpiet 0]

Just this morning, I was staring into my refrigerator wondering what I should pack to bring to work today. Nothing appealed to me. So I packed the usual... Cottage cheese, Yogurt and 2 slice of ham rolled up. I think I will be happier when I can at least add vegetables to my diet, but can't do that until 3 months out. The hunger pains always kick in when I smell pizza or fresh bread and it takes all of my will to not eat it. Then I get depressed as I return to eating my usual chicken drum stick or whatever unappetizing food I eat. But I know I have to keep plugging along because I was even more depressed being over weight and not feeling healthy. I was told the first 6 months will be hard. I still don't regret having my surgery as I already feel healthier and can breathe better and this was the exact reason why I chose this path. So Everyone who is having the same feelings we just have to hang in there, It will get better eventually.

[joannrmn 20]

Thank you for your feedback.. I pray everyday this will get better because for all of us who embarked on this journey our purpose was to become healthier.. All I want is to be able to nourish my body so I can regain my strength and be able to exercise. For whoever is thinking about having this journey.. This is very hard... its permanent and you can't take it back. So unless your ready to completely give up all the foods your use to eating everyday for EVER!.. think about very carefully. ..

[Sullie06 1,047]

I had a lot of regret during the first few weeks. I felt like I was no longer normal, I felt like I lost part of my social aspect of life as there is little to do here besides going out to dinner and I missed being able to just eat what I wanted. I've never been a big comfort food eater but I was definitely a lazy eater. It was much easier most nights to just pick something up for dinner and I thoroughly enjoyed going out to dinner. As the days passed and I was able to eat more I felt a bit better. I'm a little over 2 months out now and I no longer regret my decision. I miss my relationship with food, I miss the ease of being able to just pick up a sub or pizza or McDonalds but I've tried to begin to build a new relationship with food. I've also forced myself out of my comfort zone. I've gone out to dinner a couple of times now and I've realized that I'm not much different than my friends. I used to feel self conscious when I was in an eating situation, like everyone was noticing that I could eat Appitizers, Entrée and Dessert but most of my friends could not. Now I leave food on my plate and have left overs to enjoy later. I'm the thinnest I've been in 20 years, I'm healthier, my knees don't hurt, I can keep up with my 3 year old and I'm 1 step away from no longer needed to seek out the plus sized clothing. It's worth it.

[joannrmn 20]

I too am feeling better overall.. no longer have horrible pain from the inflammation throughout my body,.. can walk without gasping for air..and feel better about myself overall.. But my issues at this point in the process is that I cannot tolerate a lot of the food I should be eating at this point. Everyone tells me it will get better but If I am not eating how am I going to progress to were I need to be,. Am I just expecting to much at post 6 weeks.. ! Living off fruits.. Soups.. oatmeal.. eggs.. fluids.. nuts and some cheese.. That is all I can tolerate at this point. I recognize this is what is causing my depression.. regrets.. I am lost and don't know what to do!

[Sullie06 1,047]

Have you spoken to your surgeon about your inability to tolerate different foods? Maybe there is another underlying issue that needs to be addressed?

[Berry78 4,261]

Limited foods won't kill you. Protein, Vitamins, and Water along with what you can eat will do just fine.

[joannrmn 20]

I see my doctor next week and will let him know. I know limited foods won't kill me but it's about the nutrients I need for energy that concern me. I am already doing my Protein drinks.. fluids.

[joannrmn 20]

Thank you all for your support it really means a lot..

[joannrmn 20]

One other question..! I find myself hungry within two hours or less.. does that happen to anyone else. I try to snack on fruits.. nuts.. .is that ok