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As my mindset is changing, I'm cutting a lot of negative people out of my life. Has anyone gotten rid of any friends ?

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Yep...

And not just friends...

I've ended relationships of all types in the 17 months since my op...

And I've not regretted doing so for even a second...

I'm all about me...

I'm doing what I've gotta do...

I've surrounded myself (to some degree) with people who are supportive...

My people...

This isn't for everyone of course...

But it's what I needed to do...

If you want/need more info, flick me a PM...

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Yep...

And not just friends...

I've ended relationships of all types in the 17 months since my op...

And I've not regretted doing so for even a second...

I'm all about me...

I'm doing what I've gotta do...

I've surrounded myself (to some degree) with people who are supportive...

My people...

This isn't for everyone of course...

But it's what I needed to do...

If you want/need more info, flick me a PM...

I also find myself doing this and I feel good about it.. Coming from the person who always wants friends. But now I can care less.

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Yes got rid of a friend who was also going to have gastric bypass. She was very negative all the time and I think bc I got my date first she became jealous. And tried to start stuff like I'm jealous bc I don't have a man, or tell her other friends what I said but deleted her comments back to me. But my days without her are sooooo much better by far!!

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I haven't really ditched anyone post-op, but people have distanced themselves from me, and that is cool. Like my lifestyle is really different now than it was a year ago. Everyone isn't active and into the things I am. I don't mind, people grow apart.

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I haven't ditched anyone on purpose but lost all my friends in my current divorce process

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Yes got rid of a friend who was also going to have gastric bypass. She was very negative all the time and I think bc I got my date first she became jealous. And tried to start stuff like I'm jealous bc I don't have a man, or tell her other friends what I said but deleted her comments back to me. But my days without her are sooooo much better by far!!

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I'm glad that you are doing good without negative people in your space!!

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I haven't really ditched anyone post-op, but people have distanced themselves from me, and that is cool. Like my lifestyle is really different now than it was a year ago. Everyone isn't active and into the things I am. I don't mind, people grow apart.

That's very true. I've informed my friends on what will be going on & they are taking a healthy journey with me.

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I haven't ditched anyone on purpose but lost all my friends in my current divorce process

I'm sorry that you've lost all of your friends, I've heard divorce is a long stressful process!

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I held off telling anyone after I decided to start my journey, now that I only have my cardio clearance left to submit I'm more opened to talk about it with friends and family

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