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Family totally against my surgery

GinaCampbell

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hopeful one    86

hopeful one
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I hope it all works out for you . I think all of our children would be worried for the surgery but she will probably be fine once you come thru the surgery fine and you are losing weight and getting healthier. Just let her know you wouldn't be doing this if you didn't think it was going to help you. GOOD LUCK.

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chrisredjeep    357

chrisredjeep
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From one grandma to another thinking of you this morning best of luck coming to you. After the op if you can , try to walk a little bit. Just see how you go. Lots of support here for you. Let us know how you get on

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Sugary Sweetheart    97

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Gina we all care about you and the surgery you're deciding on having... please post soon because you have a whole group here waiting to hear from you and cheering you on... Prayers for you! Big hugs!!

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GinaCampbell    434

GinaCampbell
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For all of your support, thank you. Tomorrow is one week post op. I regret having it done as I have said. I don't miss the food or eating but I miss the simplicity of life before.

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rubia72    200

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You have to do it for you. I called a family meeting and let my children know what I was planning to do and then let them express their thoughts and concerns and even though some were not sure I should do it they all agreed to support me in my decision. No one should use children to hurt you, that's very sad. Sorry

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Cape Crooner    589

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For all of your support, thank you. Tomorrow is one week post op. I regret having it done as I have said. I don't miss the food or eating but I miss the simplicity of life before.

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You are facing months of work, but it will be unlike any other Weightloss effort you've been on in the past:

1. For the next 4-8 weeks, you don't have to think a lot about what to eat (or not), you just follow the plan.

2. Unlike other diets, the pounds will drop away like magic - doesn't that sound nice?

3. Unlike other diets, you'll be adding more variety and quantity each week.

4. Once you reach you're goal, your life will be much simpler than ever before. You'll be able enjoy food without the fear of overeating. You will have to make smart choices, but by then those choices should be ingrained in your brain!

You will live to rejoice this decision and it will be sooner than you think...

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GinaCampbell    434

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I had a good day yesterday, first one 10 days post op. Today I am exhausted. I'm not in pain except gout and a headache. Wounds healing. And managing 3 ounces of Soup or yoghurt 3 times a day and Water the rest of the time.

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Heather I    500

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@@GinaCampbell, please keep us posted. I have confidence things will improve quickly for you and you'll feel better. I hope your daughter swings by to check on how you're doing and mends fences:-)

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GinaCampbell    434

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No. My daughter works fulltime and has a severely disabled child plus a 4 year old. I won't see them again until I can drive and my immune system can handle it. There aren't any fences to mend. She and her husband do not believe this surgery was right for me because of my own disabilities. They were right. I wish I had listened. My neighbour had a gastric bypass which she also regrets. I didn't listen to her either. I was determined to do this seduced by the idea of weightloss. 11 days post op, I still regret it.

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jaxmom    644

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Oh no!!! What's going on? I am really rooting for you to do well. Here is a hug for support. O

Please keep us posted. Do you just not feel good?

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GinaCampbell    434

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Thank you. No. I have a bowel condition and now can't keep anything in and I hardly get 200 calories a day as it is. I am weak and exhausted. My disabilities make simple tasks exhausting anyway. I never estimated the amount of time and effort just staying alive would take. I am cold and shaky too. Yesterday was better because I got some yoghurt in but overnight that just caused massive issues. So can't take in anything with milk in, no yoghurt, no Protein. Just black tea, Water, and oxo. I can use imodium to stop it but then I can't even drink Water, too full. But my wounds are healing.

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      1. LeighaTR

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        I hope your surgery on Wednesday goes well. You will be able to do all sorts of new things as you find your new normal after surgery. I don't know this from experience yet, but I am seeing a lot of positive things from people who have had it done. Best of luck!

    • Alisa_S

      Alisa_S

      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      1. summerseeker

        summerseeker

        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

        Now I have a whole new big, bigger, biggest, best days ever. I am out there with those skinny people doing stuff i could never have dreamt of. Food is now an after thought. It doesn't consume my day. I still enjoy the good home cooked food but I eat smaller portions. I leave food on my plate when I am full. I can no longer hear my mother's voice saying eat it all up, ther are starving children in Africa who would want that!

        I still cook for family feasts, I love cooking. I still do holidays but I have changed from the All inclusive drinking and eating everything everyday kind to Self catering accommodation. This gives me the choice of cooking or eating out as I choose. I rarely drink anymore as I usually travel alone now and I feel I need to keep aware of my surroundings.

        I don't know at what point my life expanded, was it when I lost 100 pounds? Was it when I left my walking stick at home ? Was it when I said yes to an outing instead of finding an excuse to stay home ? i look back at my last five years and wonder how loosing weight has made such a difference. Be ready to amaze yourself.

        BTW, the liquid diet sucks, one more day and you are over the worst. You can do it.

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      Officially here for a long time, not just a good time💪
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