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I am about 2.5 years post op and have lost almost 150 lbs. Well, i stuck and still want to loose a little more. Problem is that i am totaly unmotivated. I lost my job in December and feel into a pretty bad depression. I stoped working out and even though i am still eating very little, i eating all the wrong things. Oh and i have gone back to myemotional eating which consists of a lot of grazing

I am looking for support to get be back on track and any sugestions on how to get out of this unmotivated place. Someone out there is bound to have had similarfeelings. Thanks for reading my post and any thoughts would be appreciated.

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Congratulations on the weight loss. You have done very well.

I am sorry for the job loss. Believe it or not, even though you are going through a rough patch right now, someday soon you will be able to look back on this time and see a blessing in disguise. Are you currently job hunting?

Sometimes for me, taking baby steps in a positive direction is all it takes.

Are you seeing a counselor or therapist? Are you attending a bariatric support group? Have you considered attending Overeaters anonymous or similar meetings? Do you belong to a gym or fitness center?

Get out your calendar for this week and make plans to attend an exercise or other class (check your local library or other community center for free classes -- fitness, art, career, or something else that is interesting to you), make an appointment with your NUT, and plan to attend a support group meeting.

In the meantime, go back to basics. Track your food, make sure you are getting in all of your Protein and fluids, avoid starches, added sugars, and fried foods, eat mindfully, and take your Vitamins and supplements as instructed.

Have you talked to your PCP about your depression?

Keep us posted on how you are doing.

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I am so sorry you are feeling depressed. I have since I can remember & am on mediation. Some days are better than others. I have been grazing more during my bad days also. Getting away from the house or finding something you like doing helps me. Walking really helps. Put on some music that you like or just simply try to get out in nature. Try to look at the beauty out there & know that you are loved by a higher power, call it God, Allah, Budah, or whatever you feel comfortable with. You are not alone. I know it's difficult having been where you are in regards to not having a job. I found that just sitting under a tree & breathing in that beautiful air helps. I would just imagine myself laying in God's hand & no, I am not religious...it helps knowing you are not alone & you are loved. If you can, try & get out and do some volunteer work, esp I where there are children. Perhaps opening up a little business where you are making things that don't cost much, say making jams or crocheting.....something to keep your hands busy & most importantly your mind, & hopefully make a little money to help you until you find other employment.

You may have to do something different than what you regularly do, but it seems that's the way of the world now....you know the saying ....we have to be bendable trees & go with the the wind & if we try to fight it, we break.....well something like that....but u get me, I think...take something that may be lesser in terms of what u r used to, to keep busy & to bring in some money, until things pick up...it's the same all over this world...it's just crazy out there...but it will get better...focus on the positive...I know it's difficult, but it's the best you can do for you.

Things will change & you will look back on this a stronger person. Nothing stays the same...everything is cyclical...what goes down must come up. You're gonna come out of this fine, just try & think positive. You have done great.....don't go back, it's not worth it. You have done so much & it's been a tuff road so pull yourself together & realize how much you deserve by not giving up on yourself....things will get better

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