stress and WLS or in other words when bad things happen

[heidikat72 935]

I am so sorry to hear of the loss of your father. Three years ago I lost my boyfriend and father within 4 months of each other. Undeniably the worst period of my life. All I can offer you is let yourself grieve and also allow yourself to still experience joy without guilt. That last one was hard for me, for a long time I felt horribly guilty if I had a good day. Also, don't expect to go back to your "normal" state before the loss of your dad. You will never "get over it" - it used to make me so mad when someone would say 'it's been x amount of time, you should be over it already". What will happen is you will figure out how to go on and define your new "normal".

Many hugs to you. Take care of yourself and be kind to yourself during this time.

[JustWatchMe 7,117]

I am sorry for your loss. Please take gentle care of yourself.

JustWatchMe

[Djmohr 6,965]

@@Christinamo7

I am so sorry for your loss. Losing a parent is very difficult and even more so when it is so sudden.

Having lost my mother way too soon, the only advice I can give you is to be good to yourself. Take the time you need to truly grieve.

The loss never goes away but it does get easier to deal with as time passes.

My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

Hugs.....

[LipstickLady 25,682]

I am so sorry to read about the loss of your father. I know there are no words that can ease your heartbreak and I can't imagine what you are going through.

Hugs and healing to you and your family.

[silverthreads 183]

@Christianmo7 I too am so sorry for your loss. I lost my Dad last spring after a long illness. While it was expected it still left a hole in my heart. I can't imagine the shock of losing someone you love so suddenly.

Your feelings of not wanting to do anything are perfectly normal and only human. Don't fret over natural feelings. As others have said so well take it one day at a time. Find strength by knowing your father loved you and was proud of you. He'd want you to be strong and stay the path.

We all find ways to deal with our loss. I threw myself into my work--perhaps not the healthiest response but on reflection its exactly what Dad would have done. I've also spent a lot of time visiting Mom and trying to help her in any way I can.

Notice too all the love around you--your many friends on this board is only the tip of the iceberg I'm sure.

We all feel powerless to help in times like these. Just know that we're all here in your corner, ready to help you in any way we can.

Many hugs...

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[Julie norton 2,850]

I am very sorry for your loss.

You might expect to be a bit numb for a while.... Do your best to have a few healthy options around..... Try to walk or do anything you like just to move a bit...

Just know you will feel this deeply and ..... Since one of our coping mechanism is not there( overeating, mindlessly snacking, etc) you might find it coming in big waves of emotion.

Hoping you can catch your breath inbetween.

We are here to listen.

[Christinamo7 4,042]

thank you everyone. I am sorry for everyone of you who has also experienced such a traumatic loss - but to know you are all still going on is, well. it's good to know.

[freelee 128]

I am so sorry to hear about your dad's passing. He would want you to be focused on moving forward while preserving your precious memories of your time with him. You can only take small steps as your progress through your grief.....choose each step carefully and wisely. I am an only child helping my mom move from AL to IL to be near us. This is very hard too, and I have been struggling with food for the last two weeks here.....but I know I have to make smart choices for myself to be here for my mom. And I've done pretty well on the eating and exercise each day. Keep posting if you feel like you to release some stress. We are here for you.

[goplay94123 576]

So sorry for your loss.

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[FocusOnMeNow 599]

@Christinamo7 - Very sorry for your loss. A lot of major losses and stresses have been the reason why many of us became emotional eaters in the first place.

@@VSGAnn2014 - Wow...that is the perfect list for the OP and for all of us.

[OzRoo 1,492]

@@Christinamo7

So very sorry for your loss. I hope you have loving and caring people around you, and that you find the strength to look after yourself.

My Dad has been ill for a long time now, and he lives far away from me.

I am really worried about him, and worry when I don't hear from him. I myself have been too sick to travel, and life is tough at the moment.

I can only imagine how a sudden death of a parent could feel. Please accept my condolences.

I have had financial stress and stress from my ongoing auto-immune disease issues.

For me, if I get too stressed, it kills my appetite, and I forget to eat.

I try to force myself to have Proteins and stay hydrated.

Lots of great advice and support have been given here.

All my best wishes to you.

[sharkgirl 251]

I'm very sorry for you loss of your Dad. Please be kind to yourself.

[j16 166]

I'm so sorry for your loss - keeping you in my thoughts and prayers. This has a physical impact on your body as well as an emotional one so treat yourself gently similarly to when you were recovering from surgery.

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[Steph~L~16 168]

There are just no words that can help, but I'm so sorry to read what you are going through. Please continue to take care of yourself and your family and I will pray for strength & comfort to you all.

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[butterfly23 423]

@@Christinamo7 thinking of you and your family and sending you lots of prayers. I imagine the shock is wearing off so please continue to surround yourself with loved ones and support.

I lost my brother 6 months after WLS and while you know eventually you will get a chance to test your new skills with a crisis, never thought it would be so soon. I am sad you are finding this out yourself, but from all the posts I've read from you and been inspired by, I know you will continue to thrive even though your loss is so huge and unexpected.

Thanks for keeping us updated.