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It's entirely my own fault that I'm still so heavy. I'm definitely not a model patient. I feel foolish. It's been nearly 4 years to the day that I had VSG and more than a year since converting to bypass (started gaining). I'm down nearly 150 lbs from where I started, and I'm glad about that, truly, thrilled, just scared of the future (possible regain).
I know it's done and I can't change the past, so I have to stop beating myself up about it. Still, it sits heavily on my heart that I've screwed it up. I hadn't planned to try and have this done, but angry at myself for missing this opportunity. Plus, good grief--why have I sabotaged myself so many times? (singing..l...let it go....let it gooooo)

I talked to the surgeon's office. The nurse actually suggested that I change insurance companies with the new year and get to the good BMI then lie about how long I've been there. With other illnesses and emergency care, our insurance has been good to us, so I don't see us changing, but I found it interesting that they'd suggest it.

As it stands, I'll continue to try losing and keeping it off. I can't guarantee that I'll stay at the same weight for a year, but I can and will get to below 35 BMI and go from there. Hopefully that guideline won't change and when it comes time, I'll meet any other criteria they have. I've told my husband--Guess that means by my 50th birthday (2018), I'll have a new tummy. (I know it isn't, but gosh, 2018 sounds so far away, but goodness, 50!?! Egads!!)

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Really appreciate everyone who has shared their experiences, advice and photos.

If/when I have it done, I'll share mine also. It really does help. I started imagining what it might look like--what I might look like, how it would feel to not have so much stomach to carry around, to try and work into a pair of pants, etc.

Again, thank you all!

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It would really be in your best interest to get a handle on your self sabotage, otherwise any plastic surgery would be a waste and insurance will probably only pay for it one time. Maybe some counseling?

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Thank you, TheRealMeisHere, I may have misspoken. Please don't think I'm self-destructive, not at all. I just need to be more pro-active in reaching my goals instead of passive. Not just weight-wise, but in many things.

It's crazy, really. Something for someone else and I'm all over it, above and beyond. Something for me and I procrastinate or let it slide til the cows come home.

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Hello there! I just love this forum! Such good advice from different people with different situations. I had the lipoabdiminoplasty done 3 days ago. I highly recommend getting one of those recliners that sit you up and lay you down electronically. My husband found it online at Walmart and was a fraction of the price of everywhere else, even Craig's list. Spanx shorts to breast has worked really well for me and you can still wear it for smoothing afterward. My abdominal compression garment isn't long enough cause I have a long torso. I went to the medical supply store and bought another one for $30. I hope this helps and good luck!

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Hello everyone, I will be a year out October 26th and due to the rapid weightloss my stomach skin hangs. My insurance is Cigna and the coverage states it's not covered for skin removal, unless medically necessary. Has anyone successfully had Cigna to cover Tummy Tuck or anything for the abdomen area. I have rashes now I'm the folds of the skin, and have to constantly utilize antibiotic creams to gain relief. Wanting to know if anyone can give me some advice or doctors in Atlanta to handle my case.

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Thank you, TheRealMeisHere, I may have misspoken. Please don't think I'm self-destructive, not at all. I just need to be more pro-active in reaching my goals instead of passive. Not just weight-wise, but in many things.

It's crazy, really. Something for someone else and I'm all over it, above and beyond. Something for me and I procrastinate or let it slide til the cows come home.

It's a woman thing! We all jump to help another but feel selfish for doing what we need to do.

You really do need to learn to take care of you or you won't be able to take care of anyone else. Many people get help with the emotional aspects of overeating, as the changes need to be lifelong. You want something that you can feel good about and do long term.

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It's been a long while since I first posted these questions and received so many helpful answers. For my insurance to pay, I had to get to and remain at a bmi under 35 for a year. I was able to get there and remained for longer than a year (plus had to wait scheduling with two surgeons, etc.), but it's done now. HolyMotherOfPete was the pain bad. Not all the time and not the incision, seriously, all numb there, but the abdominal pressure and spasms. Coughing/sneezing are murderous for a few days. I had some complications with a few things, but also a big reaction to the bandages--blisters everywhere. Apparently, I'm allergic and didn't know it.
Anyways, as so many great people have shared theirs, I'm sharing my results.
Thanks again to everyone.8dayspostop.2.thumb.jpg.da0b1c55191be20e803c81bcd9de7f89.jpg

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You look amazing!!!

My sleeve surgery will be on August 1st! I pray I won't need skin removal surgery but am pretty sure I will at some point in the future.

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