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Mother had successful WLS but talking me OUT of mine



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That was her issues. Yours could be completely different or be none at all. It varies from person to person. I have been lucky with no problems at all. I have taken no pain pills since leaving the hospital , had no issues with gas , and I've had no problems with not tolerating a food. I am 2 weeks post-op and have lost 38.2 pounds , 25 on the pre op diet and 13.2 post op. There is every chance that you could be more like me and less like your mother. If you think this is a good option for you and that you can use the tool appropriately I would go forward no matter what she says.

HW 385 SW 359 Sleeved 10/5/16

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When is the last time Mom had her nutritional panel done. It is the single most importatnt thing you do following bariatric surgery.

Vitamins and follow up are life long commitments. I would definately ask her that question, it could simply be a nutrient that is out of whack.

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I would take what your mom says with a grain of salt and have the surgery. She's a mom, after all, and doesn't want to see her "baby" suffer.

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@@Malin Not telling you what to do..... but i gained 10lbs to be at a 40 bmi.... and would do it again. gain 10 to lose 100.... hell yess

You have to leave your mom out of this situation.... she is not you. You have to make your own choices... Every surgery is different and you may not experience what she is

I did too. I had BMI of 38 for 20 years. I let my beast off the chain a little and gained 15 to qualify. No shame, no regrets. 8 months out and have lost 100lbs. Plus, I ate all of my fav foods during the gain time and got the funerals out of the way.

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Thank you all for taking the time to reply. My surgery is now scheduled for December 13--the same day she had her own surgery a few years ago. After more talking she's decided I have indeed thought this through. She's now supportive. And now we have the same sleeveaversary!!!!!

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Thank you all for taking the time to reply. My surgery is now scheduled for December 13--the same day she had her own surgery a few years ago. After more talking she's decided I have indeed thought this through. She's now supportive. And now we have the same sleeveaversary!!!!!

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That's awesome. It is nice when things work out as they should!

Best wishes!

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