Bad News First
“Do you you want the good news first or the bad news first?”
My weight loss surgery journey is full of good news! With every appointment, support group meeting, and pre-surgery milestone met, I am filled with hope, encouragement, and potential. I’m spurred on by small successes and know that there is much more good news coming my way. I am so excited to share with you guys all the things I’m looking forward to following a successful weight loss surgery experience! But I feel like it’s only fair that we also take a look at the not-so-good stuff.
The Bad News
I carry experiences as a result of obesity that are/were, at times, absolutely devastating. I’ve spent years yo-yo dieting, emotional eating, and sometimes feeling badly for even existing! We live in a body-shaming culture and it can be absolutely maddening to try to meet societies ideals or to exist having not met them. I don’t know how to fix our culture but I do know how to stop letting what that culture says about my body have any bearing on my choices!
Below is a list of 15 ways that being obese has negatively impacted my life. Some of these realities may continue even after significant weight loss, but I trust that some can be put behind me for good!
Daily pain in my feet, joints, and back
Periods of exhaustion or low energy
Fear of having children due to high risk of weight-related pregnancy complications
Fear of increased risk of heart disease, hypertension, type 2 diabetes, strokes, etc
Very poor self image at times
Increased depression
Increased anxiety
Skin rashes from overlapping skin
Having a less and less responsive immune system
Experiencing repeated bullying as a child and adult
Humiliation and pain from squeezing into seats and booths
Trouble finding clothing that I like (non-cotton, roomy, affordable quick dry clothing anyone?)
Embarrassment when publicly receiving unsolicited weight loss advice
Overhearing rude comments about my body
I want to make something clear: I love my body today. I’m not having weight loss surgery because I hate my body. My mental health care team and I spent more than a year training my brain to love my body just as it is. It was HARD work. Through that process I realized I feel badly for my body. I would NEVER talk to someone else the way I talked to my body. I have been SO mean to my body for SO long. I have learned so much about self-care in the last two years. I practice being patient with my body and listening to it so I can give it what it needs. I don’t always succeed, but it’s an effort I’m committed to. Yes, I’m having an elective surgery to anatomically change the size of my stomach only because I love my body. I’m get to choose what I do with, to, and for my body because I’m the person who was put in charge of caring for it.
If you find yourself hating your body, I encourage you to reach out to a mental health professional today—and keep reaching out until you find one who is patient and gentle with you!
Nourishing Heather