First Time Dating... Ever


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On 7/26/2016 at 10:27 AM, Steph0625 said:

I'm pretty sure I have resting b*tch face when I'm at the gym

Sexy! :lol:

So, uh, how did you meet your wife?

Oh dude, I was at the gym and there she was, sweating with this resting b***h face! Love at first sight man!

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Dating is hard so I personally have given up on it. Doesn't seem to be worth the effort and I can't even get a date. Emailed 117 different women and not a single response. I'm trying this at 32. OP is only 22 so there is still hope. I decided to foster animals for a local shelter. All the companionship I need right there.

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Dating is hard so I personally have given up on it. Doesn't seem to be worth the effort and I can't even get a date. Emailed 117 different women and not a single response. I'm trying this at 32. OP is only 22 so there is still hope. I decided to foster animals for a local shelter. All the companionship I need right there.



Why don't you start going to the animal shelter volunteer/fundraiser events? They tend to be crawling with single ladies.

To be honest though, from reading your poats, it sounds like part of the issue is confidence. Unless you're copy and pasting the worst message ever or only messaging yoga-instructor-models, I can't imagine you didn't get at least one reply out of 117.



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10 hours ago, ursusmaritimus said:


Why don't you start going to the animal shelter volunteer/fundraiser events? They tend to be crawling with single ladies.

To be honest though, from reading your poats, it sounds like part of the issue is confidence. Unless you're copy and pasting the worst message ever or only messaging yoga-instructor-models, I can't imagine you didn't get at least one reply out of 117.


Meeting strange people face to face does not work for me. I had been diagnosed with social anxiety disorder in the past before I even gained weight. I'm much more comfortable talking online. Once I can build a relationship online, I can then move face to face. All my email messages are different. I always ask about something in their profile. The women I email I would consider normal. I search for ones who identify themselves as curvy or full figured. Some have even written in their profile they're trying to lose weight. I can tell they read my message, read my profile, and then nothing.

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I'm weird so my approaches were:

- Don't ever date. If I just wanted a one-nighter with someone, don't need a dating facade to get some. Be nice, show interest, and an interested woman will come forth.

- The best relationships I've always been in, i knew the person well in advance of taking that step.

I think of the dating scene to be far too much like a job interview. People always put their best foot forward. I think of it as phony. Then PersonA gets involved with PersonB, they believe what they experienced on the date is going to be what they get in an actual relationship. They wind up finding out that's far from the case.. most can't handle that. I sure as hell couldn't. People play games, mind gymnastics, etc. because they don't know the other person, or because they're scumbags. I've been engaged 3 times and all 3 times I knew the person well.. each relationship lasted about 5 years before this one -- only once have I been married and I'm happily in my 7th year of marriage.

I just never saw the dating scene as fun. I'd much rather be alone and tug the timber or deal with an occasional one nighter, or just chill with friends, than waste money and time on fake people. Far better things to do.

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